writer Feng Tang said:

"educating and managing yourself is the most prerequisite for everything to be done."

people's life is a process of constantly playing games with themselves.

only by constantly defeating yourself and practicing yourself can you live a good life.

A person's self-discipline to the bone is: precepts in words, stops in deeds, and fear in the heart.

speak with caution

abstain from talking

when Confucius looked at the ancestral temple of Houji, Emperor Taizu of Zhou, he saw a bronze figure standing on the steps with three seals on his mouth.

the back of the bronze man is also engraved with a line of inscription: the cautious man in ancient times, abstain from it; if you don't say much, you will lose too much.

the mouth is the door of misfortune, and the tongue is the knife.

from ancient times to the present, examples of disasters caused by being talkative can be found everywhere.

when the army was defeated in successive wars, Yang Xiu lied about the will of his boss and was immediately beheaded by Cao Cao.

Su Shi talked a lot about sensitive topics when the court was in crisis. As a result, Su Shi was relegated and left his hometown.

it is safe to be careful, but it is good to be careful.

it is a skill to be eloquent, but the right silence is the great wisdom of life.

if you can keep your mouth shut and keep your heart, you can avoid trouble and calamity in life.

quit complaining

Zeng Guofan once said:

"if you get too upset, you will always stop later."

if you have grievances in your heart, the aura around you will not go well, and the road of life will become more and more difficult.

put aside the obstacles and laugh at the ups and downs of the world in order to live your own little life.

Mr. Liang Shuming had a difficult time.

he was forced to live in a dilapidated house in the hutong and was ordered to sweep the road and toilet every morning.

but he never frowned. After sweeping the floor diligently every day, he went to Huaqing Pool to take a bath or Beihai Park to do boxing.

he always thought:

"the world will be fine in the future. I am not pessimistic about the future of life."

people live a lifetime, there is gain, there is loss; there is a smooth road, there are ups and downs.

not complaining when things happen, not blaming for setbacks, and maintaining a good state of mind is the best self-discipline in a person's heart.

speak in haste

Bo Yang, a master of humanities, accidentally left his wallet while shopping in an arts and crafts store.

the shopkeeper not only did not remind him, but also secretly hid his wallet.

when he came back to look for it, the shopkeeper shouted guiltily:

"do you suspect me of taking it? Then call the police. "

on hearing this, Bo Yang, who had been worried, immediately flew into a rage.

but he saw that there were so many customers in the store that a quarrel would definitely prevent the shopkeeper from coming down to Taiwan, making the problem more difficult to solve.

so he leaned forward and advised the shopkeeper:

"only by keeping your reputation can you do business well. Don't lose the big because of the small."

seeing that he had a pleasant face and reserved enough dignity for himself, the manager felt ashamed and returned his wallet to him.

the Book of Rites says: "when the water is deep, it flows slowly, and when people are expensive, it is late to speak."

the more impatient you are, the easier it is to say something you regret.

urgent words talk to each other, bad words come out of their mouths, and minor contradictions that don't matter can also break out into an unmanageable mess.

and keep your anger down, if you have something to say slowly, if you run into a big problem, you can win some room for manoeuvre.

the line stops

stop the dispute

many troubles in life come from the word "struggle".

when you encounter a different point of view, you must argue clearly with the other party, and the result becomes more and more ambiguous, wasting energy in vain.

in the face of temporary gains and losses, he had to compete with others to win or lose, but in the end, he became more and more out of control and ended up being beaten by flying eggs.

the pure mind is the Tao, and retrogression is forward.

people who are really rich in heart know that if they don't fight, they would rather give up.

Zhang Zhidong, a famous minister in the late Qing Dynasty, was known as a "non-competing scholar".

has been an official for decades, he has always adhered to his "three indisputable" principle.

first, do not compete with vulgar people for profits, second, do not compete with literati for fame, and third, do not compete with meaningless people for leisure.

regardless of trivial matters, he did not seize fame and gain, and devoted his thoughts to important things, which made his official career bright.

Lin Yutang said:

"Don't argue, it's a big fight.

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contend, then people all over the world will not contend with it.

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No matter whether it is right or wrong, fame or fortune, it can only be won if there is no dispute.

stop corruption

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Yu Gong, the monarch of the State of Yu, was so fond of treasures that he wanted to keep them as soon as he saw them.

once, he took a fancy to his brother Uncle Yu's beautiful jade and asked for it from Uncle Yu.

Uncle Yu did not want to offend him, so he offered Mei Yu to him.

but he was not satisfied, so he thought about Uncle Yu's sword and sent someone to ask for it again.

his insatiable greed angered Uncle Yu, who rose angrily and drove him out of the capital.

in Guanzi Jie:

"the bird that flies high dies of gluttony; the fish of the deep pool dies of bait."

those who cannot control their desires will eventually be destroyed by them.

only by restraining greed and contentment can we handle the temptation in the world of mortals.

stop madness

Mr. Shanyin Jin in the Qing Dynasty once said:

"Don't be crazy. You have your own misfortune and misfortune."

A person's edge is too strong, it will not only burn others, but also set himself on fire.

Mi Heng, a famous scholar at the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty, was brilliant, but he was arrogant and paid no attention to anyone.

he once uttered a lot of words about Cao Cao, who promoted himself, and would appreciate his Liu Biao and scold him bitterly.

after he was demoted to Huang Zu to write a book, he still did not change his position and made rude remarks to Huang Zu in public and scolded him.

Huang Zu lost all his face, angrily ordered him to be executed.

Mi Heng, who could have done something, finally paid the price of his life for his arrogance.

defiant, easy to hold grudges with others, arrogant words and deeds, often lead to resentment.

Life has a long way to go, and when you stand halfway up the mountain and forget yourself, you often fall into a low ebb soon.

A full grain always bends, but a wise man is always gentle.

do not show the scenery, do not be domineering, the more low-key people are, the smoother the road is.

the heart is afraid

revere heaven and earth

the famous Master Hongyi was compassionate and in awe of heaven and earth all his life.

in his eyes, a flower, a grass, a worm and an ant are all creatures.

even before he sat in the rattan chair, he would shake it deliberately to avoid crushing the insects hiding in it.

the relationship between man and nature is not opposition, but harmonious symbiosis.

if man harms nature mercilessly and destroys the environment wantonly, he is bound to suffer evil consequences because of greed and arrogance.

the boomerang thrown at nature will eventually return to human beings.

all things have spirituality. Only by respecting nature and being in awe of life can we get the gift of heaven and earth.

in awe of parents

there is a cloud in the Book of songs:

"mourn my parents, give birth to me exhausted, want to repay the virtue, Haotian turned a deaf ear."

the grace of birth is greater than that of heaven, and the kindness of our parents will never be over in our whole life.

if a person pays no attention to his parents, he will lose the bottom line of being a human being.

No matter how strong the ability is, no matter how powerful it is, it will do no good to the family and society.

and be kind to your parents and be grateful, blessings will come in a steady stream.

in 24 filial piety, there is a famous filial son named Jiang GE.

he ran around behind his mother's back and unfortunately met the robber.

when the bandits saw that he took good care of his mother, they showed mercy and let him live.

after fleeing to the city, he supported his mother as a hired labourer. He was dressed in rags, but his mother had no worries about food and clothing.

the local dignitaries were so moved by this that they recommended him as a filial and honest official.

later, he had a smooth political career and was promoted to five grades, which completely changed his fate.

the world's attitude towards you is often hidden in your attitude towards your parents.

the ancients said:

"only filial piety to your parents can solve your worries."

A family is grateful to its parents and attaches importance to filial piety in order to cultivate the best feng shui.

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Mencius says:

"if a man does not do something, then he can do something."

self-knowledge is the most important thing to be a man, and self-control is the most important thing in dealing with the world.

be cautious about words, observe precepts carefully, and be in awe in order to settle down in the numerous and complicated world.

, be strict with yourself and practice your words and deeds, and the road of life will be wider and wider.

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