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it is very sad to see a story on the Internet.

netizens said that some time ago, when she came home from the evening shift, she had a sudden stomach spasm and squatted in the bathroom.

she woke up her sleeping husband and asked him to take her to the hospital.

but the husband said:

"I'm sick of it! There is some medicine in the fridge. Just take some for yourself. Go to some hospital! "

she was aggrieved to hear this, but she had to go to the refrigerator to find medicine and then boil water and drink it herself.

but after taking the medicine, she still had unbearable abdominal pain. At three o'clock in the morning, her legs began to tremble.

she cried for her husband and asked him to take her to the hospital, but her husband blamed her:

"if you have the energy to beat me up, you might as well make a phone call yourself. I've been tired all day, and you're still bothering me!"

her tears came up at once, and then she called 120 with a crying voice.

while one side of the husband, but very disgusted with the quilt, covering his head.

it was the second day after the anti-contracture injection. When she got home, her husband was still playing with his cell phone on the sofa. When he saw her coming back, his eyelids were not raised.

her heart was so cold that she immediately asked for divorce and moved back to her mother's house in the evening.

at night, thinking about her husband's neglect of herself over the years, she couldn't help posting a circle of friends:

"I don't know what it means to live with you. I hope my next life won't be so hard!"

when she woke up in the morning, she saw 25 phone calls from her husband and a long list of Wechat messages.

my husband said that he thought she only had diarrhea and didn't take it seriously. he also accused her of being too impulsive, raising her to a higher plane of principle, and would regret it later.

but she replied to her husband

I won't regret it. In fact, I wanted a divorce a long time ago.

the netizen said that her husband never seems to know what "marriage" means.

after eight years of marriage, he went out to socialize without saying hello, bought a house or a car without discussing with her, and he never helped her when she did housework.

the couple quarreled many times, and several times she was so angry that she ran away from home, and her husband never looked for her, and each time she ended up going back by herself.

she thought that even if her husband didn't care about her, he would more or less help with the baby.

but after the daughter was born, the husband almost never cared. She did all by herself, washing, cooking, taking the children to and from school.

one day, when she was taking her daughter home, the electric car ran out of electricity and it happened to be raining heavily. She called her husband and asked him to drive her and her daughter home.

but my husband told me to work overtime and refused to pick it up.

in the end, she still went home by Didi, but as soon as she opened the door, she saw that her husband had ordered takeout and was eating delicious by herself.

Tagore once said:

"what makes people tired is not the distant mountain, but a grain of sand in the shoe.

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for her, the pile-by-pile thing over the years is like the sand in her shoes. Every time I think of it, it makes people feel frightened.

some people always think that their partner's proposal for divorce is an angry remark when they are emotionally involved.

do not realize that before this, the other person may have thought of parting ways more than once.

as Yishu said:

"anyone who leaves you is not a sudden decision.

the heart is slowly getting cold, the leaves are gradually turning yellow, the story is slowly written to the end, and love becomes unloved because there is too much disappointment. "

it will never be a straw, but a disappointment that has been saved over the years.

the higher people's Court of a certain place has published local data on the causes of divorce.

of the 50,000 divorce cases in the whole year, 34.21% were divorced because of life trivialities, accounting for the first place.

and people often think that cheating and violent divorce account for less than 1 /3 of the former.

as the writer Lin Wanyang said:

"people have to treat moments with heart. People decide one thing in countless moments."

some people always subconsciously ignore trifles and feel that as long as they do not make mistakes of principle, they will not go so far as to get divorced.

in fact, the more trivial it is, the more it tests the hearts of the people.

good feelings and love are infiltrated in details.

blogger

@ second Brother's warm time

, once shared his daily life with his wife on the Internet, sweet and warm.

my wife is used to drinking a glass of warm water after getting up early, so the second brother boils a pot of hot water every day and puts it at the head of the bed.

when the weather is cold in winter, the second elder brother will prepare two warm water bags for his wife, one for his wife's hand and one for his wife's quilt.

when his wife is out, the second elder brother will go downstairs before her and turn on the air conditioner and the passenger heating of the car, so that when the wife gets on the bus, the seat will be warm.

after having children, the life of husband and wife becomes busy.

while his wife is in charge of cooking, the second elder brother helps to take care of the children.

when his wife goes to the balcony to hang clothes, the second brother washes the dishes and mops the floor and puts the children's toys in the storage box.

although there is a lot of housework, two people do it together.I won't feel so tired.

after putting the children to sleep, the second elder brother will give his wife foot wash, and the two will chatter and massage together to enjoy their time.

the second brother said:

"husband and wife pay each other, love each other, the warmth in the details will make ordinary days sweeter, can go further hand in hand.

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Yes, a happy marriage must be watered by a little bit of love in the details.

give each other a hand when they need it, and help each other when they are tired, so that they can warm each other for a long time.

as one writer said:

"in a good marriage, there is not only love and romance, but also loyalty and unforgettable kindness."

No one wants to fight alone and face the ups and downs of life after starting a family.

if you always ignore your partner's needs and leave ta alone, then the other person probably doesn't want you to participate in the rest of your life.

Love is never an one-man show, but a practice of two people.

only when husband and wife share the same responsibilities and joys can they carve flowers into ordinary days.

there is a question on Zhihu: what is the real meaning of marriage to a family?

I agree with one answer very much:

"No matter how difficult the days are, there will always be someone to share with you. The value of marriage is reflected in the darkness of life."

Yes, marriage is a meticulous work, and many small things in the dark often determine the ultimate direction of marriage.

when the details are carefully waited for, the relationship can burst out with lasting vitality.

how to do it exactly? Let me give you three suggestions:

abandon the "insensitive force" of marriage

in marriage, many collapsing moments come from trivial things:

the sadness of doing housework alone, the sadness of not being understood, the chill of being ignored when asking for help.

if your partner often talks about these things to you, don't think they are irrelevant and ignore them selectively.

negative emotions can not be relieved, but will only be magnified infinitely with the passage of time.

usually be considerate of others and be considerate of your partner's difficulties.

stop blaming and complaining and give action care to your loved ones.

in this way, the contradiction will not become more and more serious and will be irreparable in the end.

clarify the division of responsibilities

there is a saying in the book Love is a Power: "Love is sharing, sharing is a valuable quality."

for a long time, friction between husband and wife is inevitable because of the trivialities of life.

before that, it is particularly important to clarify their respective division of labor.

who buys food, cooks, mops the floor and picks up the children.

A reasonable division of labor allows husband and wife to clarify their respective rights and responsibilities and prevent them from planting an indefinite time bomb for the rest of their lives.

keep deep communication

I quite agree with one sentence:

"every deep communication is a way to reach each other's heart."

frequent and in-depth communication between partners helps to deepen the connection between the two sides and clarify their respective needs and boundaries.

there are no naturally suitable two people in this world, only two hearts that accommodate each other.

through in-depth communication, the couple will constantly correct themselves, and their marriage will be more harmonious and harmonious.

as the saying goes, "people lie, but not the details."

the beauty of good love lies in the details.

maybe it's holding your hand while crossing the street, or the shrimp peeled for you at the dinner table;

maybe it's the breakfast made for you early in the morning, or the quilt that warms you up on a cold day.

with a meticulous person, you can have the biggest sense of security in your heart to face the trivial and repetitive daily life for a long time.

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ordinary details are the most reassuring, and gentle companionship is the longest.

, may you meet the one who loves you with details, sincerely treat each other, warm and dependent, and spend the rest of your life.