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in modern society, there is a lot of traffic, and people will be abandoned by the times if they are on their own tracks.

but taking a closer look at life, those who are really good are never in a hurry.

as the saying goes: "if you have talent but you are slow, you must be a great talent."

A truly mature person acts slowly, speaks slowly and is stable.

act slowly

the record of Dang Kou Zhi in Yu Wanchun of the Qing Dynasty: "it seems that the matter is slow and round, but it is difficult to achieve results in a hurry."

when you encounter something, acting in haste will sometimes only add fuel to the fire; if you slow down and deal with it slowly, things will be solved satisfactorily.

there is a story in the History of Ming Dynasty.

during the reign of Xuanzong in the Ming Dynasty, there was a magistrate named Zhao Yu.

before he took office in Songjiang, his neighbors often went to the Yamen and let the government make a decision because of the bigger matters of sesame and mung beans.

although the magistrate is busy every day, because there are too many cases, those really important lawsuits are often buried, and the villains are still at large.

after Zhao Yu took office, he changed his usual style and allowed anyone who came to file a complaint to come back the next day.

gradually, the phenomenon of local complaints has become less and less, and social security has become better.

it turned out that most of the people who made trouble at the Yamen were trivial, and it was only when the parties were angry that they had to go to court.

when Zhao Yu put the lawsuit to the next day, the parties who were originally angry, after a night of calm or advice from others, the second weather naturally disappeared, and there was no need to mobilize people to go to court.

those cases that are really important naturally get the chance to go to court.

if things are not burning, like Zhao Yu, we may as well be in no hurry to deal with them. If we slow things down and let them go, we will solve them easily.

it is not slow to act slowly when things happen, but to know how to find the crux of the problem and think about how to deal with it before you start to deal with it.

Zeng Shiqiang said:

"A word often said by modern people is: fast, in fact, fast is the most likely to make mistakes. Before we do a very big thing, we will first clarify the situation and make a reasonable judgment before we take action."

there is no point in worrying about small things, but the more anxious the big things are, the more flustered they are.

when you encounter something, you should first plan a countermeasure, and then take action. On the surface, it seems to be slow, but in fact, you can get twice the result with half the effort. It is the fastest solution.

when you encounter all kinds of problems, you might as well set aside some time for yourself to take your time.

speak late

Zeng Guopan: "if you are slow in speech and heavy in behavior, you will advance morally."

people who are really good at it think carefully before they speak, so they look slow and leisurely.

this kind of person is generally not easy to declare his position or draw a conclusion, but if he does not make a sound, he is a blockbuster.

when Zhu Yuanzhang attacked the world, Liu Ji, who recruited talented people, fell into this category.

Liu is basically a hermit, and the dragon can't see the end.

after being recruited as a counselor by Zhu Yuanzhang, he kept quiet all day and did not give much advice. it was a small, transparent existence.

one day, Zhu Yuanzhang summoned advisers to discuss countermeasures on the question of whether to give up responding to heaven.

the counselors who usually brag about their clever tricks are full of tongues and spittle, but apart from scolding, they will say some useless words.

while Liu Ji looked coldly at the counselors who had fallen into the well, he was analyzing the situation from the bottom of his heart. When they stopped talking, Liu Ji said calmly but loudly:

"although the enemy is strong, he is arrogant. As long as we lure the enemy in depth and use an ambush to attack, it is also very easy to defeat the Han army."

Liu Ji said a few words, but the discouraged Zhu Yuanzhang redoubled his courage and uttered four words decisively: "this is the decisive battle here!"

at a critical moment, if it hadn't been for Liu Ji's speculative words, maybe the history of the Ming Dynasty would have been rewritten.

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Laozi said, "the big argument is slow."

on the surface, it seems that the person who has a stupid mouth, slow language, and is not good at talking may be the one who can really speak.

being able to talk is essentially different from talking too much and talking fast.

on weekdays, those who are outspoken tend to speak freely, and inadvertently, they may hurt others.

those who are eloquent seem to be eloquent and eloquent, and may have nothing to say and rob the host.

A really good person, though slow in speech, shows meticulous and down-to-earth work.

be stable

as the old saying goes, "ten thousand mountains are high, and the first step is stability."

if you want to achieve a great cause, you must be based on the word "stable", which is the highest realm of life.

people who are mature and stable in heart are never impetuous and eager for success when something happens, but they know how to work steadily in order to rise abruptly based on their accumulated strength.

Zuo Si, a poet of the Western Jin Dynasty, was able to become famous and spread in history because of his steady and steady creation of Fu of the three Capital.

when Zuo Si was a child, he was dull in nature, inarticulate, and his academic performance was average.

when he grew up, he was determined to write an article praising the three Kingdoms of Wei, Shu and Wu.

however, the local literati mocked him for not knowing the nature of heaven and earth, and even if he wrote it, he could only serve as a lid for the wine altar.

when Zuo Si heard this, he was not angry or annoyed, butWith a faint smile, then he bowed himself into the game and built a temple of words.

in order to collect historical facts about the prosperity of the capital cities of the three Kingdoms, he took great pains to visit the whole country to collect first-hand information.

knowing that industry can make up for his clumsiness, he is not intelligent, so he forgets to eat and sleep and read a lot of literature.

usually he lives in seclusion, and the most important work every day is to conceive and create.

there is paper in every corner of the house, even in the toilet, just to record every inspiration in time, even a good word or a good sentence.

Ten years of extreme heat and frost have never stopped ploughing; ten years have turned to corners and walls, just to concentrate on writing books.

finally, the startling work "San du Fu" was published, and it was amazing after reading it. At that time, the copy of this book became popular in the capital, and the allusion of "Luoyang Paper Gui" originated from this.

as the folk saying goes, "one cannot eat hot tofu in haste, nor drink hot pot porridge in haste."

if you are eager for quick success and quick benefits, you want to rise to the sky in one step, just like the grass on the wall, which is top-heavy and shallow-rooted, and you can't do great things.

books should be read one by one, and the road should be taken step by step. Although it is very slow, every book we read and every step we take will be transformed into our thoughts and experiences.

being stable is not only an attitude, an ability, but also a pattern.

calm down, grasp the rhythm, will eventually be stable and far away.

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Life is a spiritual practice. People who are really good never take their time; the really good life always takes its time.

when something happens, judge the hour and size up the situation, plan and move later, things can be done successfully;

speak carefully, think before you speak, show thoughtfulness;

be a man, not impatient, patient and down-to-earth, just to be steady and far away.

as Yang Lan said: "Life should walk slowly, so there will be no ups and downs, no great joys and sorrows."

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Chen Xiang, source