writer Qin Sang said: "the real inner strength is that after you have developed a suit of armor, you will no longer be easily stabbed by others."

in the past, we used to have mixed feelings for one sentence, tossing and turning for one thing, and losing ourselves for one person.

it was later discovered that the wisest way to live is to block the interference of others and live your own small life.

when you try not to care about others, you win.

don't care about other people's emotions

Kaifu Lee worked as a department director at Apple in his early years.

at a meeting, an employee was very dissatisfied with the requirements of the company because his wife and friend had been laid off, so he took it out on Kaifu Lee.

he deliberately said a lot of vulgar and nasty things in front of Kaifu Lee.

after hearing this, Kaifu Lee felt a trace of displeasure and thought:

although the other party behaved unusually rudely, he also expressed the feelings of other employees.

as a department director, he represents the interests of the company, and can not affect the normal progress of work because of a moment of anger.

so Kaifu Lee calmly told each other that this is a very difficult time for you, for me and for the company.

I understand how you feel. After you calm down, if you have any suggestions, please tell me what you think is the most appropriate thing to do.

later, the employee apologized to Lee privately and thanked him for not embarrassing him in front of the whole team.

I have heard a sentence:

"people are affected not because others have emotions, but because they have no boundaries."

all people have their own joys and sorrows, but their ability to adjust their emotions is different.

once you have excessive empathy, you will fall into the emotional cage of others and drain your mental energy.

learn to build a barrier against excessive fermentation of negative energy.

Life is too short to punish yourself with other people's mistakes. It is wise to avoid negative magnetic fields in time.

don't care about other people's comments

there is a saying in "Cultural Journey":

"maturity is a kind of calmness that no longer needs to observe others, an atmosphere that finally stops appealing around for help, and a smile that ignores the noise."

Life is about raising your own heart, not other people's eyes.

all the works of the magazine are written and serialized by one person.

at that time, a university professor looked down on Zheng Yuanjie, who looked down on primary school culture, and put down such a cruel remark: "if such a monthly magazine can last for two years, my name will be written upside down!"

but Zheng Yuanjie never disdains other people's satire and belittling, and his life is used to break secular stereotypes.

maybe it's because he has a lot of childhood experience, or maybe he always retains his childlike innocence, and the stories he writes are very popular.

in 1988, the monthly publication of "the King of Fairy Tales" finally printed more than 1 million copies, becoming the most popular fairy tale writer and being regarded as the "king of fairy tales" by children.

everyone is an independent individual, the negation of others can not shake the foundation of your life, and the affirmation of others may not add luster to your life.

some people, the more they care, the more restless they become; the more they struggle about some things, the more they get caught up in them.

Sanmao once said: "We are unwilling to explore our own value. We attach too much importance to the participation of others in our own lives and pay too much attention to the evaluation of others."

Life belongs to everyone's own feelings and has nothing to do with others.

the greatest sobriety of adults is not to live in other people's mouths, but to focus more on themselves.

don't care about other people's pace

TED speech "before you feel stressed" has a sentence:

"everything in life depends on our own time. We have our own clock. Some of your friends may be far ahead of you, but everything has its own rhythm."

instead of blindly following in the footsteps of others, it is better to walk for four seasons one step at a time.

for a long time, the lawyer has been so obsessed with keeping up with the comparisons that the people and things around him have become his only criteria for judging himself.

other people's children's grades are better than their own, and other people's material conditions are superior to their own, which will touch his sensitive nerves.

once, when he had a party with an old classmate, he found that he had not only a successful career, a happy family, but also more output than he did.

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the old classmate was talking and laughing, while he was on the sidelines, sinking into a deep sense of loss and frustration:

"when I was a child, I was obviously better than him, but why did he surpass me and be more successful than me in the twinkling of an eye?"

even began to complain: "Why is it that other people's lives are interesting, but I live like this?"

after that day, he was always depressed, his whole state was poor, his work was affected, and his performance declined for three months in a row.

every day, I spend my life in self-remorse and resentment.

Heiko Nakamura said, "others have other people's lives, but they have their own tracks."

in this world, everyone has a different background and gives differently.

there are always people who are ahead of you and those who lag behind you.

if oneIf you pay attention to the rhythm of others, it is easy to worry about gain and loss and lose your own direction.

everything in the outside world can only be used as a reference, not a standard.

on the road of growth, even if the pace is slow, as long as you are firm in your heart, you can always reach the distance you want.

don't care about other people's attitudes

Mr. Yang Jiang said: "when you are in a high position, all you see are flashy dreams. When you are humble, you have a chance to see the truth of the world."

at the peak, there are many people around us who are the icing on the cake, but in the trough, there are only a handful of people who are willing to help in the snow.

Liao Sha, the hostess of the TV series "Happiness Duet", was removed from her post as sales manager of the marketing department and appointed director of the community relations department.

Liao Sha returned to the company to pack her things, only to find that her former subordinates turned out to be unrecognizable and unusually indifferent to her.

while getting ready for the new manager, she threw her things aside early.

although she felt aggrieved, she only smiled bitterly and turned away.

once, Liao Sha did public welfare activities in those old communities in the name of the company.

she gives 50% discount coupons to the elderly to buy eco-eggs and teaches the elderly in the community to pay by mobile phone.

at this time, Wei Linlin, a former subordinate, happened to be passing by. When she saw Liao Sha, she burst into cynicism:

"Why are you still selling eggs? You used to be my idol, you are the gold medal sales, the big god in the circle. How could you allow yourself to degenerate like this? "

with that, Wei Linlin turned around and left.

next to the colleague Shan Shan can not watch any more, while fighting for her injustice, but also smiled and comforted: "you have fallen powder."

Liao Sha didn't care. She looked at the old men and women in the community and said with a smile, "drop it. There's a group of fans over there."

Pu Songling wrote a sentence: "A banquet laughs that there are many friends, but a friend in need knows how to make friends."

it is normal for people to be cool, while it is human to hold high and trample on low.

there are always some people who respect you when they are profitable and avoid them when they are not profitable.

those who come with a purpose will eventually disperse because of profit, and don't worry about it.

in the face of the human feelings in the world, it is a kind of realm to smile calmly and deal with it calmly.

teacher Li Xiaoyi said: "people who are strong in heart and can make some achievements have strong shielding power and have mastered the initiative in life early."

in the sea of life, you will inevitably meet people who don't like you and experience unpleasant things.

if you don't care about other people's emotions and give up sensitivity, the difficulties will be easily solved.

if you don't care about other people's comments, if you follow your heart, the rumor will break itself.

Don't care about other people's pace, keep your feet on the ground, and find your own way.

don't care about the attitude of others, follow the fate of closeness and closeness, and live an easy life.

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, for the rest of your life, may you be strong in your heart, not surprised or disgraced, watching the pre-court flowers blossom, leaving or staying unintentionally, looking at the clouds in the sky.