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Cai Kangyong once said, "you are what you say."

when communicating with people, you should not only pay attention to what you say, but also control your tone.

is the most accurate thermometer in a person's heart, which can reflect the most real self-cultivation.

A person's tone is what he looks like in his heart.

your tone reveals your self-cultivation

author Ruosong Yaji wrote a book called "upbringing, starting with changing your tone of voice."

in her book, she especially emphasizes: "A person's self-cultivation can be known by his tone of voice."

A person with a big tone is aloof when he speaks, never worrying about other people's feelings, and will only attract disgust from others in the end.

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once talked about an eldest sister at work.

she has worked at work for many years, and because of her seniority, she often yells at her colleagues.

A new young man respectfully asked her for advice a few days ago.

who knows, she didn't even look up and said in a loud voice, "it's so simple to ask me?" You're not looking for a relationship, are you? "

the young man was immediately choked and speechless and felt very aggrieved.

seeing this, others hurried over to comfort him.

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at this time, the eldest sister added coldly, "look at you!"

after hearing this, the young man ignored her and quietly returned to his seat.

because of her mean tone, the eldest sister offended many of her colleagues, and slowly everyone alienated her.

in real life, many people never pay attention to discretion in their speech and do not consider the feelings of others at all.

between a few words, it will cause great harm to others.

in fact, a bad tone is a double-edged sword, which will not only slander others, but also push them away from you.

truly educated people know how to put others at ease, and always speak with the right temperature and goodwill.

in the first issue of the Poetry Conference, a rural uncle took the initiative to participate in the competition because he loved poetry very much.

after spending all his life in the countryside, he was very nervous when he stood on such a big stage for the first time.

the host Dong Qing read it and immediately said softly:

"because that poem, like a little green in the desert, has always brought him some hope, some craving, watering it with limited water, slowly breaking the soil and growing again until today.

so even if you get the wrong answer, it's still the most beautiful mistake in this scene. "

Dong Qing's words, such as a gentle breeze and light rain, not only relieved the uncle's tension, but also let the uncle off the psychological burden, do not worry about the wrong answer will be embarrassed.

as the ancients said, "only when you have a good mind can you spit out the fragrance of lotus in your mouth."

those who are humble and polite often speak softly and can take care of other people's feelings in their words.

A man's tone of voice is his upbringing engraved in his bones.

be kind-hearted and warm-hearted in order to avoid conflicts and gain comfortable relationships.

your volume reflects your personality

Liang Shiqiu said: "it is instinctive to speak loudly and civilized to speak in a low voice."

the volume of a person's voice, although it is only a small detail, can reflect your character.

when I was working in traditional media, a colleague Xiao Wang was famous for his loud voice.

once, when a program was recorded in the station, the leader arranged for Xiao Wang and another colleague to be responsible for the recording, and the two had different division of labor.

Xiao Wang is mainly responsible for the early script and shooting, while another colleague is responsible for the later editing.

after the film comes out, the style is very different from what they agreed at the beginning.

there is only one day left to hand in the film.

Xiao Wang was anxious on the spot and shouted at the top of his voice, "Why didn't you understand when you communicated very clearly before?"

all of a sudden, the whole unit heard, gave up their work and stared at them.

the other party was very embarrassed when he saw the situation, so he reminded him to keep his voice down.

who knew that Xiao Wang roared again: "are you afraid of being known about what you have done wrong?"

the other party immediately got angry and quarreled with him directly.

as a result, the film was not cut out, and the relationship between the two was still very stiff.

writer Liang Shuang once said:

"I feel more and more that speaking loudly is not generous, but indifferent to the feelings of others."

if you lower your voice by a few degrees, you can increase your happiness several times.

because shouting will only push each other further, whispering can bring each other closer.

there are many people in life who think that if they speak in a loud voice, they will be more powerful and able to convince others.

in fact, others will only think that you are irritable and difficult to get along with.

speak too loudly and too harshly, and finally appear full of malice.

understand that a high note is piercing to the ear and a low voice pleasing to the heart.

when you start whispering and know how to control your volume, life will naturally be more amiable.

your tone is what you look like inside

host Cai Kangyong has always been a typical representative of high EQ and good popularity in the entertainment industry.

he has made his debut for decades and has hosted many programs, but it is rare to see a domineering posture in him.

someone once asked him why you can still speak so softly in a debate.

Cai Kangyong explained: I am just talking with my heart, and my heart is calm and natural.

the so-called phase is born from the heart, a person's tone is also a true portrayal of his inner world.

people who are gentle and rich in heart will naturally make people feel like a spring breeze when they speak and behave.

and some people with extreme personality and poor soul tend to shout and be full of sarcasm when they open their mouth.

in the Outer History of the Scholars, Zhou Jin, an old boy in his sixties, is a famous local teacher.

once, several parents invited him to dinner and invited Mei Jiu, a young man who had just been a scholar in the middle school, to accompany him.

when sitting down, the weekly progress is the largest according to age, so you should sit at the top table.

but Mei Jiu said contemptuously:

"according to the rules of the school, scholars are not allowed to rank their ages with children. But let's forget it today. Let's invite Mr. Zhou to the table. "

is a word of humility, Mei Jiu's sarcastic tone makes the scene very embarrassing.

parents rushed to save the scene, but Zhou Jin gently thanked him and praised Mei Jiu.

later, when Mei Jiu heard that Zhou Jin only ate vegetarian food, she told another joke that a scholar ate only vegetarian food.

when the story was over, he didn't forget to satirize: "like my eldest brother this week, he is so talented, of course he won't stay."

before he had finished speaking, he burst out laughing.

Zhou Jin had no choice but to say "yes".

since then, Mei Jiu, relying on her own status as a scholar, never gave a good tone to others, so she became worse and worse.

because of his gentleness and courtesy, Zhou Jin was later funded by his fellow villagers and eventually became a high-ranking official.

the poet Ben Jonson once said, "language can best expose a person." As long as you speak, I can understand you. "

A good tone is a person's inner appearance, which can leave a good impression.

in life, learn to say "can you do it?" Replace it with "you can do it!"

how did you get back? Replace it with "you're back!"

put "can't you?" Replace it with "Let me tell you something."

socializing with people and speaking calmly can make people physically and mentally happy.

A person who can control his tone is to put makeup on his mind.

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, though subtle, has the power to hit the hearts of the people.

as Master Xuecheng said, "the life in your mouth is your life."

speak in a good tone, you can have a good luck in this life.

May you and I speak with a yardstick and a warm tone for the rest of my life, and be able to live like a fish in water everywhere.

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