duhaoshu

there is a saying in the Book of Rites: "if the water is deep, it will flow slowly, and if you are expensive, it will be late."

indeed, the more you experience, the more you will find:

there are many lessons in this world that talk too much, and there are also many cases in which evil comes out of the mouth.

really smart women often know how to shut up at the right time and be silent at the right time.

especially for the following three sentences, they would rather rot in their bellies than say them to everyone.

other people's gossip

there is a saying in the maxim United Wall: "sit still and often think about your own mistakes, and don't talk about others."

Smart women never take the initiative to gossip about others.

if you always put gossip on the lips of others, you will be involved in the whirlpool of right and wrong before you know it.

colleague Awen always likes to put other people's gossip on his lips.

at first, everyone only felt that she was warm and cheerful, and that she would never be left alone with her.

after a long time, someone found out that everyone in the office of the front foot knew what she had just said to her, and began to avoid her intentionally or unintentionally.

the most embarrassing time was a girl who broke up with her boyfriend because of her personality, but Aven was a rich woman behind her gossip girl.

the girl was aware of everyone's pointing, so she gave it to Awen in public.

in fact, everyone has their own life, and everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses.

instead of talking about others behind your back like a gossip, it's better to turn your attention to yourself.

after all, those who often talk about right and wrong must be right and wrong.

if you are always pointing fingers at other people's lives, you will eventually be eaten back to yourself.

and trust between people is also a piggy bank.

if you always make your friends' privacy public, your friendship will be lost and dilapidated in gossip.

if you want to live a stable and quiet life, you must learn to keep your mouth shut and keep other people's secrets secret.

if you want to have a long and comfortable relationship, you must learn to be a good tree hole and focus on the secrets of your friends.

grievances from the bottom of my heart

A really smart woman not only won't gossip about others and make herself a whirlpool of right and wrong, but also won't complain everywhere and make herself a Xianglin sister-in-law for everyone to hide.

after all, no one wants to waste their time on a pile of grievances.

for a time, my friend Xia Hua said that she didn't know why the messages she sent were always gone.

ask her what she sends to others.

she says that she always likes to talk to others about what anger she has suffered at work and what injuries she has suffered in her feelings.

at first, seeing her complaints, friends came to comfort her immediately.

but I don't know since when, it took a long time for someone to patronize her for a few words.

in the end, almost no one replied to her message.

she has been distressed for a long time. Is she so unpopular?

in fact, it's not that her interpersonal relationship is poor.

but everyone's life is a feather, and everyone needs to deal with the big and small feelings in life.

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if a person always imposes his own cloudy days on others, he will unwittingly disturb others' good mood.

Don't be an "energy vampire". Don't always show your wounds to win the sympathy of others.

you can be comforted for once, but no one is obliged to listen to you all the time.

after being aware of her own problems, Xia Hua began to change the topic to sharing the beauty of life.

friends also began to respond one after another, what is delicious, what is fun, what they are trying to do, what they want to achieve.

after a period of time, she found that those who were unhappy gradually turned into happiness, and those original grievances gradually disappeared.

you see, a really smart woman will never talk about her grievances to everyone.

they will turn discontent into the original intention of improvement, and they will turn complaints into energy for action.

Real family background

the third thing smart women don't talk about everywhere is their real family background.

after all, we have always been particular about "wealth is not exposed".

Lu Fu, you will incur jealousy before you know it; expose poverty, you will incur bullying before you know it.

people who are really good know how to make a fortune in silence.

remember that some time ago, a blogger posted a photo with his husband on a social networking site, together with his husband's income certificate, and asked us whether this was common property after marriage.

at first, some netizens advised her to delete it, saying that it would affect her husband's future.

but she thinks netizens are jealous of her.

unexpectedly, after showing off, she not only directly sent her husband to hot search, but even sent her husband on the road to leaving.

the movements of boys after leaving are unknown, but after such an operation, it is difficult to say that their relationship is not affected.

lookIn a word:

"when you are better off than others, do not show off to each other, because your edge will lead to the other person's loss."

perhaps, it causes not only loss, but also inexplicable malice and jealousy.

after all, not everyone in the world wants you to be better off than him.

showing off too much may satisfy your vanity, but it may also lead to unexpected disasters.

not revealing your true family background is the best way to protect yourself.

the more smart people are, the more they go along with the wind, the more they restrain their edge, the more they get something, and the more they keep a low profile.

you know, the person who laughs last is usually unexpected.

Hemingway once said, "it took us two years to learn to speak, but it took us sixty years to learn to shut up."

it is true that people are emotional animals and always want to express their inner thoughts through words.

but really smart people know what to say and what not to say.

praise can be blurted out, and slanderous words should be thought twice.

words of beautiful sunshine can be shared everywhere, and words of grievance and gloom should not be told to everyone.

if you keep a low profile, the more the better, and keep your mouth shut if you show off your wealth.

because you never know how powerful words are, both to yourself and to others.

, may you be sensitive to things, be careful in your words, do good deeds and say good words.

natto,