things are changeable and people are complicated, so it is difficult to see a person clearly.

in life, no one can live as an island, but always get along with others.

however, "those who are close to red are red, those who are close to ink are black", and it is really important to walk with what kind of people.

therefore, it is of great benefit to yourself to master the method of knowing people, to be close to a modest gentleman, and to stay away from sinister villains.

Today, share "Lu's Spring and Autumn" and "eight values to know people" to teach you to see a person thoroughly.

01

General rules view the etiquette

"if you look at a prominent person, you should see whether he is still modest, polite and gentle."

on the way of life, the more favorable the wind and the river and the more good luck you have, the more you must keep your heart and cultivate your virtue.

it is said in the constant words of awakening the World: "A man is not as good as a thousand days, and a flower without a hundred days of red."

No one can always be plain sailing. If there is a highlight, there will be a dark one.

encounter good things, usher in good luck, like safflower in full bloom, although very beautiful, but will eventually wither.

Smart people, even if the scenery is unlimited, will not be arrogant and domineering, but will be more low-key and introverted.

Mencius has a saying: "if you focus on yourself when you are unknown, you will be good for the world."

if you encounter bad luck and don't get paid for your lofty ambition, you must take good care of yourself and practice morality diligently.

if you succeed in life and become stronger, you must treat others gently and always do good deeds.

to cultivate virtue is the golden key to success, while charity is the lucky star to keep good luck.

A prominent person can still be modest and kind-hearted, and the road of life will be more and more smooth.

02

look at what you have made

"people who believe in virtue and respect also depend on what kind of people they recommend and promote."

people with high moral integrity and high respect, recommending and promoting people with both ability and political integrity is really in their position and fulfilling their responsibilities.

"Lu's going private in the Spring and Autumn period" contains a story of "advocating sages without avoiding family enmity".

Qi Xi, a doctor of the State of Jin, recommended to the Duke of Jin Ping his enemy Xie Hu, who killed his father, and was approved to be the county magistrate of Nanyang.

after the honest and honest Xie Hu took office, he did a lot of practical things and good deeds, which were well received by the people.

before long, Keesh recommended his son Qi Wu to the Duke of Jinping and was allowed to serve as a lieutenant in charge of the prison.

Keesh adhered to the will of the people and was praised by the Duke of Jinping and later generations because he did not avoid hatred on the outside and his son on the inside.

it can be seen that when a person has a high status, we can see what kind of person he is from the person he recommends and promotes.

people with high status can also be selfless, recommend virtuous people and can be called high-minded people.

03

if you are rich, you will see what you support

"look at a rich man, it depends on how his money is spent, for whom and where he spends it."

although money is something outside the body, the richer people are, the less they understand this truth.

such rich people are morally corrupt, rich and without quality, and will eventually suffer disasters, so they must stay away from them.

Zhuge Liang's Book of Commandments said:

"quiet to cultivate self-cultivation, frugality to cultivate virtue; obscene and slow can not stimulate essence, dangerous impetuous can not cure sex."

only by having peace of mind can you cultivate your body and mind; only by being frugal and frugal can you cultivate virtue.

in other words, no matter how rich you are, you should be diligent, frugal, virtuous and energetic.

from a small point of view, we should support our parents and help others; generally speaking, we should love public welfare and do good deeds to accumulate virtue.

people who are rich can still be frugal and have a good way of spreading money, and they are bound to "start all over again even if they run out of money."

04

listen and see what you do

"after listening to a man, it depends on whether he does it that way or not."

to distinguish between people, we should not only listen to what he has said, but also listen to his words and deeds.

there is a saying in Daojing: "the husband is light and trustworthy."

those who make promises easily, because it is difficult to keep their promises, will reduce their integrity.

this kind of person, who likes to boast and boast, is often a giant in words and a dwarf in action, which cannot be made or trusted.

in Zengguang Xianwen, it is said: "once a word has been spoken, it is irrevocable."

now that a word has been exported, even a cart drawn by four horses cannot be recovered.

words have been spoken, and you can never go back on your promises. Only when you do what you say can you win trust.

people who keep their promises will not brag about the sea or make promises easily, but think twice and do what they say, and their deeds will bear fruit.

those who do what they say are the most trustworthy and should be cherished when they are met.

05

stop looking at what you like

"you can see the nature of a person by his hobbies."

everyone has hobbies, especially hobbies, which can best see people's mental and sexual qualities.

there is something in the Book of Rites:

"Don't see the hidden, don't show the small, so the gentleman is careful to be alone."

No matter how hidden, no matter how subtle words and deeds, you can see a person's character.

therefore, cultured people will be cautious and meticulous even if they are alone.

be careful to be alone, that is, when you are alone or idle, you still have awe, careful words and deeds, peace of mind, and self-cultivation.

in their spare time, some people are full of lights and drunken dreams, as well as others.Human piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, listening to music and writing.

people's hobbies, good or bad, can see the truest side of their hearts.

as the saying goes, "every man has his own taste for clothes and hats."

whether you wear clothes or wear a hat, the choice will naturally be different due to differences in nature and preferences.

those who like vulgarity should stay away; those who like elegance can make deep acquaintances.

06

rules

"what you say when you meet for the first time is nothing. When you get along for a long time, listen to what he has to say."

when you meet for the first time, you always have reservations about what you say, and it's normal to say that you can't throw one heart at all.

only when you get along for a long time and really get to know each other, you have no scruples about speaking, and you can "see the hearts of the people for a long time."

the fierce, upright and resourceful Chen Gong, who had heard of Cao Cao for a long time, gave up his post as county magistrate, followed Cao Cao and helped him win Yanzhou and defeat the Yellow napkin Army.

later, after Cao Cao mistakenly killed the innocent Lv Boshe family, she casually said, "I would rather teach me to lose the world than to teach the world to fail me," so that Chen Gong saw that Cao Cao was a treacherous person, so she left angrily.

as the ancients said, "study and sexual maturity, saints and sages return together."

habits determine the formation of character.

to identify a person's habits depends on whether his words and deeds match his words with deeds. this is not only a way to know people, but also a way to make friends.

if there is too much discrepancy in what he says after spending a long time with others, it means that his character is too bad.

such people should not get to know each other deeply, but should stay away from them as soon as possible.

if there is little difference in what he says, it means that he is honest and reliable.

such people are never tired of being around for a long time, so they should be cherished.

07

if you are poor, you will not receive it.

"it doesn't matter if people are poor. Only when the poor don't take advantage of small things can they achieve great success."

the best way to know whether a person is ambitious and capable of achieving great things is to see what he refuses to accept when he is down and out.

because a person is most likely to change his mind and integrity when he is poor.

Zi Si, the grandson of Confucius, was poor and famous all his life.

Duke Lu Miao ordered people to send meat to Zi Si many times. for the last time, Zi Si angrily drove people out of the house and said, "it turns out that the king actually kept me in captivity like a dog or a horse."

Mencius believed that if the monarch really respected Zi Si, he should let the emissary state his will at the first gift.

then Zi Si will no longer have to kowtow to accept gifts after that.

it is said in Le Yang Zi's wife: "A wise man does not drink water from a pirate spring, and an honest man does not receive food given away."

ambitious people, no matter how thirsty, do not drink water from stolen springs; incorruptible people, no matter how hungry they are, do not accept handouts.

stealing water from a spring loses innocence; food given away is beneath dignity.

always thinking about living on other people's handouts is not only undignified, but also kills the will and does nothing.

those who are poor and ambitious will rise one day.

08

cheap means you don't do what you do

"it doesn't matter if people have a low status, either humble or arrogant, and maintain their own dignity in order to live in a state."

whether you live with dignity or not has nothing to do with your status. It depends on your attitude towards life.

No matter how high the status is, there are many groveling people; no matter how low the status is, there is no shortage of free, easy and noble people.

Yanzi of the State of Qi, short in stature, was sent by the King of Qi to the State of Chu.

the king of Chu ordered Yanzi to enter the city pointing to a small hole next to the city gate, in order to humiliate Yanzi.

Yanzi smiled and said:

"I didn't expect that the city gate of the State of Chu is as small as a dog hole. Am I going to be a dog country?"

the welcoming minister of the State of Chu was ashamed and hurriedly took Yanzi into the city through the gate.

as Mencius said: "the poor and humble cannot be moved, the power cannot be surrendered, this is called a man."

people with true integrity will not waver in their conduct even if they are poor and humble; even if they are bullied, their will will not give in.

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A gentleman should have a bottom line and principles even if he has low status and humble status, even if he has something to do and something not to do.

people of low status are truly superior people who are neither humble nor arrogant nor lose their integrity.

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Zeng Guofan said: "the general purpose also distinguishes turbid, and discusses the trade-off in detail."

to distinguish between people and people, we should not let it go, but the most desirable way is to distinguish turbidity from the nuances and make a trade-off.

the human heart is the most unfathomable, but there is a way of snooping.

the core of the method of recognizing people in Lu's Spring and Autumn period is to identify and judge a person's moral character by his performance in prosperity or adversity.

the first six values of "communication, expensive, rich, listening, stopping, and learning" are in good times, depending on whether they can restrain themselves and care for others.

the last two values of "poor and cheap" are in adversity, which depends on whether they can have firm faith and perseverance.

for the rest of my life, may you and I learn to be a person with friends all over the world.

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