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some people say that the cognitive level is the biggest gap between people.

people with different cognitive levels have different horizons and patterns, and their ways of dealing with people are also very different.

there is a kind of person who will argue with you no matter what you say to him;

when you talk to him, he wants to talk about the west; when you reason with him, he wants to talk about feelings; when you come back to talk to him about feelings, he scoffs at you again.

what the other party really cares about is not the matter itself, but who has the upper hand.

the root of it is that the lower the cognitive level, the more competitive people are.

competing with others is a kind of suicidal social interaction

have read such a story.

A patient went to the hospital to see a doctor, and the doctor politely offered his seat, but he got the patient's rhetorical question: why do I have to sit down? Are you depriving me of my right not to sit down?

in order to ease the embarrassment, the doctor changed the subject and said kindly that the weather was really nice today.

results the patient had another debate:

"just because the weather is good here doesn't mean it's fine all over the world. It's raining and windy in some places." What nonsense. "

after several rounds, the doctor was speechless and helpless.

the patient had a smug look on his face, but he had no idea what he had come or missed.

the doctor originally wanted to communicate a few words to understand the disease, so as to prescribe the right medicine to the case, but he was repeatedly attacked by the other person's language.

it seems that in the eyes of that person, this is no longer a medical consultation, but a contest.

it was as if he was suffering from "eloquence", trying to prove his cleverness with every word, regardless of the purpose of his visit.

looking back at life, such people are also very common:

when he encounters some problems, no matter whether he understands it or not, he should be reprimanded first, and the words are full of derogation.

I'm afraid no one wants to experience such a scene, and very few people are willing to keep company with such people.

blindly arguing with others will only make your road narrower and narrower in the end.

I still remember that Maugham wrote in the Moon and sixpence:

"what you have to overcome is your vanity, your desire to show off, and the cleverness you want to be in the limelight all the time."

competing with others has always been an ineffective social event in which there is no win or no win.

this practice not only does not get the respect that people thought they would get, but also makes people stay away, leaving themselves to face chicken feathers.

introspection is the key to change the status quo

in the movie "perfect tone", Aubrey is the captain of the Barton Bella choir and does not accept anyone's advice because of his experience. From songs and costumes to details of rehearsals, you have to listen to her.

even if all the team members have a problem with her desire for control, she still has her own way.

and their performance on the field was also interpreted by commentators as nothing new and did not want to see the same repetition.

but Aubrey still ignored all this, insisting that she was right.

in desperation, Becca quietly innovated some of her part on the field and won applause, but Aubrey still refused to accept it and even asked Becca to leave the choir.

it was precisely because of this incident that people in the team were so distracted that no one could raise the spirit to train. Aubrey's stubbornness finally infuriated everyone, and the choir was once facing disintegration.

this situation undoubtedly scared Aubrey, and for the first time she began to face her own problems.

finally, when Becca reappeared on the training ground, Aubrey thought twice and left Becca.

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and after a sincere conversation with everyone, she said for the first time, "what do you think?"

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then they communicated with each other, added highlights that they were good at in songs and dances, and finally won the competition.

Aubrey finally got out of the quagmire.

psychologists have put forward the viewpoint of "personal Constructionism". A person's cognition is composed of his past knowledge, expectation, evaluation, thinking and other factors.

when they encounter similar situations, they will present their past experience in their minds and make judgments.

like Aubrey, her past perception was that where she fell, she had to get up. She insisted on preparing for the game in her own way, but ignored the highlights of others.

it wasn't until Becca left that she began to reflect inward and make changes.

it is precisely because of this change that the whole team has regained new vitality.

the reality we face is changing at a fast pace all the time, blindly competing blindly, but it is very difficult to break through the predicament.

what can really change the status quo is that one can finally accept different voices in self-reflection and let himself keep up with the pace of the times.

truly mature people are constantly upgrading their cognition

Schopenhauer once said: "the largest prison in the world is people's consciousness of thinking."

what really limits us is never age and occupation, but our inner thinking and cognition.

what we need to do is never stubbornly compete with others, but focus on upgrading our cognition, iterating and growing from within.

Let yourself live in the future and start with the end

Bezos once said:

"if you look at everything you do in the next three years, there will be a lot of people competing with you, but if you can set your sights on the next seven years, there will be very few people who can compete with you."

if we always look at the three mu of land in front of us, it is easy to care about the temporary gains and losses.

however, if we can take a longer-term view and focus on long-term goals, the limitations will be greatly reduced and we will not compete with others everywhere.

read extensively and enrich your cognitive system

some people say: "A person's knowledge accumulation will affect his cognitive level."

every book is full of experience and wisdom, and reading is the only way for us to quickly understand and absorb.

especially when we sew this knowledge into the original cognitive system and apply it to our own lives, it will bring about the accelerated growth of cognition.

when we widely dabble in books in various fields, it is tantamount to talking to awesome people in many fields. Through continuous accumulation, the depth and level of reading problems naturally become profound.

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be aware of your cognition and reflect

it is written in the Road to Wealth and Freedom: "the potential of a person depends almost entirely on his metacognitive ability."

the so-called metacognitive ability is simply the ability to recognize and understand one's own thinking process.

when we turn on this ability, it's like having a supervisor to monitor our thoughts, words and deeds in all directions, and to urge ourselves to make changes as soon as we find problems.

once such a switch is turned on in a person's brain, his cognition will continue to improve.

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in "Genius on the left, madman on the right", someone asks, "how big is the world?"

the answer is classic: "if thought is a wall, the world is on the other side."

people who can only compete with others are often trapped under the high wall of thinking and circulate at a low level of cognition.

only by letting go of the struggle and opening up our minds can we have the opportunity to break down this high wall, constantly upgrade our iterative cognition, and see the wider world.

as the Black Swan says, "you are the only one standing in your way."

when we decide to turn around and upgrade our cognition, no one can stop us from becoming better!

May everyone be able to tear down the wall in their own thinking, iterate their cognition, and upgrade themselves!