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as the saying goes, "distance produces beauty."

some people always hope that their relationship with each other can be closer and closer.

as a result, because we got too close, there was a rift in the originally harmonious relationship.

the relationship between people is not as close as possible.

only by keeping a proper distance can both sides feel comfortable and free.

do not cross the line

A writer once said: "all human suffering stems from a lack of a sense of boundary."

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if a person lacks a sense of boundary, then the closest relationship will gradually become estranged.

some people, relying on their close relationship with each other, wantonly make demands to each other, but do not consider whether it is convenient or not.

if the other party refuses, they will complain about each other's innocence.

between people, no matter how close they are, they also need to distinguish between "you and me".

regardless of the wanton demands of you and me, it will only make the other person feel disgusted and finally choose to leave.

I have heard a saying: "the most comfortable relationship between people is that familiarity is not out of line."

some people, once they are familiar with each other, "if they are close, they are not bad" and make fun of each other's shortcomings wantonly.

if the other person cares, they will say that the other person is "narrow-minded" and "can't take a joke".

A joke, if the other party does not find it funny, is no longer a joke, but a disguised "humiliation".

the more intimate a relationship is, the more you need a sense of respect for each other.

only in this way can we make the relationship more harmonious and lasting.

do not please

Zhang ailing said, "when I saw him, she became very low, low in the dust." But her heart was filled with joy, and flowers came out of the dust. "

A relationship has come to an end once one party is required to lower his or her figure to cater to the other.

the relationship between people pays attention to a fate.

if fate comes, you can naturally get along comfortably;

if you are not predestined, even if you are humble to please each other, in the end, you can only let yourself be aggrieved and let the other person look down on you.

the relationship between pairs is equal in personality.

as Shu Ting said in to the Oak Tree:

"you have your brass stem, like a sword, like a sword, like a halberd; I have my red flowers, like a heavy sigh, like a heroic torch."

only by being equal can we get along without tiredness.

Jiang Fangzhou said, "the one who really appreciates you is to appreciate your pride, not to pretend to be humble or flattering."

in a relationship, we just need to be who we really are to make the other person like us.

the act of flattering will deviate from who you really are and make the other person disgusted.

"No gold is perfect, no one is perfect."

Don't look down on yourself because of your own shortcomings, thinking that only by pleasing yourself can you get the "love" of each other.

people who really like you will like you because of your strengths and will tolerate your shortcomings at the same time.

ignore

as the old saying goes, "if you are big and wise, little things will be hazy; for big ignorant people, small things will be watched."

people who really have great wisdom often know how to "pretend to be confused" about trifles.

once, Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu quarreled over a French pronunciation.

Yang Jiang laughed at Qian Zhongshu's pronunciation with a local accent, while Qian Zhongshu thought Yang Jiang was self-righteous.

later, a Frenchman was invited to make a judgment, and it turned out that Qian Zhongshu was wrong.

Yang Jiang said later: "although I won, I felt boring and unhappy."

if a person quarrels with someone close to him over trifles, he loses even if he wins the argument in the end.

Bao Shuya used to do business with Guan Zhong.

when paying dividends, Guan Zhong always takes an extra part.

others think Guan Zhong is greedy, but Bao Shuya says:

"his family is relatively poor, and I am richer, so he should take more."

later, Guan Zhong assisted Duke Huan of Qi to seek hegemony and sighed:

"I used to do business with Bao Shuya and often got more dividends. Bao Shuya didn't think I was greedy, knowing that I did so because of poverty."

A person can understand each other's difficulties and not haggle over petty gains, which is not only magnanimous, but also makes the feelings of both sides deeper.

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some people say: "the three values are different, so there is no need for forced integration."

the relationship between people cannot be forced.

when you meet people with the same frequency, cherish them and treat them with sincerity.

when you meet people with different frequencies, let nature take its course and be yourself.

as long as we constantly refine ourselves and make ourselves excellent, butterflies with the same frequency will come.