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like Jia Pingwa's sentence very much:

"people who will live, or those who achieve success, actually know the word 'willing'. Do not want to give up, the small house is small, the big one is big. "

when we were young, we always thought that the more we had, the happier we were.

as I get older, I realize that the most important thing in life is to choose.

all things in the world, gains and losses are conserved.

you have to give up something before you can get something more important.

the trade-offs are different for different age groups.

20 years old: give up the comparison, be yourself

in our early 20s, we often compare ourselves with others to find a sense of achievement.

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think that you should have what others have, and if you don't have it, you are inferior.

when you see that others come from a good family, you feel inferior that you are not from a good family.

when you see that other people have a lot of money, you blame yourself for being incompetent.

Carnegie said: "many of the troubles in life come from blindly keeping up with others and forgetting to enjoy our own life."

you know, everyone's florescence is different, so don't worry about others blooming one step ahead of you.

in this world, some people become famous when they are young, while others are late bloomers.

Don't upset your own position because of the rhythm of others.

take every step steadily in your growing up time zone.

one day, you will also welcome your own spring blossoms.

30 years old: give up comfort and strive for progress

Today's people seem to have turned their lives upside down, choosing comfort at the age when they should struggle most.

many people in their 30s commute to and from work step by step every day and seem to have achieved nothing except their growing age and fat figure.

people who like comfort, like the frog in warm water, because they are too dependent on the surrounding environment, when the crisis comes, they want to jump out of danger, but there is nothing they can do.

Lu Yao wrote in the ordinary World:

"everyone has a period of awakening, but the sooner or later of awakening determines one's fate. The sad fate of life is to be ambitious but wasted time; not smart enough, but used to procrastinating."

if you choose comfort at the moment, you will lose more possibilities in the future.

the current development is changing with each passing day. If you don't update your cognition, it's not a joke to be abandoned by the times.

while you are young, you might as well learn one more skill and one more guarantee to deal with the unknown.

in their thirties, less complaining, hard work, continuous accumulation, and being the best in the field can increase the strength to fight against life.

dare to break the circle and walk out of the comfort zone in order to climb the new ladder and see a higher world.

40 years old: give up social activities and seek health

40, he has entered middle age, ranging from the old to the young.

at this age, you have to bear heavy pressure and bear the expectations of others.

in order to provide for their children to go to school and to make money for the rest of their lives, they are busy socializing one after another and staying up night after night.

I have heard such a saying: "A person can do many stupid things in his life, but the stupidest thing is to ignore health."

take it for granted that whether a person is happy or not lies not in how much property he has, but in his health.

you know, the loss outweighs the gain if you overdraw your body in order to make money.

after all, my health is broken, and I can't buy it back no matter how much money I spend.

when people reach middle age, let the pace of life slow down, exercise and strengthen the body.

the rest of my life is still long, so you have to relax in the face of life.

A happy life for the rest of my life requires a strong body to upgrade and fight monsters.

50 years old: give up desire and know how to be content

in life, there are desires more or less, but once desires go too far, they become greed.

some people, who are cash-strapped, can see a new bag lipstick, gnash their teeth and buy it.

some people, whose families are well-off, dislike either that the house is too small or that the car is out of date.

this is the bitterness of desire in life. If you want too much, you lose the ability to feel happiness.

A celebrity once said: "if a man can restrain his desires and live a life without asking for anything, then he will be in control of his own life and his own destiny."

indeed, when you are not led by desire, you are in control of your own destiny.

if you don't know how to be contented, even if you have a lot of money and a lot of money, you won't be happy.

when you are alive, you will not have everything you want. If you learn to be contented, you will always be happy.

get out of the quagmire of desire, find a rhythm that suits you, calm down and enjoy life.

May you and I control our desires, don't be tempted to lose our way, and live a relaxed life.

60 years old: she is obsessed with fate

I have heard such a sentence:

"the key to a man's success lies not in what he has got, but in what he has let go."

Let go of past obsession, oneCut along with the fate, in order to make your life comfortable.

in the face of your partner, don't insist on arguing about right or wrong, don't be serious, be more tolerant;

in the face of children, don't interfere too much in their lives, don't worry about it, and encourage them more.

there is a saying in "the Sea of Life": "the sea of life, mountains and rivers, but er er."

people in this life, ups and downs, there are many uncertain factors, through Pinghu misty rain, across the years, you will eventually find that life is nothing more than this.

We can't avoid all kinds of regrets in life. We should learn to let go and make peace with ourselves.

some things let bygones be bygones and there is no need to recall.

some people, if they lose, they lose, and everything goes with fate.

although we can't change our destiny, we can choose what kind of mentality to face life with.

in this old age, pay more attention to yourself, take a walk with your friends or friends every day, play chess, and read books in your spare time.

such an ordinary and light day can also be very happy.

instead of clinging to the past, focus on the present.

Let go of your obsession for the rest of your life so that you can live at ease.

Mr. Nan Huaijin wrote in his book:

"Life is a spiritual practice. The real practice is not in the mountains or temples, but in the numerous and complicated social relations. Only by continuous practice can we face all changes with ease."

Life is a spiritual practice, which we gain while we lose.

only when you give up can you get it. If you don't give up, you can't give up. The choice is full of a person's life.

and those who know how to make a choice can finish the journey more smoothly.

May we all know how to choose and have a happy life at every age.

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