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teacher Luo Xiang once asked netizens:

"do you like reading romance novels, listening to funny jokes, or reading Shakespeare?

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many people immediately chose the first two.

ask again: what if you choose one for the child?

almost everyone chose Shakespeare again.

back to life, I lost 10 jin after eating a masterpiece in a week and running for half a year. Is happy; browse video, play games, eat midnight snacks, buy and buy. And happy. Which one would you choose?

some people ask: it's all happiness. What's the difference?

there is a big difference. Rising to the scientific level, the two hormones that they act on the human body are very different:

watching a funny video, the brain immediately secretes dopamine, but the feeling of relief is fleeting; and the higher happiness comes from endorphins.

it requires us to overcome our instincts and keep making progress in order to enjoy more lasting and down-to-earth pleasure.

there is a good saying: teenagers only know dopamine and middle-aged people know endorphins.

what kind of happiness to pursue not only determines the quality of life, but also the watershed between people.

dopamine is easy to get, but endorphins are hard to get

have you ever had this experience?

I plan to browse the video for ten minutes before going to bed, and two hours have passed in the twinkling of an eye.

I wanted to get up early for running, but after the alarm went off, I decided to talk about it next time.

make up your mind to lose weight, but a little takeout barbecue is essential.

this is like the psychological "melon seed effect". Once you pick up the first one, you can't help but take the second and third until your mouth is dry and upset.

on the one hand, we are unable to extricate ourselves from the feeling of being at our fingertips, while at the same time we are saddened by our own depravity and become increasingly confused.

Brown, founder of Silicon Valley dopamine laboratory, once did an experiment.

he applied neuroscience theories to the code, such as timely likes, virtual currencies and other reward mechanisms.

then according to big data's algorithm, success keeps people in their favorite entertainment all the time.

in today's developed online world, it is difficult to resist the temptation of low-level happiness.

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it's like having a bad friend who knows you well, who can always follow your preferences and make you happy now, but regret it later.

compared with dopamine, endorphins are "bitter first and then sweet".

No matter whether it is windy or rainy, the sprint does not stop, after a few months, the belly is gone, and the person is young; turn off the game, open the book, sign up for a course, think actively and not panic after a year.

what I thought was hard at that time, looking back has become a worthwhile experience, helping you to become a better self.

therefore, dopamine belongs to instant heartbeat and is a happiness trap, while endorphins are long-term beauty and a source of happiness.

pursue dopamine or endorphin

is the root of the gap between people

blogger

@ Evolution

, I said something enlightening:

"there is not much difference in talent, but there is a big difference in final achievement." In addition to circumstances, luck, etc., the most fundamental thing is that some people go on the road of pursuing dopamine, while others choose endorphins.

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spend time on low-level entertainment. Instead of living 365 days a year, it's more like living one day, repeating it 364 times.

Weibo, some people shared that they found a very leisurely job after graduation, from nine to five every day.

I began to play mobile games as soon as I got off work, one game after another. When I became addicted, I even had to make up lies and ask for leave. As a result, I was competed by my peers before the internship was over.

but after losing his job, he still can't get rid of the temptation of playing games, eating old and seeking excitement in the virtual world at the same time.

A year passed in the twinkling of an eye, and when he learned that his colleague who joined the industry had already been promoted and got a raise, he felt very lost and complained on the Internet: "am I useless?" I hate myself so much. "

dopamine happiness is the word "cool". It doesn't take any effort to enjoy it.

but there is no free lunch in the world, and the satisfaction of your advance needs to be repaid with double pain.

Media person

@ Classical

has shared his entrepreneurial experience.

fearing that he would be "flattered" by this comfortable life, he was determined to resign and take the initiative to be abused.

meet the difficult party A, stay up all night to revise the plan; if you are not familiar with the field, lower your posture and start from scratch.

despite being shut out and embarrassed, he survived one by one and became a well-known business coach.

Today, he is busy and happy in his field of expertise.

the smooth road is easy to walk, but it is difficult to climb the path, but only by choosing the latter will you have a chance to go to the top of the mountain to see more beautiful scenery.

as Aristotle said:

"in the pursuit of happiness, compared with animals, the happiness that people pursue should be more advanced and great."

the threshold for dopamine happiness is very low. If you walk into it easily, you will only fall into the quagmire of desire.

the threshold for endorphin happiness seems high, but if you climb it step by step, you can gain peace of mind and a better self.

because only the happiness gained through hard workIn order to make people not afraid of loss and peace of mind.

highest self-discipline:

stay away from dopamine and close to endorphins

the book "can't stop" lists the factors that lead to addiction:

tempting goals, positive feedback, unresolved tension, etc.

for example, as long as you post a few refined pictures on WeChat moments, you can feel friendly feedback from the outside world in giving likes.

work is too stressful, but if you stay up all night watching TV shows, you can forget your worries for a while.

but paralyzing ourselves with dopamine happiness will only make us stop working hard and endure inner anxiety day after day.

to switch to the endorphin track, you need extreme self-discipline and practical methods.

① is busy in a planned way, using micro-habits to obtain endorphins

our brains are naturally lazy, and when temptation comes, the subconscious induces you to indulge in low-level entertainment.

if you understand this, you can't reject dopamine across the board, but deliberately practice using micro-habits to obtain endorphins.

for example, play your cell phone for 1 hour, get up and do 30 minutes of yoga, play two games, and go to the gym to work out.

by gradually replacing aimless indulgence with planned busyness, you will continue to get more endorphins.

② artificially increases the cost of getting comfort

chatting with a friend the other day, she said that she had deleted all the relevant app in order not to browse the video.

at first she felt uncomfortable, but then she simply lost her cell phone, doing housework, doing sports and reading books.

this artificially increased the cost of getting comfort, but let her reap a lot of high-level happiness.

as the saying goes, if you cut off the back road of dopamine, you can naturally embark on the road of pursuing endorphins.

③ restrain one's desires, the simpler life is, the happier life is

scientists have done an experiment. Hang a lamp in the cage and give the monkey juice as soon as the light is on.

after repeating many times, the monkeys were in no mood to do anything else and waited for the lights all day. Look at the lights on, and hope that the juice can be given a little more, as a result, there is no increase in juice, the monkeys become restless in disappointment.

pleasure under the manipulation of desire will eventually become a kind of torture.

writer Song Mo once said:

"We often enter such a strange circle: we always think that if we get something we have longed for for a long time, we will be stable and satisfied."

but after I really got it, I felt that it was nothing more than this, and the greater desire immediately followed, and the person became more and more tired.

True happiness is not a low-level pastime controlled by desire, but a higher enjoyment.

back to the question at the beginning, how did Luo Xiang choose?

he said: all pleasure is an instant thing, and the true happiness of human beings is a permanent effort.

it's fun to browse videos and stay up late, but why do you panic more and more in this happiness?

on the contrary, when you don't want to move, you insist on going to the gym; when you are tired, you get up to study; when you want to lie flat, you insist on doing a good job, but you can feel a kind of peace of mind.

low-level happiness is like bright fireworks, short-term happiness is scattered, and high-level happiness is like still water flowing deep, Cangsheng stepping on the song.

when you learn to stay away from dopamine and get close to endorphins, believe me, you will feel completely free.

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