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writer Fu Shide said: "the common problem of modern people is that they are keen to have everything."

We are always pursuing all kinds of more advanced material comforts, from satisfying food and clothing to having a car and a house.

after finally buying a house and a car, I want a bigger house and a more luxurious car.

seems to pursue the best all the time, so that you can get happiness.

do not realize that in many cases, the lower the level of life, the closer the spirit is to true freedom and happiness.

as Thoreau once advocated in Walden: the more you let go, the richer you get.

2023 begins, please try to live a low-equipped life.

low-level substances

do you feel that our life is becoming more and more crowded?

the basic needs of life are constantly packaged and publicized, and people's desires rise with the tide.

there are more and more useless things at home, and the living space is getting smaller and smaller, making people upset.

if you want to have an easy life in the new year, you might as well lower your material life.

in 2022, I went to Beijing on business for work reasons. I stopped by to visit Lu Xun's former residence in Beijing.

there, I saw Lu Xun's "Tiger tail" study.

the area of the study is small and the furnishings inside are extremely simple.

there is only a small desk, a simple bookshelf and a very narrow wooden bed.

I can't help thinking that the study is full of stationery, and even the desks and chairs for writing and office have been changed several times, so I can't help but feel ashamed.

"Xiaoyaoyou" says: "the wren nests in the deep forest, but one branch; the mouse drinks the river, but its stomach is full."

Wren only needs a branch to build its nest in the forest, and the mole can drink water by the river and fill its stomach.

it's the same with people. We don't really need much.

the blind pursuit of too much material will become a yoke that binds us.

in the new year, reduce your material desires, subtract from life, and greet every day with a simple and light attitude.

low-end consumption

at the end of the year, the consumption report for 2022 is also fresh.

looking at the report, I believe many people wonder where all my hard-earned money has been spent.

looking through the details of the bill, you can always find that you have a lot of unnecessary expenses.

making money is like picking dirt with a needle, spending like a wave of sand, and saving like a stone to fill the sea. This is the financial situation of most of us.

in the new year, it's time to start low-profile consumption.

record consumption details

if you are always "moonlight" and don't know where the money is spent, then you must learn to keep accounts.

for example, you can use accounting software or a notebook to record every income and expense.

every once in a while, do a review and adjust your consumption habits in time.

in this way, you can know how much you earn, where you spend it, and what the surplus is.

spend your money in important places

entrepreneur Tan Kah Kee once said, "tens of millions of dollars should be spent, and every penny should be saved."

reduce unnecessary expenses, and never spend money that blindly follows the trend and spends on impulse.

before you spend money, ask yourself three questions:

does this money have to be spent? Will you regret it after spending it? What will happen if you don't spend it?

spending money is not the end, the goal is to live a better life by spending money.

the smartest thing to do is to spend your money where it is worth it and live a cost-effective life.

time savings

money is not only the strength of life, the decency of walking in the world, but also the umbrella of accidents.

recommend an interesting way to save money-365 savings method.

choose one of the numbers from 1to 365 every day to save a sum of money, and check out the corresponding number in the following picture.

for example, if you deposit 10 yuan, check out the number 10.

the amount of money saved every day during the year cannot be repeated.

when you fill in the figures, you can save 66795 yuan in a year.

low-configuration target

the new year is coming. Have you achieved the goals you set last year?

at the beginning of the year, he said that he would read 100 books, practice his abdominal waistcoat, and get a promotion and a raise to the peak of his life.

at the end of the year, did those goals fail to achieve much?

A life without a plan is like a headless fly, but having too many goals will only make people scramble.

in the new year, try a different approach, with a low goal, starting bit by bit.

streamlining goals

everyone wants to be thin, good-looking, knowledgeable and rich.

but each person has only one pair of hands and two eyes, only 24 hours in a day and 30 days in a month.

if every goal is to be achieved, it is likely to beIt will be in vain.

streamline your goals and plan to do only one or two of the most important things a year.

you will find that execution is not as difficult as you think.

split target

Lenin once said: "if you want to move towards a big goal, you have to start with a small goal."

dividing big goals into specific action plans can reduce brain resistance.

if you want to read 100 books a year, set aside 15 minutes a day to read;

if you want to have a strong physique, you should walk more and take fewer cars on your way to and from work.

if your goal is to raise your salary, do everything at hand first.

set your goals so small that they can be accomplished easily, and you will have a sense of achievement.

this sense of achievement is psychologically called "self-efficacy", which makes us more willing to stick to it.

gradually, a small goal pushes you, and before you know it, you are getting closer and closer to achieving your goal.

low-profile social networking

in the past year, have you been dealing with all kinds of social activities, smiling even if you are exhausted?

whether you feel empty and tired after a lively party.

all interactions in the world have a cost, and getting along with people who are not worth it consumes your own energy.

2023, lower your social profile and bring these types of people out of your life.

stay away from wine and meat friends

flesh-and-wine friends are called brothers at the wine table, but the relationship is the most fragile.

once you get into trouble and need help, these people will stay away.

meaningless dinners push as long as they can; friends who play and amuse themselves are silently estranged.

A wine board that is not worth it will bring you nothing but emptiness after the excitement.

stay away from people who are ungrateful

have you ever met people who take everything but are ungrateful in your life?

they take your kindness for granted, draining your enthusiasm and kindness.

your warm-blooded heart is not warm enough to cover an impersonal heart.

in the new year, stop wronging yourself.

do not want to help, do not want to go to the appointment, simply refuse.

stay away from these people and don't let your kindness be betrayed.

stay away from people with negative energy

emotions between people are contagious.

A person with negative energy, like a black hole, will absorb all the good mood of the people around him.

stay with them for a long time, your life becomes a mess.

Martin Seligman, the father of psychology, said:

"in the face of those around you who are easy to bring negative energy to others, if you are not a psychiatrist and cannot have a strong mind to digest other people's negative energy, then silent alienation and shielding is the best choice.

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instead of spending energy with pessimists, make up your mind to stay away.

whether it is work or study, only positive and optimistic people can give us nutrients and lead us to grow.

low-end expectation

there is a question on Zhihu: what is the source of one's pain?

there is a high praise to answer for a while: have high expectations for everything.

most of the time, it is not that happiness is too difficult, but that we are kidnapped by our own high expectations.

in the new year, lower your expectations and feel the "little luck" in ordinary life.

lower expectations of children

A survey conducted by the Youth newspaper showed that about 70% of parents had high expectations of their children, and about 60% of the parents surveyed would envy "other people's children."

when the eyes are focused on high expectations, children are under heavy pressure, parents are also full of anxiety, and the whole family is in a state of tension.

in the new year, you might as well lower your requirements on your children and accept their mediocrity.

maybe his grades are not excellent, but he is clever and sensible and doesn't let you worry about it.

maybe he is not careful enough, but he is careless and never takes criticism to heart.

explore the bright spots of children in order to gain a relaxed family atmosphere.

reduce expectations of friends

have there been moments in the past year when you were secretly disappointed in your friends?

in fact, in this world, everyone has his own troubles and sorrows, walking together in the wind and rain, others can not help.

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Napoleon said, "there are not enough people to rely on. You have to rely on yourself to survive."

only when we let go of our high expectations of others and accumulate our own strength can we make the road of life wider and wider.

lighten your expectations of yourself

writer Ma de said: "I gradually understand why I am not happy, because I am always looking forward to a result."

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read a book and expect it to make me deep, run for a while and expect it to make me lose weight, send a Wechat message expecting it to be replied, and expecting others to be treated well.

but in fact, not all expectations can lead to a good result.

most expectations of life are doomed to fail.

you might as well have a normal heart and reconcile with the things in life that go against your wishes.

learn to let go even if many things don't live up to your expectations.

when you reduce the periodWait, the rest of my life will be full of surprises.

low mood

you've probably had a few sleepless nights in the past year.

wrestling with my emotions in the dark, I don't know how to solve it, and it's hard to let it go.

the new year begins, let go of the emotions you should let go and be kind to yourself.

to yourself-- no internal friction

Mr. Toad goes to see a psychiatrist:

"No criticism is stronger than self-criticism, and no judge is harsher than ourselves."

A person's greatest pain is to embarrass himself.

when you are always pessimistic, self-blaming and procrastinating, you use up your energy without external pressure.

getting out of your emotions in time is the best way to redeem yourself.

when you are irritable, go out for a run and let the boredom go out with the sweat.

when you are sad, watch a movie and turn your attention to what you like.

when you take action, you will find that those negative emotions have long been put aside and finally disappear.

be angry with others-- don't get angry

in life, everyone has moments of anger, which may be slandered or provoked for no reason.

however, after the fury, all the consequences have to be borne by yourself.

as the writer Liu Na said: "emotion is a gun, when we pull the trigger, the gun is actually aimed at ourselves."

whenever you want to get angry, restrain yourself for a while.

emotion management expert Dr. Ronald has shown that stormy anger tends to last no more than 12 seconds.

when you are in a mood, take a deep breath and give yourself 12 seconds to calm down.

do not say angry words, do not do hurtful actions, so that many unnecessary conflicts have been avoided.

Feng Zikai said

"since there is no pure land, it is better to meditate. Since you didn't get what you wanted, you might as well be relieved. "

can't change the environment, so relax and live in the present.

in the new year, take good care of your mood without internal friction, impatience and anxiety.

only when you are free from the shackles of emotion and take care of your heart, can you have long-term complacency and happiness.

over the past year, we have been burdened with so much that we have come to realize the value of returning to real life.

as the old saying goes: the road is simple, but complexity is in the hearts of the people.

the real low profile is to simplify your life and focus on something valuable.

when you can restrain your desires and not be influenced by the outside world, you can be free and easy and live what you want.

, in 2023, Vientiane will renew, enjoy the life of low configuration, nourish the soul of high configuration, and reap the happiness of top match.