"I had no intention of spending my whole life with anyone, and I didn't want anyone to see a weak self. But now, I thank you, alone into the tiger's den, bravely to show. I believe that love has an afterlife. I know that love has an afterlife. "

Huang Jue's confession to his wife Maizi in "Goodbye, Love" made countless people cry.

their arrival is like a ray of light, giving countless people hope of love.

it turns out that true love is so beautiful.

11 years of marriage is still as sweet as ever, passion has not been worn away by the years, but more intense.

who would have thought that a staunch "unmarried man" like Huang Jue would completely settle down for a person?

but because that man is wheat, there is no suspense.

Mai in Huang Jue's eyes: she always surprises me

in an interview, the host asked Huang Jue and Maizi about each other's sustainable advantages.

Mai said, reliable, very reliable, serious.

and Huang Jue's answer is, it's not reliable. Because it is unreliable, it always gives me a lot of surprises.

as a senior young man in literature and art, Huang Jue is romantic and maverick at heart. Before meeting Mai Zi, he even thought: "the relationship that needs to be maintained by law is quite caodan."

and his girlfriends have always been goddesses like Xu Jinglei and Zhou Xun.

but even they failed to settle him down.

so, although I like wheat for the first time, I say, "I'm not going to get married."

unexpectedly, Mai gave him a straight look: "who wants to marry you? I have to go to school."

if you don't want to get married and want someone to give birth to a baby, everyone will scold the scumbag.

but Mai replied, "I can have a baby for you if you want. Even if you don't get married, it's cool to be a single mother."

he added that marriage is OK, but it is necessary to notarize the property before marriage.

Maze replied, "Yes, I'm not looking for anything else anyway."

Mai's answer seems to be "love brain".

in general logic, it is an unreliable performance.

however, it is this unreliability that melts Huang Jue's resistance to marriage.

he saw free and easy and brave in her arbitrariness. So, after ten years of marriage, he would say in front of everyone, "Thank you for running into the tiger's den alone and bravely."

if Mai hadn't taken that step bravely, Huang Jue might still be alone.

together, the wheat still surprises Huang Jue from time to time. In particular, her attitude towards life not only surprised him, but also felt very comfortable.

it is inevitable that there will be conflicts in life, but the reaction of Mai makes Huang Jue tell others over and over again that she is so special.

Huang Jue recalls that the only time they quarreled was Mai's birthday.

in the middle of playing, the wheat left his friend and ran away.

Huang Jue was very angry and felt that something was wrong, so he couldn't help talking about the wheat. But when Huang Chueh finished venting, Maizi just said, "well, we finally had a fight in front of the worker's body, and youth is finally complete."

since then, Huang Jue has lost his temper. The open-mindedness of the wheat softened all the thorns on his body.

in "Goodbye to Love", Maze's response to the "ex's question" is both amazing and touching.

instead of avoiding, she said faintly, "I know all about his past." Thank you for adding me to your moments. It's very classy. "

not only expressed his attitude, but also affirmed Huang Jue's past.

everyone present looked sideways.

looking back at the dribs and drabs of Mai and Huang Jue along the way, there are not many thrilling plots, but they are full of fine pieces.

and these years are quiet, to a large extent, because the wheat knows enough to love himself.

Maze's unique charm stems from her loving herself enough

Mai once said, "you really can't lie flat in marriage." You have to keep giving out your damn charm. "

and her so-called charm is not to please, but to constantly update herself, live a better self, and constantly amaze the other person.

the driving force for the constant pursuit of a better self is to love yourself.

loving yourself sounds a little empty in many cases.

after all, everyone has different views on "how to love themselves".

however, when it comes to relationships, it is very specific.

those who love themselves have sense of security, are sensitive to beauty and tolerant of conflict.

imagine when a person is most interested in enjoying the scenery quietly. The answer is, when she feels safe.

when a person is very anxious inside, he often turns a blind eye to the beauty that can be seen everywhere around him.

the same is true in relationships.

the more sense of security a person has, the more he or she can feel the beauty of life and be more inclusive of conflict.

in Weibo of wheat, such proof is everywhere.

she will carefully record many mundane beauties in life:

"midnight, off duty, outside the theater, a family member. Unexpectedly, there is the illusion of being pursued by boys from another school after school, besieging the school gate, and then going home hand in hand. It's so beautiful that I want to cry. "

insipid but straight toThe hearts of people.

A partner will also become more and more aware of love in continuous positive feedback, and this accumulated love can act as the most powerful buffer in times of conflict.

those who love themselves can be responsible for themselves.

Bad relationships are often bad waiting for each other to take responsibility for themselves.

A good relationship is that you can take responsibility for yourself.

Maze once said:

"Don't wait for the prince to save you. The beast in the story is the prince, but in reality he may be 100% beast.

think more about what your bravery can bring you than what fate can bring you.

instead of waiting passively, it is better to take the initiative to build your own life framework. "

when she chose Huang Jue, she took the initiative to go, and has been actively maintaining the relationship and being responsible for the choice.

Mai loves romance, and Huang Jue is more serious in life, so she sprinkles a spoil from time to time to relieve it.

Huang Jue is fond of photography, so Mai volunteered to be his model.

A person who loves herself enough will not wait for others to love her, nor will she doubt whether she deserves to be loved.

when she projects her love for herself onto each other, she makes a warm and comfortable relationship.

A woman who loves herself will be happy to marry whoever she marries

program was broadcast, Mai became the "fairy wife" in the hearts of thousands of netizens.

people finally understand why Huang Jue, an unmarried man, met her and decided to get married.

the reason why their marriage is so happy is more because the wheat loves themselves and knows how to give love continuously.

everyone's relationship with others is essentially a projection of their own relationship.

when you learn to really love yourself, the people you attract will be what you want.

so, how to become a person who knows how to love himself better?

first of all, learn to identify evidence that you don't love yourself enough.

as the saying goes, there must be a way to love someone. Similarly, it is the same if you don't love someone.

it's just that most of the time, out of the instinct of self-protection, you will selectively ignore the evidence that you "don't love yourself enough" and let yourself struggle with the pain of lack of love.

but please give yourself some courage to face them.

if you meet the following conditions, you don't love yourself enough:

can not take good care of themselves: eat not in time, like to eat junk food; do not sleep on time, like to stay up late; long-term high tension, can not relax; depressed, do not know how to please themselves, and so on.

have a lot of negative feelings about themselves: self-doubt, self-denial, and even self-abuse. Get used to being the weak and the victim, losing hope for the future.

when dealing with people, they often subconsciously suppress their needs and feelings and dare not make demands. There is even a strong sense of shame.

second, keep practicing "pleasing" yourself.

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give yourself ten minutes to review every day, and what have you done today

"don't love yourself enough", make adjustments consciously.

write down what you have done today.

Love your own business

", think about how to make this happen.

what's more important is to find something that keeps you happy and fulfilling. It can be a hobby or a career.

Mai knows how to please herself. There are not only yellow sleep, children, but also work and all kinds of hobbies in her life.

all these accumulate to form the whole of her happiness.

finally, build fewer walls and build more bridges.

loving ourselves means that we should have the ability to build a loving relationship centered on self-love.

in "Love like a bouquet", there is a classic line: "many people feel lonely because they only build walls, not bridges."

the so-called building wall refers to always involuntarily doing things that destroy the relationship, setting up one heart wall after another between two people.

Bridge repair refers to active communication, establishing links, and constantly narrowing the distance between heart and heart.

Maze knows this well, from the very beginning.

she will constantly release her charm and make Huang Jue love her more and more.

at the same time, she is so gentle and tolerant that no matter how big a conflict comes to her, she can become invisible.

more and more love is naturally accumulated day after day. This love, in turn, turns into nutrients that nourish wheat.

such a nourishing and mature relationship is often built between two people who love themselves enough.

so, if you are feeling consumed by a bad relationship and are not in a hurry to blame each other, ask yourself gently: do I really love myself enough?

when the heart that loves you begins to awaken, your road to happiness will be gradually opened.