have you ever felt this way?

when I wake up in the morning, my first reaction is no longer to look forward to the beginning of a new day, but to feel painful and even don't want to face it at all.

I finally struggled to get up, but I felt powerless and there was no point in doing anything.

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I don't want to talk or socialize. I don't seem to be happy for a long time. I always fall into sadness and despair because of little things.

if you have these performances, you are likely to have an "emotional cold"-mild depression.

people with mild depression tend to feel depressed, tired and powerless, pessimistic and world-weary.

they tend to talk about the following five mantras. If you often say it, you should pay attention to adjusting your attitude.

"I am really a useless person"

psychologist Freud once said:

"when a person is addicted to sadness, he will feel that the world is empty; when a person is depressed, he will feel empty."

people who are depressed feel worthless and accomplish nothing. They are used to looking at themselves in a negative way, focusing on their own shortcomings and shortcomings, so they always deny themselves.

have seen such a story:

A Jing, who achieved excellent grades from childhood to college, suffered from depression after trying to be admitted to an ideal university.

although she is excellent to outsiders, she has always been dissatisfied with herself and even thinks she is a "useless person".

after communicating with a psychiatrist, she suddenly realized that her inner pain came from her mother's favorite sentence: "look at others, and then look at you."

depressed people tend to attach their own value to the evaluation of others, after being hit and denied, they slowly begin to feel: I am really useless, I do not deserve to be appreciated.

in the long run, it will lead to emotional depression.

"I haven't been sleeping well lately"

there is a topic on Zhihu: "what is the experience of depression and insomnia?"

A netizen wrote this paragraph:

"for more than a month of drowsiness, looking at the street lights at two or three o'clock in the morning every day, I have a splitting headache.

lying in bed tossing and turning, falling asleep, only to wake up more than an hour later, over and over again, waiting for time to pass. "

it is said that sleep is the cure for everything, but for depressed people, it is difficult even to fall asleep, and it is a luxury to get a good night's sleep.

they do not think too much, nor are they not tired or sleepy enough, but they are already very sleepy and tired. They close their eyes for several hours, and their consciousness is still awake, so they get through the sleepless nights.

if you are depressed because of troubles recently and only have insomnia within three or five days, don't have too much psychological burden and try to adjust your state of mind.

if you have such problems for a long time, please do not endure the pain silently, seek professional help and actively cooperate with the treatment, which is an important step out of the predicament.

here, share two "sleep-aiding tips" for you who often suffer from insomnia:

thoughts before going to bed

find a comfortable sleeping position to lie down, close your eyes, imagine yourself lying on a boat on the lake, the boat gently shaking, in front of the endless blue sky, you can feel some dizziness.

"4-7-8" sleep breathing

after exhaling through your mouth, close your mouth, inhale gently through your nose, and count 4 seconds in your heart; then hold your breath and count 7 seconds;

exhale through your mouth for 8 seconds, then go back to the inhale step, repeat the routine a few times, and you'll feel sleepy.

"I'm so tired"

"I really don't have any strength, and I feel tired even breathing. I didn't do anything, but I felt very tired. "

many people with depression feel this way.

in fact, the "tiredness" felt by mild depression is not caused by physical labor, but a sense of powerlessness emanating from the heart.

they can't help thinking about a little thing or a sentence over and over again, and they are used to looking at things from a pessimistic point of view, even if nothing happens, they have thought of the worst outcome.

at work, I disagree with my colleagues, which affects the progress of my work. I always feel that I will be hated by all my colleagues.

in the WeChat group, after sending a sentence, they repeatedly wondered whether there was something wrong with their words, or what they had done to offend everyone.

they struggle with their brains and their thoughts and fears every day, and they feel exhausted.

"it's all my fault"

success is a happy thing, but depressed people don't feel it.

when Ta succeeds, it is considered lucky; when Ta fails, it is all its own fault.

therefore, they are often in guilt and remorse, thinking that everything is "their own fault".

they live carefully for fear of doing anything wrong, for fear of involving anyone, but their hearts are still occupied by guilt.

"Why everyone else is fine, but I am the only one who has become like this. Is it all my fault?" This is the voice of depression.

I want to tell you that it's depression.

it affects your judgment, so that you can only see your own imperfections and mistakenly think that all your mistakes are your fault.

but in the eyes of others, these mistakes may have nothing to do with you.

once saw a piece of news on the Internet:

there was a great student who ended his life at the same age as a flower.

before she died, she had complained to her sister about the pressure of work.

she once said something like this: "recently, I often make mistakes at work. I feel like I can't do anything well. I'm very disappointed in myself."

mistakes in work are not necessarily her fault, but her sense of responsibility is so strong that she blames herself for all the mistakes, so that the heavy psychological burden overwhelms her.

A depressed person is used to self-attack, no matter what happens, always find his own reason first, and thus have a strong sense of self-remorse, allowing himself to be overwhelmed by negative emotions.

"so boring"

for depressed people, the world seems to be only gray, there is no life, and work and life have lost their meaning.

you, who used to love sports, suddenly become lazy; you, who used to like shopping, are now unwilling to go out.

what you used to be passionate about, but now you don't have any interest or motivation to do anything. You should be careful at this time.

people with mild depression lose their energy, are not interested in anything, don't like to see people, don't want to talk, don't want to socialize, and everything is "so boring" in their view.

if you often feel "so boring", it doesn't matter, accept that you don't want to do anything right now, and believe that it's only temporary.

when you come out of your emotions, you will find that life is still good and happiness is simple.

when you are in better shape, give priority to small things that can give you a sense of achievement, and slowly find the joy of life and motivation to work hard.

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prone to insomnia, feeling tired, remorse, loss of energy and interest, these are all manifestations of depression, but depression can sometimes be overcome on its own.

when a person has the above mantras, don't be too worried and afraid, and don't sit in the right seat.

because in the case of great stress in life, many people will have negative emotions and face the emotional problems in order to reconcile with it.

I suggest that you can try the following two ways to dispel emotions first:

pour out actively and look for an outlet for emotional catharsis. Tell someone you trust about your stress and troubles, and you will feel much more relaxed after talking about it.

chat with friends, distract attention by listening to music, painting, writing, etc., and minimize the time spent alone in the room.

if your depression has affected your daily life, study and work, don't despair about it.

because depression is not terrible, please go to a regular hospital for timely medical treatment, or to a professional psychological counseling institution for treatment. I believe everything will be all right.

maybe you haven't been feeling well lately, don't worry too much, you just have an "emotional cold".

, please remember that you are not alone, someone will always love you, and there will always be someone to accompany you.