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A philosopher said:

"you are the average of the five people you come into contact with most."

that is to say, it really matters who you walk with, who you get along with, and who you get to know deeply in your life.

because it will eventually determine what kind of state your life will be and what kind of person you will become.

walk with comfortable people and keep in good health

once watched a video:

there was an old couple who could not cook, but lived happily together for more than 60 years.

Grandma smiled at the camera and said calmly:

"there is a kitchen at home, but I can't burn it, and he can't burn it. It's either cold or raw. No one wants to eat it.

since neither of them knows how to cook, they eat out together for years, and they still eat happily at every meal.

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Grandpa will not blame grandma for marrying a woman, the cooker is deserted and there is no smoke and fire in the house.

Grandma doesn't feel that she can't cook, so she loses her duty to be a woman, and she won't ask her grandfather to cook for her.

A comfortable relationship is like this. You be yourself and I will be myself.

Don't ask for the other person's change, nor do you have to cater to each other's expectations, but live to be your most comfortable appearance.

as someone said: being with comfortable people is equivalent to keeping good health.

because with comfortable people, it is the easiest to get along with and the most peaceful state of mind.

without blaming and complaining, no annoyance and entanglement and other bad emotions, how can people not be mentally unobstructed and physically healthy?

author Jandi Nielsen said:

"the most suitable partner is like walking into a house you used to live in.

you know the furniture, the pictures on the wall, the books on the shelves, the things in the drawer.

if you fall into darkness in this house, you can still walk around freely.

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I think so.

because only when you are with someone who feels comfortable, do you have a natural sense of intimacy, the most relaxed sense of peace of mind, and a sense of belonging.

when they are together, their souls match and their values coincide.

when such two people are together, they can safely deliver weaknesses and blend in with each other.

so go with someone who makes you feel comfortable, and life will be at its best with such a person.

get along with people with positive energy and practice

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there is a young man living in a small fishing village who often collects clams and mud snails on the beach to sell to subsidize his family.

he used to sell all the mud snails he picked up to locals, so he made very little money.

one day, he met a stranger. He found that the stranger did not understand the market.

he raised the price, sometimes shoddy, so he made a lot of money.

when her mother knew about this, she said to him:

"son, do you know?

in order to do business with outsiders, how much efforts have been made by people in their hometown to gain the trust of outsiders with their diligence and honesty.

and your dishonest behavior will completely destroy this trust.

now you are complacent to take advantage of this point, and you will face charges and discrimination in the future. The loss simply outweighs the gain. "

the teenager was ashamed to hear this.

he took the initiative to find a stranger, admitted his mistake and made amends.

when he grew up, wherever he went to develop, he insisted on honesty and finally became a successful businessman.

in Xunzi's persuasion to learn, it is written: "Pengsheng hemp, do not help but straight; white sand in nirvana, with it black."

means that the grass grows in the hemp field and eventually becomes straight;

White sand mixed with black soil will gradually be dyed black.

it can be seen that it really matters who you are with, and you will always be affected by it.

with diligent people, you can't be lazy;

with positive people, you won't be depressed;

when you are with positive people, you will correct your words and deeds.

birds of a feather flock together. If you want to be consistent in life and have a good spiritual practice, you must keep up with the people around you who have positive energy.

get acquainted with good people and promote

I have seen the growth story of Ni Ping's little nanny:

A girl named Chen Qian was only 16 years old when she first came to Ni Ping's house as a babysitter.

because of her poor family, she had to give up her studies early and come out to find a job to support her family.

because she is very industrious and sensible, teacher Ni Ping likes her very much.

after getting along, teacher Ni Ping found that Chen Qian likes reading very much and often looks for books in her study when she is free.

so she encouraged Chen Qian to study hard and supported her to apply for the adult college entrance examination.

later, teacher Ni Ping inadvertently discovered that Chen Qian imitated the lines in the TV series, which was very similar, and discovered her talent in dubbing.

so he used his contacts to find a teacher for her to give formal guidance, and contacted some directors to ask her to dub her role.

soon, Chen Qian dubbed various major film and television works, such as Huanbi and International University in the Legend of Zhen Huan.Nina in the film Fast and Furious, and so on, finally became an excellent dubbing actress.

whether a person is good or not depends on who he goes with.

as written in the Jewish classic Talmud:

living with wolves, you can only learn to howl;

similarly, if you come into contact with good people, you will be well influenced by them.

how can you be a poor man by dating someone who is destined to be a billionaire?

this shows that a person's circle is very important. if you want to improve yourself to a higher level, you must keep company with excellent people, who will influence and drive you, and even lift your wings.

many successful people start from the same low starting point as Chen Qian. It is because of the guidance or help of excellent people that great changes have taken place in their lives.

even Warren Buffett believes that it is the outstanding people he met in his life who made him.

therefore, the fastest way for a person to grow up is to make a deep acquaintance with excellent people.

if you want to be promoted, you must try your best to get close to the good people.

some people say:

"it is very important to choose what kind of people to associate with. They will influence your attitude towards life and the way you see the world."

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meeting someone who consumes you may drag you down;

when you meet someone who nourishes you, it will help you.

thus it can be seen that what kind of person a person is with determines what kind of life he has.

so, in the rest of your life, try to walk with those who feel comfortable, those who guide you, and those who can help you.

only in this way can you live the life you want.