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writer Wang Meng said:

"whether a person has a level or not is mainly manifested in speaking."

feel the same way.

people who can talk make people feel like a spring breeze, while people who can't talk make people unhappy.

this is not only reflected in face-to-face communication in daily life, but sometimes Wechat chat will also expose a person's EQ, thinking that there is no need to worry too much about speaking through the screen, and you can express it casually.

as everyone knows, Wechat has long become a social retreat, and your words and deeds have shown your personal image incisively and vividly.

especially those who like to say these four words on Wechat think they are free and direct, but in fact, it is a sign of low EQ.

sarcastic remarks

in moments, there are always some people who like to regard cheap mouth as humor, offense as a joke, and lack of EQ as serious temperament.

when you cheerfully share your achievements, he will criticize and say unpleasant things, as if your honor is not worth mentioning at all.

when you are full of joy and love, he satirizes you strangely that you have never seen the world, and you should show off small gifts that are worthless.

his comments make your daily sharing a joke, making people want to block and block him immediately.

people with low EQ do not know how to speak thoughtfully and take sarcasm of others as fun, so as to gain a sense of superiority and keep people away.

everyone has self-esteem, and when you ridicule and hit others, you are also causing resentment to yourself.

people with high EQ know how to speak and frolic in Wechat chat, and they won't throw cold water on people or tear down the platform at will, making the scene awkward.

communicating with people with more respect and praise can not only warm each other, but also bring each other closer.

rhetorical questions

I believe that many people have such personal experience.

you chat freely in WeChat groups, whether it's asking a question, drawing a conclusion or making a decision, and the next second someone will question you and ask you back.

"you don't know that?"

"can your plan work?"

"it's unreliable at first glance. What do you think?"

his enthusiasm was instantly extinguished by his rhetorical question, which made people at a loss what to do.

this kind of people think that they are superior to others, and they don't seem to have access to people and things around them. They are accustomed to sitting on the sidelines and asking questions, leaving no leeway at all.

writer Xiao Yifan once said:

"the so-called high EQ is never so simple as to speak, but to know when to shut up and put the part you see through in your stomach to save the face of others."

people with high EQ are good at listening to other people's ideas, respecting and affirming their choices. They understand that rashly questioning others is actually pulling themselves down.

only by getting along with others on an equal footing can you get equal respect and recognition.

hurtful words

as the saying goes: good words are warm in three winters, and evil words hurt people in June.

the hurt caused by heart-piercing words is indelible, even on Wechat.

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they like to take things out of context, deliberately distort your meaning, and habitually squeeze you; knowing that you are aggrieved and in a bad mood, they will get to the bottom of your fault.

such people who always chat to death often fail to understand other people's emotions and ignore other people's feelings. They boast that they are straight-tempered and do not beat around the bush. To put it bluntly, they actually have low EQ.

there is a good saying:

"the highest EQ is not slick in all aspects, not able to speak, but goodwill for the sake of others."

it is difficult to warm people's hearts, but it is easy to hurt people's hearts. Sometimes hard-working feelings can be broken with a few mean words without temperature.

being considerate of others, comparing one's heart to heart, without hurting others with words, is the most basic self-discipline in communication between adults.

boast

in today's utilitarian society, there are too many people who set up everywhere and show off their superiority in order to satisfy their vanity. As soon as they open Wechat, they can see him boasting and seeking attention.

the small circle of friends became his "show" in Versailles.

scenery of travel, expensive goods, strong connections, impressive achievements.

the boasting between words is actually empty and pretentious in the eyes of others.

there is no humility, do not know how to keep a low profile, which is also a sign of low EQ.

because of the big lies, made-up lies and modified images, it is easy to expose and make people see jokes.

Maugham wrote in the Moon and sixpence:

"what you have to overcome is your vanity, your desire to show off, and the cleverness you want to show off all the time."

people with rich hearts never exaggerate and show off everything they have. they know that it doesn't mean anything and doesn't prove anything.

when you really have strength, there is no need to boast, it will attract people who admire and praise you.

there is a saying:

"the measure of speaking is the size of being a man."

very often, a person's so-called high EQ is not how eloquent and has the upper hand, but that he has empathy, tolerance and understanding of others, and is able to see things from each other's point of view.

therefore, on the way forward in life, we must learn to say good words. Only in this way can we gain good popularity and go better.unhindered.