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there is a hot topic on Zhihu: is there any reason why you regret not knowing earlier?

there is a high-praise answer: those who are in too much of a hurry can't go far.

I think so.

it is said that "haste makes waste".

to live a good life, of course, you can't live without hard work, but you need long-term endurance.

the farther you want to run, the more you need to know how to take your time. In many cases, taking your time is the fastest.

Life in such a hurry is a disaster

I have seen a true story.

A Juan used to be a young teacher in Fudan University. She is very demanding of herself and has a lot of plans for her life.

she said, "my plan is to evaluate an associate professor within two years, so I work hard on articles and projects every day.

I also want to change to a bigger house and give my children a better life. I have to fight while I am young, otherwise I will fall behind and my child will lose at the starting line. "

after that, because of the unbearable low back pain, Ah Juan went to the hospital for an examination.

looking at her one-and-a-half-year-old child and beloved husband, as well as her parents who were white-headed overnight because of her illness, she was filled with remorse and reluctance.

in the last days of her life, A Juan said:

"if I were given another chance to start all over again, I would rather spend time with my children and buy a pair of shoes for my parents with the money for a car, rather than desperately trying to change a big house.

it is also warm to live with people who love each other. "

blue flowy prom dress will make sure you radiate glamor and desire. Large varieties of shapes and cuts for you to choose from.

but there is only one life, and it cannot be repeated. Only by doing and cherishing it, you will not regret it for the rest of your life.

however, sometimes we want to win too much, to achieve proud results, and to be excellent in the eyes of others....

so much that he often panicked and tried too hard, turning life into a disaster.

I agree with one sentence very much:

"even if you try your best in this life, you are still an ordinary person, then accept your own ordinary and enjoy the happiness of ordinary people."

move forward one step at a time, slow down when you are tired, correct the direction in time when you are wrong, so that you can go further

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the busier life is, the more slowly we have to take it.

I have a friend who was in a panic a few years ago.

in her career, she runs a beauty salon with a stable source of customers and a considerable income.

in life, she takes care of her children, respects her parents, and keeps her family in good order. She is regarded as a "good wife" in everyone's eyes.

I asked her how to be so good, and I was shocked by her answer. She said:

"there's no such thing as a career and a family. You look at me like I'm good at it every day. That's when you didn't see me worried.

the child will take the high school entrance examination in two years. What if he can't be admitted to a key high school?

the business in the store is good and bad, and I wonder if it would be safer to start another sideline.

I am so bored that I can't sleep all night. Sometimes I feel like I can't stand up. It's too painful! "

with that, she shook her hair and said to me, "look, you're almost bald."

once, when she read a message from a listener at night that she wanted to make money but was cheated by a friend for 400000, she suddenly realized that one should not be in such a hurry and just let nature take its course.

now, she also begins to adjust herself slowly and consciously:

No longer anxious to do a sideline, but to run the beauty salon well.

No longer do the big and small things at home by yourself, do more when you have time, be careless when you have no time, and let go of things that are not urgent.

is no longer too anxious about the child's future, but respects the child and trusts him, and the parent-child relationship becomes more harmonious.

as the saying goes: when things are slow, they are round; when people are slow, they are safe.

if you walk too fast, it is the foot that hurts; if you push too hard, it is the heart that is tired.

it is better to slow down, experience slowly, and live slowly.

Life needs some moments, slow down, calm down, look up at the goal, and look at the scenery on both sides.

Life, you need to know how to adjust, don't panic when you're busy, don't waste your spare time, and move forward steadily at your own pace.

take your time, everything has its own arrangement

read the message of a listener:

"I remember that when we got married, my husband and I gave everything we had for the wedding house.

No diamond ring, no gorgeous wedding, only a week's wedding leave.

because we always believe that a good day will come.

slowly, we have our own career, work hard together, work together.

many dreams have come true. Now I am contented and happy.

so, just do what you can, work hard, and take your time. Everything has its own arrangement. "

Yes! The more you are in trouble, the more you have to be patient. It's all yours. Don't worry.

you know, the more thorny the path is, the more amazing the scenery will be.

the more bitter the script, the better the ending.

believe that the present is the future, and everything has been arranged.

share the story of a netizen.

there was a boy who, at the age of 13, had a very serious illness.The point is taken away from life.

when he was discharged from the hospital, the boy was paralyzed in a wheelchair, and the doctor said a word to his parents:

"this kid will probably have to do this for the rest of his life."

although my parents are very sad, they don't believe in this evil.

massage him every day, practice from the most basic movements, and never give up.

the boy watched the children in the same village go to school every day and could jump and jump, but he was just a drag on his parents. He thought of committing suicide.

but at the same time there is another voice in his head telling him:

Don't give up, take your time, your future is not like this.

in this way, 11 years later, the little boy graduated from the medical university and became a doctor.

there is no hurdle in life that cannot be stepped up. As long as you move forward slowly, hope that there will be, and there will be surprises.

this is the way life is. Everything has its own chronological order.

if you are at the bottom of your life at this time, don't worry, all you have to do is work hard quietly and wait slowly.

I agree with one sentence very much:

"every open life has a great process and just the right wait."

Let yourself calm down, don't worry, you just move forward steadily, keep loving, life has its own arrangements.

Bi Shumin wrote in "as loose as soot"

"be as loose as soot. Only by relaxing will all the potential energy be released and work with you to achieve perfection. "

Don't rush to get the good things, but calm down the bad things.

the way uphill should be slow, and the way downhill should be steady.

remember, health is the capital, and you can't overdraw it at any time.

whatever is exchanged for health is doomed to be empty.

believe that life has its own moment of bloom, life also has the right rhythm, no matter how bad life is, it is a late bloomer.

May we be in no hurry, don't panic, don't run away, take our time, when we get better and better, happiness will come as promised.