it is a terrible thing to be confused by emotion.

some men say vows to you in their mouth, but there is no place for you in their hearts.

even if he is always by your side, it doesn't necessarily mean that he loves you.

it may be his temporary pastime, greedy for freshness, or taking you as a spare tire to ride a donkey to find a horse, or he is lonely and empty and is used to your giving.

the following three things, men have not given you, most of them are not true love.

money

Jing broke up with her boyfriend.

before, her boyfriend always said affectionately in her ear that he would buy her a big house to live in and take her around the world.

Wei Jing was very moved and thought that her boyfriend would also prepare a present for her on Valentine's Day.

unexpectedly, when Valentine's Day arrived, my boyfriend did not make any move, but posted a few rose expressions on Wechat, saying, "Gift is light and affection is heavy."

Jing felt a chill in her heart for a moment, but she held back her emotions and asked half-jokingly, "can I have a small red envelope, too?"

some money needs to be wasted.

for example, flowers in festivals and gifts for birthdays can make trivial daily life more ceremonial.

more importantly, it represents a person's mind.

if when you talk about money, your boyfriend says that you are material. From a psychological point of view, such men tend to be meticulous. In fact, they love money most for fear of losing money.

if a man says that he loves you more than anything else, but pinches every penny on money, and usually eats with you, takes a taxi and goes to the movies, he insists on the AA system. There are two possibilities:

first, he is relatively stingy and is an egoist;

second, it shows that you are not important in his heart, you are not worth his money, he does not want you to take advantage.

I have to say that where the money goes, is where the heart goes.

A friend often complains that his husband is too frugal. He wears clothes and trousers for several years and only considers buying them when he is on sale. When he eats alone, he always eats easily.

but, on the other hand, she can't hide her doted happiness. Every time my husband comes back from a business trip, he will give her all kinds of surprises and usually let her eat more delicious food.

as a man, he is willing to give each other adequate material security and sense of security, and bear a larger part of his daily expenses, which is a sign of responsibility and responsibility.

if two people want to run a good life, don't worry too much about money, spend it together, carry it together, and try your best to pay for each other as much as you can afford.

capture the beauty of life in trifles and find the true meaning of love in firewood, rice, oil and salt.

name

two people have been together for a long time, he won't let you into his circle, you haven't met his friends and family, and he, who usually likes to post moments, has never developed your circle of friends unfairly. There must be something wrong with that.

in psychology, men are emotionally the same as males in animals, and they all have a strong sense of territory.

if he loves you, he can't wait to announce his possession of you.

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A man who does not bring you into his circle, does not disclose your relationship and becomes an invisible boyfriend is restraining his nature, indicating that he is "haunted" and cannot escape these reasons:

he doesn't like you and thinks that exposing you to the public will make him lose face. He is riding a donkey to find a horse.

you are just one of his girlfriends, and he still has some shady relationships.

without you in his future life plans, he naturally won't want to be responsible for you.

only when lovers disclose their relationship can they give intimacy a heavy guarantee.

if you have been in love for a long time, but he refuses to take you to see your parents, you should be careful.

it is unrealistic to ask a scumbag to take you to see his relatives and friends.

because he doesn't want to be responsible for you for a long time.

but when you really love someone, you can't restrain that feeling:

often want to express their love and share their joy with the people around them.

if a man will post something about you in WeChat moments, such as cooking together, your travel photos, your intimate photos, etc., or replacing the cover of your WeChat moments with your group photos, it is enough to show his preference for you.

because he wants to express his love, record the beauty he shares with you, and hope his friends and relatives get to know you.

know that the person who recognizes you will generously acknowledge your relationship, bring you into his circle, give you a clear identity, and yearn for the blessing of your family.

so don't be foolishly willing to be the woman behind him, always hiding in the dark and letting your heart have nowhere to rest.

until I was hurt to pieces, I finally realized that even if love accounts for eight points, I should keep two points for self-esteem.

Future planning

"isn't marriage a piece of paper? Why do you take it so seriously? "

Brother Wang questioned Maman.

the vine, who wanted to end the long-distance love run this year and married Brother Wang, wanted to cry without tears.

think about Brother Wang's previous changes in buying a car, buying a house and changing his job, he never asked her for advice, and even got some things from his brother.I learned that I was like an outsider from beginning to end.

when mutual friends ask about their future plans, Brother Wang is silent.

Man, on the other hand, always fantasized about marrying him and starting a family together.

they finally broke up.

Love will not last long if you don't talk about the future, and men who don't take responsibility are mostly unreliable.

he is like an egoist, thinking more about himself and the present;

the man who cares about you will become an altruist. He thinks more about you and the future.

Love is sharing as well as sharing.

the "love triangle theory" of Steinberg, a famous American psychology, emphasizes that "commitment" is one of the basic elements of good love.

the man who loves you will make a sincere promise in front of you and discuss with you when something happens. On the one hand, he respects your ideas and is willing to listen to your suggestions. On the other hand, you are always an important presence in his future plans. You always have a place.

there is a good saying:

"for marriage, the ideal state is not 'falling in love', but 'walking in love'."

Pengyu is recognized as a good man in the eyes of everyone.

when he talked about the future, there was a light in his eyes, saying that he would work hard, save money to buy a house, marry his girlfriend home, and plant her favorite mangoes in the yard.

he can't help talking to his girlfriend about his imaginary future:

the house is decorated as you and I like, go out at work and cook together after work;

there should be at least one trip every year. I will do the strategy in advance, and you will be in charge of being as beautiful as flowers.

after having children, we buy a lot of Lego toys and teach Ta to explore the world while playing.

A man who has a responsibility to his lover, a responsibility to his family and a plan for the future has the ability to resist temptation and keep his promise to you.

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what women want is essentially a feeling of being spoiled, cared about, and enough sense of security.

these three things all represent a man's attitude and action.

after all, a man really loves someone and will not hide this intimate relationship. He will rightly participate in your life and want to spend the rest of his life with you, watching flowers blossom and falling with you.

A good relationship is an open preference for each other, can stand the test of money, can stand the test of time, and still have love for their loved ones and expectations for the future after many years.