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Harvard scholars have put forward a famous "three-circle theory". The core of these three circles is what we usually call the comfort circle.

in the comfort zone, because of familiarity, it makes people feel relaxed and safe, and they don't want to come out after staying for a long time.

however, familiarity does not mean certainty and security.

people who once thought they could be together for a lifetime may be separated;

skills that once thought they could settle down may be eliminated.

in a world of uncertainty, there will be no everlasting familiarity and security. Accepting change and getting out of the comfort zone is the best way out.

being content with "familiarity" is tantamount to chronic suicide

biologists have done an experiment with fleas:

in the experiment, biologists put highly bouncing fleas into an one-meter-high jar and put a lid on it.

after a period of time, the biologist took the lid off again, only to find that the flea could no longer jump more than a meter high.

this phenomenon of degradation is called the "flea effect".

it's hard to stay in a jar, but it's a more comfortable choice not to try than to hit the lid every time you jump.

however, in the long run, you will lose the ability to face environmental changes.

people, too, lead a step-by-step life for a long time, and when change comes, they will be caught off guard.

especially in today's environment, the times are changing much faster and more terrible than we thought.

can be separated from the "familiar sense of security" so that he will not be slapped ashore by the tide of the times.

so for us ordinary people, what should we do in the face of change?

Black Swan author Taleb once put forward a concept of "anti-vulnerability", which means to stand on the opposite side of vulnerability and learn to benefit from risks and volatility.

in the face of uncertainty, not flinching, facing difficulties is the best choice.

I have seen a picture with the text:

A difficult road is never crowded.

changes will make us feel that the road ahead is becoming more and more difficult, but the difficult road is never crowded.

when others choose to avoid change and return to their comfort zone, you rise to the challenge and move forward against the wind.

although it seems that you have taken a road full of thorns, once you have cut through the difficulties, it will often let you see more broad sky.

American writer Spencer John said:

"Life is always changing, and change means crisis."

if you are used to comfort, you will become a nerd and will accomplish nothing in the end.

in the face of change, some people lose their jobs and choose to start their own business boldly.

some happy families break up and choose to dry their tears and start all over again.

change has broken the original balance and comfort, but after experiencing out-of-control pain, we can open up a new path.

in uncertainty, look for the real sense of security

in an uncertain world, what is a person's real sense of security?

A few days ago, Liu run talked about a girl, Lin Xi, in his 2022 speech.

Lin Xi, who graduated from Beijing Foreign Studies University, did not follow the crowd to choose to take the public entrance examination or postgraduate entrance examination, but chose to become a mobile phone mounter.

other people may simply split and paste the parts when framing the phone, but Lin Xi is more concerned about the feelings and stories between people behind the phone.

she uses cold electronic accessories to string up the customer's experience and frame it into unforgettable moments.

finally, what is given to the customer is a warm companionship and memory.

Lin Xi, who does not go the usual way, has been recognized by customers and has made a considerable income by virtue of his own creative thinking.

in a world of uncertainty, sense of security does not have to enter the system;

can also be your own ability to learn, innovative thinking, or just one step deeper than others.

stepping out of the comfort zone and into the unknown world is not only a challenge, but also an opportunity.

as Liu run said in his speech:

"sense of security, comes from certainty, but opportunity is hidden in uncertainty."

there are always too many uncertainties in life, but there are always people who can find new opportunities in uncertainty and regain sense of security.

there is a story online:

Wang Dakun, a 35-year-old female security guard, succeeded in the first World War this year and was admitted as a graduate student of Harbin Institute of Technology.

Wang Dakun once failed to start a business. after coming to Shenzhen, he found a job as a civilian security guard in a school.

although the new job is not as glamorous as it used to be, it is also a secretarial field that I am good at. Coupled with family and beauty, Wang Dakun's life is stable and quiet.

but after becoming a mother, she decided to break her comfort zone and prepare for graduate school.

after 9 months of raising children, working and studying hard, I was finally admitted to the ideal university.

some people don't understand her choice, but she says she just wants to seize an opportunity to go further.

in the face of uncertainty, some people choose to back down, others choose to start.

in fact, a person's ultimate sense of security is the ability to choose life.

is the ability to choose what you want to do, but alsoTo choose what you don't want to do.

you can learn to control your life in the midst of change instead of choosing a stable life.

you can not choose comfortable and comfortable days and let yourself try your best in difficulties.

you can choose not to stick to the traditional safe path and keep yourself alive in the crash.

those who are not confined to the rules and dare to face uncertainty can have more strength, control every choice and every behavior, and create their own life.

strengthen your faith and broaden your comfort zone

there is a concept in psychology called "self-corroborating prophecy", which means that the more you believe, the more likely you are to achieve.

if your beliefs are pessimistic, bad news will follow;

if your beliefs are optimistic, things will probably end the way you want them to.

to get out of the comfort zone, we need to have a firm belief. You can try the following three ways:

do something different and make a difference in your work or life every day

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there is a saying: "

Real change starts with a very small step. "

large changes can be scary, but small and specific changes can be easily done by everyone.

you can try to eat in another restaurant; you can try to choose a new route to work; you can try to accept a new task.

in the process of change, look for a new perspective and see new changes.

gradually, you will adapt to the changing external environment.

when a person begins to accept change and changes with it, he or she grows slowly.

try to make a decision, especially when you find it difficult

psychologist Victor Frankel once said:

"people do not simply live, but always need to judge their own future and decide what kind of person they will become in the next moment."

making decisions can put you under uncomfortable pressure, especially in difficult times.

but life is like a spring, you compress it, it will jump, with pressure, it will be elastic.

only by living a flexible life can you maintain your vitality and progress.

one by one, form your own rhythm and goal

there is a question on the Internet: "how can I get out of my comfort zone safely?"

there is a highly praised answer:

take your time, step by step to the edge of your comfort zone.

the so-called "edge of the comfort zone" means not completely retreating in the comfort zone and not being too rash.

it's about taking risks in a controlled way, challenging yourself to do things you don't normally do.

allow yourself to experience something uncertain in a controlled, manageable environment, little by little, to build a tower of sand.

slowly, you will be able to develop your own rhythm and goals, and you will no longer be afraid to face change.

Nietzsche once said:

"he who knows what to live for can survive."

if you have your own beliefs and learn to master new methods, you can slowly walk from the comfort zone to the learning zone.

when your skills are strong, your comfort zone expands, and your panic zone shrinks.

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talk show actor Siwen once said:

"you have to work really hard before you are qualified to talk about Buddhism, and only when you have really got a lot of things can you say no."

We all want to "find certainty", but more importantly, we "become certainty" ourselves.

there will be no permanent comfort circle in this world, whether you like it or not, the "mountain" of life is always there, on your way forward.

you must climb mountains before you can move on.

, may you and I bravely step out of our comfort zone, embrace change, transform in experience, and gain more power to control our lives.

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by: Keiko, come

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