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as the saying goes, "nine times out of ten there are unsatisfactory things in life."

when you walk in the world, you will inevitably encounter annoying things.

but getting angry at will will not solve the problem, and it will hurt yourself.

it is only natural to have emotions.

only those who know how to control their emotions can lead a better life.

these three words can keep you from getting angry and see if you have it.

capacity

there is a saying: "the forest is big, there are all kinds of birds."

on the way of life, we will meet all kinds of people, some like and some hate.

therefore, everyone has people and things that they don't like, and they will inevitably have emotions when they encounter them.

being angry will only put you in a bad mood and affect your life.

in a monastery, a new little monk came.

because of her young age, Master pays special attention to him and asks him about his life every day.

on the first day, the little monk said angrily, "it was too fast to take my brother to dinner. He didn't even wait for me. He left me alone in Lent Hall."

Master said nothing but nodded.

the next day, the little monk said angrily, "that big brother talks so loudly that he always scares me."

Master still didn't say anything.

on the third day, the little monk was still angry, and he hadn't started talking yet.

Master said, "which brother made you angry today?"

the young monk said, "Today, those brothers were giving lectures without me. They left me there alone. I was so angry."

Master said, "since you came to the temple, you have been angry every day. Have you ever wondered why?"

the young monk said angrily, "those brothers have no room for me!" It makes me angry every day. "

Master shook her head and said,

"it never occurred to you that it's not that they can't tolerate you, but that you can't tolerate others, and you can't get used to it. You can't stand it. If you get angry every day, who can't tolerate who?"

the young monk bowed his head in shame.

if a person is not tolerant enough, he will always dislike others.

when you don't like others and can't change them, there will be anger in your heart.

Zhuangzi said, "No disregard of right and wrong, and secular affairs."

since we can't change others, let's change our attitude.

the eyes are broad and the heart is tolerant.

people who can tolerate others will not only have a good temper, but also treat others more generously, and their popularity will naturally be good.

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such people will be more comfortable in life.

forget

once saw such a question on the Internet:

Why do some people become happy while others are depressed when they experience the same thing?

A highly praised answer said:

"because some people don't take troubles to heart and only remember happy things, while others always remember those troubles, so they are not happy."

in this regard, I take it for granted.

if you want to be happy in this world, you have to forget more; if you want to relax, you have to let go of more.

according to legend, in ancient Greek mythology, there is a great hero named Hercules.

one day, he was walking on a rugged mountain road. When he came to a place, he found something very scratchy on the soles of his feet.

he bowed his head and found that it was a bag the size of a stone, so he stepped on it curiously. Not only did it not break, it swelled up.

he did not believe that it could not be broken, so he kept stepping on it, and the bag kept expanding as if he had demonstrated with him.

Hercules was so angry that he picked up the stick and tried to break it, but it was of no use.

he was so angry that he stopped walking and tried his best to break the bag, but it was still useless.

the strange bag was big enough to get in the way of Hercules.

when a wise man saw this, he advised Hercules, "my friend, don't touch it. It's a bag of hatred. The more you provoke it, the bigger it will become and stand in your way. Forget it and move on!"

Hercules did so, and the bag slowly became smaller and buried in the pebbles.

everyone's life will encounter some bad people and things.

if you always remember that it cares about it, it will torture you all the time.

just like when you are unhappy with someone, you will get angry every time you think about it, get worse, and affect your life.

when you forget it, move on, and look back on those things, they are little things that can no longer affect you.

therefore, life needs the wisdom of "forgetting".

forget those unimportant troubles and life will be easier.

width

Life, there is no smooth road, life, there are always twists and turns.

if the heart is concerned, it is winter everywhere; if the heart is relaxed, it is spring all the time.

Life, living is actually a process, living is a state of mind.

people in this life, there will be sunny days and rainy days, no one can guarantee that they will always be plain sailing.

neither of us knows which comes first, accident or tomorrow.

just like that old woman, one daughter sells umbrellas and the other sells cloth shoes. She has to worry about one of her daughters no matter whether it's sunny or rainy.

but after relaxing her heart, whether it was sunny or rainy, she was happy for one of her daughters.

that's what life is like.

instead of worrying and worrying, it is better to relax your heart and let nature take its course, and you will naturally be less impatient and angry.

to relax your mind is to be more tolerant, less concerned, more understanding and less narrow-minded.

Hugo once said:

"the broadest thing in the world is the sea, what is wider than the sea is the sky, and what is wider than the sky is the human mind."

just like Lin Xiangru, in the face of Lian Po's provocation, she did not choose to be angry, but chose to tolerate him.

Silence is better than voice, and it also makes Lian Po realize that he is reckless and apologize to Lin Xiangru.

it's like Zhang Ying received a letter from home, asking him to use his official prestige to fight for more space for his family.

instead of breaking face with his neighbors like his family, he let him be three feet.

when the neighbors knew about it, they gave way three feet back, and only then did they have the six-foot lane that they praised every day.

people often say that people are not born to be angry.

there are many trivial things in life. If you worry about everything, it will only make you tired.

you might as well relax your mind and let yourself have a better state of mind.

Don't dwell on one thing for too long, don't argue too much with anyone.

get along with others, be tolerant, interact with others, and be magnanimous.

if you hold a tolerant heart and be a magnanimous person, you will not get angry naturally.

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Darwin said:

"grumpy temper is one of the more despicable human natures. To lose one's temper is to take a step backwards on the ladder of human progress."

really smart people seldom lose their temper.

because they know that to be angry with themselves is to hurt themselves; to be angry with others is to hurt themselves at the expense of others.

then you might as well choose a happy life, tolerate differences, forget your troubles, and relax your heart.

it takes less than ten years to smile; sorrow makes your head white.

did you control your anger today?

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