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at the beginning of love, everyone yearns for a happy and complete marriage.

it's just that, with the passage of time, some people turn marriage into a happy look that everyone admires, while others struggle in a bitter marriage.

Marriage is like drinking water, knowing whether it is warm or cold.

whether two people are happy or not, the details will not lie, nor will the three places in the family.

whether a couple is really in love or not, just look at these three places at home, you can see at a glance!

Kitchen, hiding the temperature of marriage

writer Chen Dacao wrote in "but a bowl of fireworks in the world"

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Life is nothing more than'

eat and drink

" chews life delicious and makes life delicious, often not only by the mouth, but also by a heart soaked in smoke and fire in the world.

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mundane and trivial marriage life is inseparable from firewood, rice, oil and salt, as well as smoke and fire.

A good marriage does not have to be vigorous. Three meals a day in ordinary life are gentle and moving enough.

and the pyrotechnic kitchen hides the greatest happiness of a family.

there is a question online: "how to solve the problem of who cooks for husband and wife?"

there is a user

@ smile

, share your story:

he said that as long as you really love each other and put yourself in each other's shoes, this should not be an issue that can be discussed.

when he first got married, neither he nor his wife could cook. He started to learn to cook first.

my wife gave birth to two children, then went home to be a full-time wife and learned to cook.

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now he doesn't want to cook, but his wife disagrees.

because, in the eyes of his wife, the greatest joy of the day is to cook a delicious table and watch him and his two children eat heartily.

sometimes he and his son go to help his wife wash vegetables or dishes, and sometimes his wife accepts them gladly and sometimes pushes them out.

but most of the time, he pushes his son out and his wife cooks.

this is the time when they are rarely able to carry their children behind their backs, and they have the feeling that when they were in love, they were alone and away from the crowd.

the kitchen is the dojo of marriage, and the temperature of the kitchen is the temperature of marriage.

the kitchen is deserted, and the marriage will not be too happy to a large extent;

the kitchen is steaming, and marriage is probably a warm and harmonious picture.

some people say that marriage has gone through romantic romance and reached the reality of firewood, rice and salt.

but the warmth of firewood, rice, oil and salt, the fireworks of one porridge and one rice, is it not a kind of happiness?

the smoke and fire in the world is the most appealing to the hearts of the people.

maybe everyone's marriage will end in romance and end in mediocrity.

but please believe that those marriages soaked in fireworks can withstand the passage of time and the changes of the years.

bedroom, hiding marital attitude

I have heard a sentence:

"the quality of communication between husband and wife directly determines the intimate quality of marriage. if there is a lack of communication, the feelings between husband and wife will become cold and estranged."

for two people in a marriage, the bedroom is not only a place to sleep, but also the best place to communicate.

before getting ready to go to bed, share their interesting stories and talk from the heart, even if it's just unimportant "nonsense", it can also relieve the tiredness and running of the day.

bedroom, witness each other's feelings, but also hide each other's attitude towards marriage.

every time I revisit the TV series "the World", I am always moved by the love of Zhou's father and mother.

they seldom say love to each other, but their love for each other is reflected in their daily relationship.

I remember that once, when Zhou's father came back from out of town, facing his wife whom he had not seen for a long time, Zhou's mother was extremely happy.

before going to bed, Zhou Ma chatted excitedly with Zhou Dad:

Chunyan's mother told me that her TV is seldom on, so why does she save all her TV programs and watch them with her old man?

what I have saved for many years, I want to tell you.

in the days when they gathered less and left more, their concern and concern for each other never diminished.

the time during the day is used to worry about the family affairs of their children, and the time before going to bed is the best time for them to talk to each other.

in the communication between you and me, the feelings are getting deeper and deeper.

blogger

@ seven gentlemen

put forward the "12-minute marriage theory":

Don't quarrel with each other for 4 minutes in the morning. More compliments are the beginning of a good day. Hug or kiss before you go out is the power to fight against cruelty.

come home from work for 4 minutes to talk about something relaxing. You don't want to talk when you are tired. You can sit together in a daze.

4 minutes before going to bed at night, talk about love words or interesting things in the day, don't talk, hold hands and go to sleep quietly. In addition to language, the body is also an expression of love.In a way.

it's hard for us to love each other eight hours a day, but if we set aside 12 minutes a day to love, then the marriage won't be too bad.

in real life, how many people live alone and make marriage a cage?

is marriage really that painful and unbearable?

I think there is an answer in everyone's heart.

there is no difference between right and wrong in marriage itself. it is the person who refuses to pay and run the business.

just a sincere compliment, an affectionate hug and some simple "nonsense" can make the marriage better and happier.

these are the days. The feelings become stronger when we chat, and the marriage becomes better.

bathroom, hiding the details of marriage

John Gottman, author of Happy Marriage, said:

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the key to a successful marriage is not in a candlelight dinner or on a romantic beach, but in caring about each other and caring for the small moments of life.

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sometimes, it is not time or distance that beats a relationship, but trivial details.

although the bathroom is a small space, it hides too many things that husband and wife get along with.

whether the marriage is good or not, just go to the bathroom.

see a video on the Internet:

my husband saw that his pregnant wife was very hard, and it was inconvenient to bend down to wash his hair, so he bought a recliner to wash his hair.

after work, he washes his wife's hair carefully in the bathroom and dries it with a hair dryer after washing it.

not only that, he has basically done all the daily housework, including washing clothes, washing dishes, taking out garbage, and so on.

my wife said that although it is very hard to get pregnant, I still feel very happy to have such a husband.

under the video, some netizens commented:

"so, girls are not afraid of getting pregnant, but that no one is so considerate."

whether a person loves you or not, the details of life will tell you.

put away the dirty clothes after taking a shower, lift the toilet seat when you go to the toilet, and the garbage is full of garbage bags that you can change easily.

every detail hides the quality of a marriage.

American psychologist Willard Haley put forward the concept of "emotional account".

everyone has an account in mind.

every time you make the other person happy, you do something to make the other person happy, just deposit it in the other person's account;

every time you make the other person cry, frustrated, or suffer, you withdraw money from your bank.

with a lot of savings, many minor problems can be forgiven.

but if the bank is already heavily in debt, any little thing can become a big deal.

Love is saved slowly, and so is disappointment and dislove.

it is not the distant mountain that makes people make up their mind to leave, but a grain of sand in their shoes.

you will find that there are not many earth-shaking events in marriage.

there are only ordinary and vulgar daily life, trivial details, the collision of pots and pans.

A good marriage wins in the details.

A failed marriage often breaks down from the details.

Dong Yuhui, a teacher of New Oriental, once shared his understanding of marriage in the studio:

the best destination in life, choose a beloved, choose a city, three meals and four seasons, spring, summer, autumn and winter, spend your life ordinary and happy.

this may also be the vision of marriage for many people.

but I still want to say that in this world, there are no couples born with love, only lovers who are tolerant and considerate for love.

A long and secure marriage is inseparable from each other's hard work and hard work.

as there is a saying on the Internet:

"the best love can withstand wind and rain and keep ordinary. Maybe love is not enthusiasm or nostalgia, but years and months have become a part of life."

, may we all fall in love, live with heart, live up to the time and the people who love you in the ordinary and ordinary days.