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in a speech, someone asked successful entrepreneurs what they should pay attention to when they first enter the workplace.

he said categorically: never judge your colleagues.

90% of what you say to your colleagues will reach the client's ears through various channels.

even if you are right, you will get involved in a messy office struggle.

where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, and the stabbing words in your mouth are sharp swords that slander others and eat yourself.

there are no secrets in this world. To keep your mouth shut is king.

when entrepreneur Kaifu Lee was president of Microsoft China, he interviewed a young man.

this person graduated from a famous school, which was very outstanding, but in the end, he was the first to be eliminated by Lee Kaifu.

because during the interview, Kaifu Lee asked him a question: if your mentor killed your paper, what would you do?

did not expect that young people immediately began to denounce their mentors, how to declare personal enmity, squeeze students, waste teaching resources.

Kaifu Lee asked, "do you really know your mentor?"

this time the young man muttered twice and stopped talking.

Kaifu Lee was very disappointed. After the young man left, he said to HR:

"the first thing he does is not to solve the problem, but to evaluate his teacher, which will be the same when he has friction with his colleagues after working in the future."

in life, we are often like this graduate, eager to fight for ourselves and deliberately avoid the truth.

the result is often that there is no turning back arrow when opening a bow, and there is no room for manoeuvre as soon as the words are exported.

especially making comments at work will only give people the impression that you are naive and unreliable.

writer Liu Yong told a story of "selling melons is not sweet".

there is a professional organization that employs a little girl to recruit students.

the little girl worked very hard and attracted a lot of students for the company and was highly regarded by the leaders.

but in order to climb another tall building, she went so far as to comment on other people's teaching standards in public after many teachers finished their classes.

"this teacher is good, but he is too rigid; that teacher is not good, and his grammar is all wrong."

while belittling others, he doesn't forget to elevate himself: "the person who hasn't touched a high school textbook in four years speaks better than him!"

but the fact is that she is not a normal school major and knows nothing about her current education and examination skills.

as a result, after working for only one month, she was collectively snubbed by her colleagues and resigned and left.

at work, we often meet people who are used to making random comments.

they are partial to the whole, focusing only on the shortcomings of others, and do not have the patience to understand deeply, just to seize the opportunity to show themselves.

in this way, it is not only easy to offend people, but also exposes their own shortsightedness and narrowness.

the more you experience in society, the more you understand the complexity of the world.

those who achieve great things are good at observing calmly, while those who cannot stabilize their minds are eager to tell them what to do.

Charlie Munger once said:

evening gowns with sleeves is definitely the perfect choice you will always cherish. Our collections will surely cater for all kinds of tastes.

"if you fall into a quagmire with a pig, all you can do is go ashore instead of fighting with the pig in the quagmire."

in our work, everyone will encounter unreasonable people and righteous indignation. If we just judge the bad people, it will be ourselves who will be embarrassed in the end.

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# how to evaluate colleagues #

, a netizen shared his experience.

when he first entered the workplace, he well-intentioned pointed out the mistakes in his colleagues' work, but unexpectedly, instead of being grateful, he went to the leader and framed him for unfair competition.

as a result, I was punished together with my colleagues.

someone in the message area asked him: if you meet bad people at work, how do you evaluate them?

if you rush for the road with the dog, you will be covered with dust even if you win; if you reason with the bad man, you will not take advantage of it if you are right.

when Cao Dewang first set up a glass factory, he invited two experts, Xiao Lin and Lao Wu, from Shanghai.

at first, the three worked together happily. But while they were doing it, the two experts began to dawdle along.

Cao Dewang couldn't get used to it and muttered a few words to the shareholder. Unexpectedly, Xiao Lin and Lao Wu quickly came to the door, saying that he should not snitch behind his back.

Cao Dewang decided that he was upright and not afraid of shadow deviation, but soon the board kicked him out of the center of power.

it turns out that Xiao Lin and Lao Wu have already arranged up and down.

after this incident, Cao Dewang learned a truth: Tao is different from each other, but there is no need to say anything more.

, he was demoted to a salesman, set his heart on running customers, and slowly built up his own network, laying the eggs for starting a business in the future.

at work, the more narrow-minded people are, the more they care about the evaluation of the outside world.

even if you mean well, your good advice is not welcome.

the more you talk, the more taboo the other person is; the more right you are, the more disgusted others become.

in the end, obviously it's not your fault, but you let yourself become a thorn in the side of others.

in Bing Xin's Stars, there is a poem:

"High-flying birds, why quarrel with the same kind in the cage? you have your own sky."

discuss the length with the villain, but in the end, you will only drag yourself into the quagmire.Oh, embarrassed.

restraining the desire to speak is a rare form of self-discipline and a kind of self-protection.

Carnegie wrote in the weakness of Human Nature:

"Socrates says that he knows nothing and that I am far less intelligent than Socrates, so I will never judge anyone and just focus on doing my own thing. Facts have proved that this is effective. "

at work, as Carnegie said: talk less and do more.

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@ Niu Fei

, he talked about his work experience.

when I just joined the profession, I was assigned to work as an intern in the secretarial team. I had a lot of contact with leaders and intersected with various departments.

therefore, he was able to get a lot of inside information and the work of his colleagues for the first time.

many cunning old colleagues saw that he was inexperienced in society and often leaned over to set him up.

either ask who is close to the leader, or guide Niufei to make a negative evaluation of his competitors.

after some inquiring, the old foxes pretended to praise Niu Fei, but soon brought a lot of trouble to Niu Fei.

someone complained to the leader that Niu Fei leaked trade secrets and disrupted the work schedule.

someone clashed with him face to face, saying that he was not qualified to stand here and speak at all.

after his internship, he didn't have any highlights in his work, but he got into a lot of trouble.

when the leader saw that he was a top student in a famous school, he made an exception and left him behind, but also warned solemnly: "do your work and keep your mouth shut!"

since then, Niu Fei learned a lesson from the bitter experience, devoted himself to his work, never judged anyone again, and slowly achieved the middle level of the company.

if a newcomer asks him for workplace experience, the sentence he says most often is:

try not to say what you can not say, and do as much as you can.

by putting our words into action, we can shield ourselves from interference and settle down to do the task at hand.

Kazuo Inamori admires a coal stove worker with only a junior high school degree.

the worker is clumsy, never takes part in any chat between colleagues, and burns the coal stove like a mute all day.

but more than a decade later, with this steadfastness, he became minister of career and was deeply loved by his employees.

Kazuo Inamori lamented: "it turns out that if you work in a down-to-earth manner, you can also make a person."

the mediocre is noisy, but the wise is silent.

if you want to make a difference in your work, you must get out of the dispute in time and let yourself practice on things.

Don't waste time on people who aren't worth it, let alone argue about meaningless things.

keep your distance from the hustle and bustle, let alone become the one who creates topics in the circle.

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Wang Xiaobo said:

"you seldom learn human nature from words, but you can learn from silence. If you want to learn more, you must remain silent. "

Life is a silent practice, with eyes learning to do things and mouths learning to be human.

those who can walk a long way are always those who are quiet and calm.

, from today on, we should exercise self-restraint, be cautious in words and deeds, and would rather be speechless than talk too much.

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