see a sentence:

"the character is easy to write, but difficult to do; it is easy to read, but difficult to understand.

pick up the pen, one stroke and one press is a human character, one sour and one sweet is life, and one death is life. "

when one is alive, one cannot escape these eight words:

the human feelings are sophisticated and the people are in a state of the world.

there is no one in the world who walks without injury. At any time, you should understand:

when the sky does not cross people, people need to cross by themselves.

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mind your own business and gossip less

tell me one little thing.

while waiting for the elevator, I met a couple quarreling, and I stood to the side in silence.

then an aunt suddenly said, "Don't say a few words. Peace makes money."

in fact, the aunt was well-intentioned to persuade each other, but unexpectedly infuriated the contradiction, the couple said: "our family affairs, do not need you to care."

indeed, you should mind your own business about others.

as the old saying goes, "every man sweeps the snow in front of his own door, regardless of the frost on others' tiles."

the speaker has no intention, but the listener has the heart. To mind one's own business is the self-cultivation of a man.

I have heard a story.

in the Tang Dynasty, there was a man named Lou Shide who did not care about important matters.

once, he pretended not to hear someone calling him an animal in the street.

his entourage could not help saying, "Sir, someone is scolding you, didn't you hear me?"

he replied, "you heard me wrong."

the entourage said, "Yes, he scolded your name."

he said, "I'm not the only one in the world called Lou Shide. He must be scolding others."

at this time, the man scolded harder and harder, and the entourage said, "listen, my lord, that man is calling you an animal."

Lou Shide said, "when you repeat what he said, you are also scolding me and mind your own business."

when I think of that sentence, I sit still and often think about my own mistakes and gossip about others.

there is nothing in the world, and there is nothing to worry about. The most important thing is to do what you have to do.

as Zheng Banqiao said in "Gift to King and Father and son":

"reading more ancient books is an eye-opener and mind your own business."

instead of meddling in other people's affairs, it is better to broaden your horizons and cultivate your body and mind.

know how to stay on the front line, so that you can see each other in the future

Feng Tang shared a story in the book.

one day, several guests came to the teahouse.

in front of the guests, the owner of the teahouse boasted that he had contracted a tea field in the countryside and that the tea he had grown was the best he had ever seen before.

one of the guests happened to be the boss of the tea industry. he studied tea thoroughly and saw at a glance that the owner of the teahouse was bragging, but he didn't expose it to his face, laughing but saying nothing.

the boss of tea has always been like this, doing things watertight, knowing how to keep a balance, not only leaving room for each other, but also getting the desired results.

he has an attitude of seeing through and not telling a lot of things.

so I feel like a fish in water in business, and my interpersonal relationship is also very good.

taking care of the face of others is actually paving the way for yourself.

talk about the story of Huang Bo and Zheng Yuling at the award ceremony.

Huang Bo was repeatedly teased by Zheng Yuling: "it's so windy tonight that it blew your hair askew."

Huang Bo replied, "this is an externalized expression of my mood, and you can see how surging my mood is."

Zheng Yuling then asked, "are you wearing pajamas today? I haven't been here for five years, so I'm dressed very ceremoniously. Under the stands, Andy Lau, Tony Leung, they are all dressed up."

Huang Bo calmly replied:

"they are guests. Guests must dress up when they go to other people's houses, because you haven't been here for five years, and I have been here for five years. I have made this place feel like home. I must wear it comfortably when I get home."

Zheng Yuling has been teasing Huang Bo, but Huang Bo did not make a positive response, but chose to keep a low profile.

there is a saying:

"only humility and kindness deep to the bone is the foundation that promotes a person to go for a long time."

the really smart people will not complain and run away in the face of contempt; in the face of the weak, they will not look down upon them with cold contempt.

do not underestimate others or overestimate yourself. this is the wisdom and practice of the strong.

only when one can keep calm can one become great

tell me the story of Zhuge Liang's "seven captures of Meng Huo".

when Zhuge Liang led the army to the south and was ready to retreat, Meng Huo, the leader of the Yi nationality, led troops to attack the Shu army.

Zhuge Liang learned that Meng Huo was brave and strong-willed, and was extremely popular among the Yi people, so he decided to win him over.

after capturing Meng Huo for the first time, Zhuge Liang personally untied him and advised him to obey: "what do you think of the arrangement of this barracks?"

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after Meng Huo saw it, he sneered and said, "but that's all. If you let me go and fight again, I will win over you."

Zhuge Liang released Meng Huo. Not long after, Meng Huo was captured again.

Zhuge Liang let him go again.

after that, Meng Huo changed his tricks many times, but all of them were seen through by Zhuge Liang, and Zhuge Liang still did not kill him.

after Meng Huo was captured seven times and then released, he said:

"Seven strokes and seven captures, and the prime minister has done all his kindness to us."

in this way, Meng Huo and others finally obeyed Shu Han and obeyed the jurisdiction.

imagine that Zhuge Liang was captured for the first time in Meng Huo.After that, he broke through the enemy, which could calm the chaos of the war, but not the hearts and minds of the people.

it is precisely because Zhuge Liang put emphasis on judging the hour and sizing up the situation, learned to be patient, and calmly fought with Meng Huo, in exchange for the stability of the kingdom of Shu.

people who are calm and calm are generally rational and clear-headed and are good at seeing the overall situation.

look before you leap, do not act arbitrarily, but in impatience, it is a kind of wisdom and a pattern.

there is a saying: "those who are restless accomplish nothing; those who are calm and calm gather themselves."

Life is like a war with yourself.

remember, the mind determines the horizon, and the pattern determines the outcome.

entrepreneur Wen Shiren once said:

"the reason why the star looks so small is that it puts itself too high."

Don't think highly of yourself, nor look down upon others.

A wise man knows when to move forward, when to go backward, when to persist, and when to give in.

mind your own business, with a broad mind and a long vision;

knowing people without saying a word, there is wisdom to see through, and there is also the resourcefulness of not telling.

keep calm, sharpen your will, and have the unique qualities of a wise man.

in this life, people will meet many kinds of people, and they will have the fetter of fate with many people, making themselves better, stronger and more knowledgeable.

above others, treat others as human beings.

under others, think of yourself as a person.

, happy but silent, bitter but silent, low into the sea, low into king.

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