recently, "Goodbye Love 2" has aroused discussion among netizens as soon as it starts broadcasting.

the program group invited three groups of couples facing emotional crisis:

Zhang Wanting and Song Ningfeng who got pregnant in a flash marriage;

Ai Wei and Chen Meiling, who have been together for 30 years and still want to divorce over 60;

Su Shiding and Lu GE, who have been separated for a long time and divorced.

after reading several issues, my uncle felt sorry. How could a couple who used to love each other so much get divorced?

however, broken relationships always attract people's attention.

every couple has a knot that can't be easily untied, which makes them drift away and even hate them.

and the marriage story between them also reflects the pain point of ordinary people's marriage, which makes people think deeply.

Song Ningfeng and Zhang Wanting are a couple who got married and became pregnant. After marriage, they quarreled constantly and had a lot of contradictions.

when it comes to the encounter between the two, it is full of drama.

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I met at a friend's party. Just because my friend said Song Ningfeng just got divorced and needed comfort, Zhang Wanting rushed up and said I was right for him.

the child arrived unexpectedly after they had only been in love for a month.

then, when the child was 8 months old, in order to give the child a hukou, the two hurriedly obtained a certificate.

Zhang Wanting accused Song Ningfeng of ignoring her emotional needs and always being cold and violent, and he responded that he didn't know how to coax her, so he had to wait until the anger subsided.

in this way, a peaceful marriage began to falter.

"muddling along, yielding to compromise, and surviving at a desperate end" is Zhang Wanting's feelings about this marriage.

reveals her despair of marriage.

maybe flash marriage and pregnancy is the trigger of marital conflict, but "invalid communication" is the main reason for the red light in their marriage.

in the program, people talked about "picking people's eyes".

Zhang Wanting ruthlessly denounced Song Ningfeng in public:

"you are lucky to find a wife like me, but how can I find a drag bottle like you?"

the atmosphere at the scene was awkward for a time.

at dinner in the evening, Zhang Wanting was as outspoken as ever, claiming that her husband was a "sinner".

when Song Ningfeng talked about actors' need for empathy, she accused her of not being able to perceive his emotions, and was very annoyed!

Song Ningfeng, who tried to explain again and again, was interrupted by her: you are forbidden to speak.

not only that, but when Song Ningfeng wanted to continue to express her thoughts, what Zhang Wanting said was even worse:

"I think you are stupid sometimes";

"I'm just depriving you of your right to speak";

even openly lectured him, "I gave you a face, didn't I?"

even Sun Yi could not help complaining: "did she save his life?"

seeing the way they get along with each other, I can't help but think of a sentence:

"when they are in love, they have endless words; after marriage, they have endless quarrels."

it is obvious that it is normal communication, but Zhang Wanting can always find an opportunity to criticize and attack Song Ningfeng.

and once Song Ningfeng remains silent, it will be regarded as silent resistance.

some people say: "it is not marriage that pushes love to the grave, but simple and rough communication."

Marriage is a place to talk about love, not a battlefield where words are sharpened to poke each other's hearts!

Love is a verb, not a state. Only with good communication can love flow between you and me.

in fact, it is not very difficult to replace quarrels with heart-to-heart communication.

it is clear that both men are now aware of their problems and have made changes.

Song Ningfeng changed his former silence and made an affectionate confession to Zhang Wanting:

"Thank you, Zhang Wanting, for my sake, for the sake of the children, for the sake of this family, shall we not part?"

and Zhang Wanting opposite also responded with a sweet and arrogant face: "look at my mood."

maybe at this moment, they are slowly getting over it in their hearts.

unlike the marital status of "strong women and weak men" of Zhang Wanting and Song Ningfeng, Ai Wei and Chen Meiling are just the opposite.

the two have known each other for more than 30 years and been married for 18 years. They have always been recognized as model couples in the entertainment industry.

Chen Meiling nearly died of uterine fibroids. In order to take care of his wife, Ai Wei spent almost all his savings and was even willing to donate his liver in exchange for her health.

program, as soon as they meet, they care about each other's bodies. They don't mention love, but they both hide love.

but it is such a loving couple who have seen life and death, but now they are going to divorce, which is unavoidable.

during the dinner session, everyone talked about the reasons for their divorce.

it's Ivy's turn, but he laughs at himself that the reason is "ridiculous": playing mahjong.

it turned out that Chen Meiling was addicted to playing mahjong after the operation.

sometimes a dozen lasted more than ten hours, even from 11:00 the previous morning to 11:00 the next morning, which was unbearable.

finally, after many fruitless communication between the two, Ivy issued an ultimatum:

"divorce if you still play mahjong!"

OKIs this really the case? and be not so!

"playing mahjong" is only a superficial reason, but a deeper reason is that there is a deviation in the way we communicate with each other.

program, Chen Meiling tries to explain why she plays mahjong, while Ai Wei frequently interrupts her as a critic.

and every word stung Chen Mei-ling, causing her emotional breakdown and tears in her eyes.

the same scene happened again in the love letter.

Chen Meiling confessed her true feelings in the letter, hoping to start all over again.

and Ai Wei is like a referee, all charges against her:

"I still hate. You are completely indifferent to my advice. Your stubbornness has destroyed our whole marriage and life. I hope you can reflect on it."... "

every word pierced the tip of Chen Meiling's heart like a sharp blade, and she could not help crying bitterly, which was particularly distressing.

Chen Meiling knows very well that Ai Wei cares and loves her, but this love also carries accusations that make her feel that she is not respected.

he has never listened to Chen Meiling. He plays mahjong in the hope that he can excrete his emotions and doesn't want Ai Wei to worry about her.

after reading the story of Ai Wei and Chen Meiling, my uncle had mixed feelings.

Love should make people gentle and brave, not always feel aggrieved and compromised.

in marriage, love a person needs to pay attention to the way, if always take a tough attitude, under the banner of "for your own good", marriage will only be full of contradictions.

Su Shiding and Lu GE are the only couple on the show who have divorced. They have been married for four years and divorced for a year and a half.

one is a musical director and the other is a singer. The two met in a musical performance.

but before the divorce, their love is full of sweet romance.

traveling around the world together, they share common interests and are even willing to give up their own interests and go to each other.

No one could have imagined that such an enviable couple would be reduced to divorce.

the reason is very realistic: long-distance separation, lack of communication.

after two years of marriage, Su Shiding came to Beijing alone for career development, while Lu GE stayed in Shanghai.

two people with similar personalities are very strong and stubborn, pay more attention to their own career development, and communicate with each other less and less.

at this time, Lu GE was suffering from depression. He hoped that Su Shiding could accompany him, but he didn't get a response.

so he gradually became disappointed in the relationship and began to doubt the meaning of marriage.

in the most perfect divorce, there is a classic line:

"the worst outcome is not a divorce, but a masked couple who live together without love or expectation. This is the greatest misfortune."

do not communicate, do not communicate, obviously it is the life of two people, but it has become a single person fighting alone.

in the program, the two finally honestly expressed their dissatisfaction with each other and had a deep communication as they wished.

read a passage: "one person's loneliness is not loneliness, one person looking for another person, one sentence looking for another sentence, is the real loneliness."

lack of communication is the biggest crisis in marriage. many people survive the seven-year itch of their marriages and end up with nothing to say.

you do not speak, I do not speak, the estrangement between the two sides is getting bigger and bigger, and the marriage is finally getting farther and farther away.

and a good marriage model requires sharing joys and troubles with each other, and working together to fight against the dullness of marriage.

as Sun Yi said, "Love is giving, sacrificing, responding and cherishing each other."

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I have seen such a passage:

"the most stable and deep emotional relationship is based on barrier-free communication.

you should tell him directly whatever you need. If you have any demands on him, you should also tell him in time so that the problem can be solved in the bud. "

it's not easy to make a marriage interesting, but it's easy to ruin it.

not not love, but ordinary trivial days, a bad word, a bad communication, slowly wear out the love.

therefore, the temperature of communication determines the duration of marriage.

We must understand that a good marriage is always a play between two people, and only by going back and forth can we write this story.

Marriage is not

easy, do and cherish.

, may we all protect our marriage, live conscientiously, love each other with all our hearts, and live up to each other!