Yu Qiuyu once said: "as long as the pattern of human life is large, it will not sink in the trivialities of life."

ups and downs are the norm of life, no one can be at the top forever, and no one will always be confined to the trough.

the pattern of a person determines not only the height of his life, but also the end of his life.

people with real patterns do not disturb people when they fall into troughs, are not proud of themselves in high positions, and do not agree with each other and do not destroy people.

fall into a trough and do not disturb people

A hundred years of Solitude says: "the essence of life is to live alone, don't expect from others."

No matter who it is, it is possible to experience a dark moment, which is their own unique experience.

if you disturb others during the trough, you will not only get no help, but will even be punished by others.

Zhang Chi, the post-80s generation in the movie Flying Life, was once a famous car god in the racing world.

he, who has won the championship many times, was banned from racing for five years for illegal car racing on impulse, falling into a low ebb.

in order to survive, he has no choice but to run a fried rice stall, but he wants to return to the car industry all the time.

far away from the track, he watched an endless stream of new stars in the racing world, but he had been forgotten by everyone.

after the ban was lifted, he wanted to return to the game and decided to take part in an important game, but he needed a huge amount of start-up capital.

he found the team partners who had risked their lives together, hoping to get the sponsorship of their vehicles.

but I never thought that when those friends saw that his scenery was no longer good, they all pretended not to know him and refused to help.

he can only rely on himself. In order to earn money, he works hard to sell fried rice and even dance pole dancing on the stage.

No matter how hard and tired life is, it has nothing to do with others. You can only get through it by yourself and adjust your life to silent mode.

instead of relying on kindness to seek help from others, it is better to make yourself strong and be your own ferry man.

when people are at a low ebb, do not disturb others, redeem themselves, and live through their own joys and sorrows before they can be stable and far away.

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in a high position, not proud

Einstein once said: "when you despise anyone, you are not far from failure."

the most rare accomplishment of being a man is to be able to treat others in a low profile after seeing the vast expanse of the world.

when a person can be humble and low-key even in a high position, that is the closest to success.

Last century, in order to train useful talents, Cai Yuanpei accepted the invitation to serve as president of Peking University.

on January 4, 1917, Cai Yuanpei officially went to take office as president of Peking University.

as a sign of welcome and respect, teachers, students and janitors lined up at the door as usual to bow to the new headmaster.

according to past experience, the headmaster will only walk by with arrogance and ignore them too much.

all teachers, students and janitors have long been accustomed to this situation and are prepared to be ignored.

however, when Cai Yuanpei saw the crowd salute, he solemnly took off his top hat and bowed back to everyone.

this move shocked all the people present and made them feel great respect.

after that, every time Cai Yuanpei went out, whenever someone saluted, he would take off his hat and bow in return.

No matter what position he is in, Cai Yuanpei treats him equally and is respected and supported by everyone.

only shallow and ignorant people will be proud of their talents and lose their virtue when they make a little achievement.

at any time, we should not belittle others, belittle ourselves, and focus on others.

when people are in a high position, don't look down on others. Keep a low profile and learn to respect before you can be respected.

do not agree with each other and do not destroy people

there is a hot topic on Zhihu: "what is one's self-cultivation deep to the bone?"

one of them replied: "when you meet those who disagree, don't kill them all, leave some leeway."

things can not be done, to be able to maintain appreciation of people who do not agree with themselves, is the person with a big pattern.

there were two prime ministers in the Northern Song Dynasty, one was Sima Guang and the other was Wang Anshi.

Sima Guang is generous and upright. Wang Anshi is young and mature.

the two people are very different in their opinions, and they often hold their own opinions in court and argue with each other.

they all felt that they were better than each other and competed for each other, and Sima Guang was defeated in the end.

as a result, Sima Guang was able to retire from the world and live a natural and comfortable life.

later, Wang Anshi, who was determined to serve the country, was impeached and wanted to be punished.

Sima Guang said earnestly: "Wang Anshi has an open mind and is dedicated to serving the country."

although the two disagree and clash from time to time, they do not fall victim to a well when they are in danger.

when you are in conflict with others, if you blindly aim at each other and have to fight to the death, you will only lose both sides in the end.

the best way to live in life is to focus on yourself with nothing you don't like, no one you can't tolerate.

when you are at odds with each other, you must not do the absolute thing, learn to make concessions, benefit yourself and others, and then you can achieve yourself.

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Cloud in Caigentan:

"A gentleman's heart begins to show when things come, and things go away."The heart goes with the air. "

people with great wisdom, no matter what happens, can always stick to themselves and focus on themselves.

when people reach middle age, if they want to go further, they need to have a big pattern in mind. Only when they are open and pessimistic can they achieve something.

, the rest of my life is long. May you and I both settle down, calm down and wait for the flowers to bloom.