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once saw a street interview, the question is: are you willing to marry a poor boy who loves you very much?

A girl replied: if I had money, I would.

but in my opinion, if the gap between two people is too big, we should consider the marriage more carefully. Never hold the idea of love first and easily marry a partner who does not match your value, that is, the so-called lower marriage.

because it is impossible for two people with unequal values to achieve harmony just because of love.

in the recent hit drama "the bottom Line", Qin Ling's experience is sad.

she is a music teacher with an urban hukou and an organization, while her husband's family is not well-educated, but she is smart and eloquent.

when they got married, because of the poor conditions in her husband's family, she paid for a house and added her husband's name to the house book at the request of her parents-in-law.

she thinks that if two people want to be together for a lifetime, it's okay to pay more.

but the truth is, instead of being kind to her, the mother-in-law looked at her coldly and said evil words to her because they had no children for a long time.

he was never kind to his adopted granddaughter, and even abandoned his child at the railway station.

when her husband failed in his business, he threw a pile of mess at her and tried to secretly sell the house to pay his debts.

later, when Qin Ling suffered from cancer and died, she wanted to divorce and save her property to give her mother and children the greatest protection.

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in order to get the house, the husband deliberately procrastinated and let his parents come to the door and cursed her with vicious words.

finally she got a divorce, but her life came to an end.

therefore, do not just regard "being nice to you" as a reason that can be entrusted for life, and do not easily choose a person who is inferior to you in all aspects just because of temporary emotion and softness.

in addition, the other party's family circumstances and family style are particularly important, because when a boy is insufficient in other aspects, he will unconsciously have the so-called inferiority complex.

in order to be with you, you can only please you with cheap emotional value or occasional small favors and deceive you by writing empty checks.

or use some of your shortcomings to suppress you desperately in exchange for a sense of inner balance.

and once you keep a low profile and choose to marry down, no matter how good your qualifications are, you will be looked down upon by your partner or your partner's family.

take what you give for granted, even more demanding and demanding.

Love is a matter between two people, but marriage has never been. In a real life full of firewood, rice, oil and salt, love is not enough to drink.

Jane Austen once said: "in marriage, it is absurd to think only about family means, but it is foolish not to think about them."

Marriage is a well-matched and evenly matched marriage. This refers not only to the matching of economic conditions, but also to the spiritual level, including the concept of life, whether the three values of morality can be reached.

for example, an old friend of mine, she and her husband have been married for many years but still have a tacit understanding.

A friend likes painting, so her husband often accompanies her to an art exhibition. Her husband likes tea, and friends go to learn the art of tea. In their spare time, the two can enjoy tea and chat together.

friends say that marriage is to find a person who is in tune, with similar values and a consistent goal in life, so that there will not be so many stumbles and stumbles together, and only in this way can marriage be happy for a long time.

therefore, when girls choose to marry, they must be a little more realistic.

never fall in love with your brain, let alone try to be a god to save others from the darkness.

you need to find a boy who has a perfect personality and good qualities, who matches your values, so that he can bring you positive emotions and a better life.

maybe life can't avoid chicken feathers, but I still hope that everyone can find someone who is worth staying with for life and sharing the wind and rain.