some time ago, Wu Tongmei, Jia Jingwen's 17-year-old eldest daughter, became popular, causing netizens to talk about it.

the reason is that she posted her "hot girl" dress on her personal social platform.

low-cut suit, small waist, mesh stockings.

it is hard to imagine that this 17-year-old underage girl has vaguely revealed a little sexy.

some people say that her clothes are too mature and open.

some people also say that Wutong Girl is not like a student, it's a long story.

in fact, as parents, they will be more or less unhappy to see their daughter dressed so "mature".

the same is true of stepfather Xiu Jiekai, but when he reminded his daughter to wear it in the comments section, he was choked by his daughter: "I don't need you to take care of it!" I ate a lot of ash.

the seemingly negative words are full of "jokes" between father and daughter.

in fact, Xiu Jie Kai has always cared for Wu Tong Mei, and he also told the media during the interview that he hoped that she would dress comfortably, but he would also respect Wutong Mei's idea.

when mother Jia Jingwen was asked the same question, her attitude was surprisingly consistent with that of Xiu Kai Jie. From the point of view of husband and wife: children have their own choice, just remind them appropriately and respect their freedom of choice.

guiding, but not interfering with, is a subject that many parents will never learn.

this is the most rare thing about being a parent.

but do not turn this kind of love into the shackles that bind the child, in order to walk into the deep heart of the child.

in Wu Tong Mei's world, Jia Jingwen and Xiu Jiekai are the people who step by step into her heart and illuminate her world.

be a parent

how hard can it be for children?

at the age of 26, Jia Jingwen's love came quietly.

she fell in love with Sun Zhihao, the son of a wealthy family, married, and gave birth to daughter Wu Tong Mei.

in the eyes of outsiders, Jia Jingwen has had a bumper harvest in her career and love, and this woman who has experienced hardships and hardships has finally been reborn.

but the fact is that what Jia Jingwen faced in her marriage was Sun Zhihao's domestic violence, infidelity, and mother-in-law's insolence and bullying.

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after swallowing it for four years, Jia Jingwen finally chose to put an end to this unbearable relationship.

she and Sun Zhihao officially signed the divorce.

however, the nightmare did not press the pause button.

Hugo said: "Women are fragile, but mothers are strong."

Yes, domestic violence did not bring her down, a bad marriage did not bring her down, and her daughter was her only light in those difficult times.

but the cruelest thing for a mother is the divorce from her daughter.

Jia Jingwen, who was "badly hurt", failed to get out. She was greeted by a three-year battle for a daughter with her ex-husband.

Jia Jingwen collapsed in front of the media many times: "I just want to see my children. I haven't seen my daughter for a long time."

she hasn't received any news about her daughter these days. Where is it? Who takes care of her? Are you crying? Do you miss your mother?

as a mother, she was tortured out of character, haggard on the outside, lonely and desperate inside.

No one knows how obsessed a mother is.

her collapse and crying are only a moment in front of outsiders, but day and night behind people's eyes.

finally, Jia Jingwen did it.

for the sake of her daughter, after paying her ex-husband NT $26 million, she finally let her daughter Wu Tong Mei come back.

No one knows how much strength and courage it took to fight alone, but she still won.

this 26 million is how much it cost her to knock on the door to see her daughter.

Maternal love

is the strength of a child's life

when her daughter went home, Jia Jingwen finally got rid of the heart-wrenching struggle with her ex-husband.

but then came the sadness of raising the child on her own.

at that time, Jia Jingwen was already at the lowest point of her career, coupled with the extremely sensitive Wutong sister and the extreme lack of sense of security at that time, which made Jia Jingwen, as a mother, physically and mentally exhausted.

Wutong Mei, who experienced her father's domestic violence and was forced to separate from her mother, is no better than Jia Jingwen.

she is so self-abased and sensitive that she often hides in the wardrobe and says she wants to "get hit by a car".

Jia Jingwen felt very uncomfortable when she looked at the child like this, but she could not show it, but she just wept silently where the child could not see it.

in front of Wu Tong Mei, she will always be an optimistic and patient mother.

Jia Jingwen can't fall down. what she needs to do is to insist on taking her daughter to see a psychiatrist.

she needs to comfort her daughter when it is difficult for her daughter to control her bad mood and say:

"Mom knows you're angry now, and Mom knows it! But don't do anything stupid. Mom will face it with you. "

as long as she has time every day, Jia Jingwen accompanies her daughter.

No matter how busy or tired she is, she tries to find time to send Wu Tong Mei to school, eat with Wu Tong Mei, and tell Wu Tong Mei bedtime stories.

taking good care of Wu Tong Mei has become the most important thing in Jia Jingwen's life.

later, Jia Jingwen married Xiu Jiekai, Sun Zhihao remarried, and both had their own families.

Wu Tong Mei felt abandoned by her parents and burst into tears.

Jia Jingwen will still patiently comfort Wu Tong Mei: "daughter, your umbilical cord is connected to mine, and your heart is also connected to your father's heart."

it is precisely because of Jia Jingwen's firmness and persistence that Wu Tong Mei came out slowly. She cured Wutong sister with the patience and love of a mother.

in addition to the maternal love given by Jia Jingwen, there is another person who has to be mentioned in Wu Tong Mei's life.

he is Xiu Jiekai, the stepfather of Wu Tong Mei.

he and Jia Jingwen take care of and accompany Wu Tong Mei together, giving selfless love and acceptance to their children.

Jia Jingwen was unable to accompany Wu Tong Mei in filming, so Xiu Jie Kai alone took Wu Tong Mei to the amusement park for a happy day.

even for the trip of Jia Jingwen and Xiu Jiekai, Xiu Jiekai offered to bring Wu Tong Mei with him. As a result, two people travel, become three people travel.

Xiu Jiekai's love for Wu Tong Mei is not a family affection in which blood is thicker than water, but it has long been irreplaceable.

Jia Jingwen often said that Xiu Jiekai paid a lot for the reason why Wu Tong Mei could grow up to be an optimistic and cheerful child.

so, if you look at Wutong Mei now, she doesn't have any inferiority complex. She is optimistic, confident and cheerful.

every love given to Wu Tong Mei by Jia Jingwen and Xiu Jiekai has been transformed into her confidence and growth.

Let go but not indulge

is the best education

as a mother, Jia Jingwen did her best to fight for the custody of her daughter.

before remarriage, he even asked Xiu Jiekai to "love the Wutong sister", and the maternal love was dripping and exquisite.

Let's take a look at Xiu Jiekai, who, as a stepfather, can remind Wu Tong Mei in a close manner, call for guidance, and let go without indulgence. Deep fatherly love is restrained and strong.

he could have "turned a blind eye", but because he loved Wu Tong, he had to point it out to her face and tell her what was right and what was wrong. Also does not interfere with the child's choice, gives her certain freedom space.

the love they give to their children is always based on respect for their children.

17-year-old Wu Tong Mei shared a lot of her personal life online.

full of publicity personality, but also full of self-confidence and optimism.

from her approval of Xiu Jiekai, it is not difficult to see that although Wu Tong Mei is rebellious, she does not deny the love from her stepfather.

as a father, too much interference will make the child rebellious; but if he does not interfere, how can he care about the child?

letting go without indulgence is the wisdom of Xiu Jiekai's relationship with Wu Tong Mei.

there is a saying: "We can't pay too much attention to our children's social interaction, but we must keep our children's safety line."

parents don't have to worry about everything about their children's affairs.

as long as the child's behavior is within a safe range, parents and children maintain a certain safe distance, which is more conducive to the formation of a good parent-child relationship.

but once the child is found to have crossed the safety line, parents must come forward and remind them in time to pull the child back into the safety zone.

that is to say, parents' love for their children must be limited.

as Yi Nengjing said in her letter to her son, "proper withdrawal is the greatest love your mother gives you in your life, but you just have to remember that as long as you look back, we are all here."

I think so.

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Love, which lets go but does not indulge, is the most precious gift that parents give to their children.

grow up together. The original title: "Jia Jingwen's daughter wearing sexy clothes attracted heated discussion, but her stepfather dissuaded her from complaining!" Netizen: "how did it become like this at the age of 17?" ".

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