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writer Maugham wrote in his book in his later years:

"the end of life is like reading at dusk, reading and reading, not noticing that the light is fading.

until he stopped to have a rest, he suddenly realized that the day had passed, it was already very dark, and he couldn't see anything clearly when he looked down at the book, and the pages were no longer meaningful.

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years go by in a hurry, and each of us will inevitably grow old and slowly move towards the end of our lives.

whether we accept it or not, getting old, it is everyone's necessary process, but also everyone's destiny.

when you are old and lying in a hospital bed, you will understand:

there are only three dearest people in the world.

partner

I have heard a sentence:

"the only person in the world who is not related by blood but is closest to us is a partner."

partner is the last audience in our lives.

when people are old, their parents will leave us first, their children will have their own families, and only partners can accompany us to the end.

there is a program that records such a true story:

her wife suddenly fell into a coma late at night, and 83-year-old Pang Desheng sent her to the emergency room alone.

looking at his vaguely conscious wife and all kinds of equipment in the emergency room, Pang Desheng, who had never experienced this before, stood in the crowd, looking particularly at a loss.

when the doctor asked if there were any other family members, the old man stumbled and replied, "my children are all in Xi'an."... "

it turned out that the old man had three sons, but they were all out of town, and only he and his wife of the same age stayed in Beijing.

when the children are not busy with their work, when the old wife who supports and depends on each other suddenly falls down, no matter how slowly the other person walks, he or she has to take care of each other alone.

this is not only the meaning of marriage, but also the most profound embodiment of "old partners of young couples".

about marriage, I have seen a share from teacher Luo Zhenyu:

he said that he had been particularly resistant to marriage and even planned not to marry for the rest of his life.

later, an old man's words changed his mind:

the meaning of marriage is that when I wake up at three o'clock in the middle of the night, I am thirsty, my wound hurts, I just need to stab the side, the old lady will know that I need water at this time.

just this sip of water, how much do you think it costs? If there is no marriage that has been run for decades, how can I get this expensive water at this time?

perhaps, the romance of young people is romantic.

and the romance of the elderly is inseparable from mutual support, but also from each other.

Life is long, and we will experience diseases, hardships, adventures and disappointments.

when you are young, you may not take it seriously, but when you are old, you will find that

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an old wife who knows both cold and hot, and a partner who supports each other, is the best we can rely on.

Children

in the hit drama "the World," Zhou's mother said to Zhou Bingkun:

Mom always thinks that you are better than your brother and your sister.

after your brother and sister left for 69 years, Mom felt that they were really gone and would never come back.

aren't you all at home? You are down-to-earth at home, mom.

Why do you say that?

because some children, like dandelions, will go far away to pursue their ideals or lives.

for example, Zhou Bingkun's brother and sister:

Zhou Bingkun's brother, high achiever from an early age, was admitted to Peking University and did not know his achievements.

Zhou Bingkun's sister was also admitted to Peking University and studied all the way to her doctorate, becoming the youngest associate professor at a university in Jichun.

they have their own careers and lofty ambitions, and they are not destined to stay with their parents for a long time.

therefore, the responsibility of taking care of parents falls on Zhou Bingkun, who works in his hometown.

when the mother was paralyzed in bed, the father supported the construction, and when his brother and sister left home, it was Zhou Bingkun and Zheng Juan who accompanied them to take care of them before and after the saddle.

those children who are away from their parents either for work or for love, sometimes they don't want to be filial, they also want to accompany their parents and give them a happy old age.

but often, filial piety is no match for reality.

the dilemma between work and life, the choice between the small family and everyone, there are too many practical problems, preventing them from going home to visit their parents.

you will find that when we are really old and need to be taken care of in a hospital bed:

We can count on not only our partners, but also our nearest children.

yourself

Ni Ping said in Grandma's Quotations:

"rely on the mountains will fall, rely on everyone will grow old, lean back and forth, you will find that in the end, you rely on yourself."

everyone is an independent individual, and everyone has his own life to live.

when our children are busy and our wife is gone, the only thing we can rely on is ourselves.

found a video on the Internet, and one of the words made people think:

parents always want to be Superman, to be the support of their children and to be by their side.

But after all, children are separated from their parents.

when children grow up, we are more dependent on them, and we have done little to help them.

now that education for children and grandchildren cannot be helped, there is a generation gap in daily life, and the running-in of three generations is better than respecting the habits of other people's small families.

excessive relationships can only be unhelpful and eventually become a burden on children.

so when the child grows up and we grow old, it is good to be silently behind the child, to be the rear of his peace of mind, to take good care of himself, and not to become a burden for him to struggle.

when she was young, Wang Yi's husband suffered a stroke and later developed hemiplegia and lost his ability to act on his own.

her husband was paralyzed for eight years, and Wang Yi took care of her for eight years.

at the age of 40, her husband died of illness, and her kind neighbor introduced her to her.

the other person is a college teacher who has never been married in his life. when he eats together, he expresses two meanings:

I won't help your son when he gets married; in the future, if I leave early, the house will be reserved for my brother.

Wang Yi saw that the other party was just looking for a free babysitter, so she refused.

, she stopped thinking about finding a wife, but focused on herself.

learn to drive, swim, make up, keep fit and do what you want to do.

now she lives alone in Thailand, walking along the beach with puppies in her spare time, or reading books and tasting tea. Life is simple and comfortable.

Mr. Yang Jiang said: "at any time, you should believe that only you can cure yourself."

people live a lifetime, rely on others, after all, there is no sense of security.

in the end, we can only count on ourselves, and the biggest backer is ourselves.

on the way to getting old, take good care of yourself, be kind to your health, and don't panic if you have savings in your hands.

then, try to be your best backer.

providing for the aged is a heavy topic, and it is also a problem that every one of us will encounter.

since you can't avoid it, you might as well make some preparations in advance to make your old age happier and more decent.

be kind to your partner, be considerate and tolerant of each other, and walk through this ordinary and extraordinary life hand in hand.

respect your children's choices, while loving your children, you should also remember to take good care of yourself.

take care of your health. Health is the guarantee of a happy old age. Don't take any chances. Treat minor ailments without delaying serious ones.

, may we all have a happy old age.

some people understand, some people love, some people accompany; not lonely, not lonely, not sad.

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