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Zeng Guofan once said: "for those who seek great things, the most important thing is the pattern."

indeed, whether a person has a pattern or not is the key to whether he can achieve great things or not.

people will encounter numerous problems in their lifetime.

low-level people are at a loss in the face of difficult problems;

High-level people are calm in the face of difficult problems and can solve them easily.

and how exactly can you become a high-level person?

only if you do the following three things, you will benefit for the rest of your life.

Don't get angry

getting angry in case of trouble will do more harm than good to others.

when we encounter something that makes people angry in our lives, perhaps the best way to deal with it is to keep calm and not get angry.

in many cases, it is better to win than to be angry.

if we are always angry with others about something that is not worth it, then in the end you will find that what we lose is our own good mood and what we waste is our own time.

A celebrity once said:

"first-class people have ability but no temper; second-class people have ability and temper; and last-class people have no ability and bad temper."

once saw a short story:

once, Goethe was walking in the park. On a path that could only accommodate one person, he met a critic.

the critic looked at Goethe with disdain: "I never make way for fools."

"I'm just the opposite!" Goethe retreated to the side with a smile.

when we are alive, we will encounter too many angry things.

however, anger will not solve the problem at all, but will make it worse.

being irritable in case of trouble is a sign of incompetence.

it has no effect except to make your mood worse.

instead of getting angry, respond politely with a smile, like Goethe.

Carnegie also said:

"he who cannot be angry is a fool, but he who is not angry is wise."

A simple sentence, but it shows an open-minded attitude towards life.

Don't get angry when something happens, take it calmly, and this is the smartest way to deal with it.

will turn

as the saying goes, "phase comes from the heart, and the environment changes from the heart."

when the heart turns with the road, the road can be always wide.

in class, the teacher asked a question:

"if you want to boil a pot of boiling water and find that there is not enough firewood in the middle of the fire, what will you do then?"

students gave a variety of answers, some said to find more firewood around quickly, some said to spend money to buy enough firewood, and some said to borrow some from others.

after a long time, the teacher asked, "Why can't you pour some water out of the pot?"

the students were suddenly dumb.

everyone is trapped in their inherent thinking, and they all feel that what is needed at this time is to "gather more firewood", and no one has ever thought of "pouring out some water."

but sometimes, learn to turn in order to meet a turning point.

the same is true in life. If the road ahead is impassable, you might as well try another way.

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the words sound rough, but that's the truth.

on the way of life, we will inevitably encounter when we can't get over it, it's not a good idea to turn a corner and make a detour.

I have heard such a sentence:

"people do two things on the way forward: forward and turn."

it takes courage to move forward and wisdom to turn.

people's life, there are rugged and bumpy, we will encounter a lot of ravines to cross; the ups and downs of life, always need us to taste slowly.

the mountain does not turn, the road turns; the road does not turn, the man turns.

as long as you learn to turn, adversity can become an opportunity.

can be transposed

Napoleon Hill once said:

"the world is yours if you know how to think of others, can really look at problems from other people's point of view, think about problems, and can really help others solve problems."

knowing how to think of others is the great wisdom of life.

have seen such a short story:

A man invited a blind friend to dinner, because it was too late to talk about things during the dinner, so it was very late.

when the blind man said goodbye and went home, the man handed the blind man a lantern.

the blind man asked angrily:

"you give me lanterns when you know I can't see. Are you taking the opportunity to laugh at me?"

the man hastened to explain:

"I give you the lantern because I care about you. I think you can't see it, but others can see it. If you walk at night with the lantern, you won't be afraid of being hit by others."

the blind man was very moved after hearing this.

the two people stand from different angles and have different understandings. If you look at the problem from a different point of view, you will naturally have different views.

as the saying goes, do not do to others what you do not want.

learn to transposition and see things from the standpoint of others. Only in this way can you really understand each other.

once he passed an oak tree, which was so huge that he looked up from under it to block out the sun.

the people who came to watch it were bustling and endless.

the carpenter took a lookBut curled his lips with disdain.

someone on the side saw his disdain and asked:

"the tree is so magnificent, why don't you think highly of it?"

the carpenter said that the shipbuilding of this tree is too heavy, and the beams are easy to break, so it can be said to be useless.

in the evening, the scholar was resentful and gave him a dream:

"if I had been useful, I would have been cut off. It is because of the uselessness in your eyes that I have saved my life of several hundred years."

the position is different, the angle of view of the problem is also very different.

your honey, your arsenic.

if you look at everything from a different point of view, you will have different views.

you can't always stand in your own position and look at others, but look at yourself in other people's position.

only in this way can we feel the difficulties of others, understand the difficulties of others, and really solve the problem.

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A person will encounter a lot of things in his life.

the best way to deal with an accident is not to get angry, turn a corner and change positions.

if you don't get angry, everything goes well.

will turn, then the weight will change;

can be transposed, it will be simple and comfortable.

, may you not be swayed by your emotions, be flexible, be relieved, be not afraid of things, and have the ability to solve problems.