Dear son:

your mother heard the quarrel between you and your daughter-in-law outside the door a few days ago.

when I was washing clothes yesterday, I left your dirty clothes in the washing machine. I heard your wife say to you outside the door:

"your mother washed my clothes again, and I looked at my underwear and underwear on the balcony. My embarrassment was about to happen, and my privacy was all gone.

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after your mother came, you were all lazy.

I dare not ask you to do anything, for fear of what your mother thinks of me. You are now a giant baby and do nothing! "

I'm sorry, I've been cautious these days, but I didn't expect to do something wrong.

son, please don't blame your wife, please don't blame her for being unfilial.

although my mother is a little unhappy after hearing these words, she still wants to tell you that your wife is right.

because if I were her, I would complain to my husband the same way.

Today is the seventh day of your marriage. Mom comes to take care of your newlyweds and take a look at your new house. She has been here for a week and is ready to go back tomorrow.

then mom and your father are going to live our twilight years.

Mom has three words to say to you before you go.

after marriage

you and I are no longer a family

son, don't be surprised to read this.

Mom doesn't say this because she wants to leave you.

in my mother's heart, you will always be the little cutie who lingers at the bedside and haunts me to tell stories every night.

by this family, my mother refers to an independent home as a small unit.

you have started your own family, you and your wife are a family, and your father and I are a family.

it's cruel to say this. Mom felt empty at first when she thought that she couldn't see you every day.

remember when you were 12 years old, our family went on a trip to see the sheep mother nursing lambs in the herdsmen's home?

you excitedly want to touch the lamb, but you are knocked over by the mother sheep who protects the calf.

once upon a time, our mother and son were as close as sheep mothers and lambs.

but what you don't know is that when the lamb grows up, the mother will gradually leave the lamb.

in this way, it can learn to feed independently and survive the migration of nomads.

you are 28 years old this year, and you are already a great young man. Your mother even has to stand on tiptoe to reach your head.

but the mother has to gradually withdraw from your life like the mother sheep left the lamb, because if the mother continues to enter your small family as a "family", it will be bad for you, your wife and me.

the mother saw such a news that after her son got married, her mother-in-law still went to her son's room in the middle of the night to cover up the quilt for him. The wife was so scared that she was almost sent to a mental hospital.

such a mother-in-law just worries too much.

do you remember Aunt Zhang who had a good time with her mother?

your Aunt Zhang is a shrewd and powerful woman who brought Xiao Zhang up alone after the divorce and suffered a lot.

after Xiao Zhang got married, she, who was supposed to be happy, was still busy, just like before, scrambling for everything, and she had to ask her first if there was anything wrong between husband and wife.

Xiao Zhang is a filial child and doesn't feel anything wrong.

but his wife always felt that she was an outsider, and after quarreling every three days, they divorced.

if a mother is really for the good of her child, she must learn to quit honorably in her child's life.

mothers who are unwilling to let go do not so much love their children as they want to continue to control their children's lives.

son, it's really hard to get out of your life, but my mother has decided to live her own life and will make her old age as wonderful as possible.

if you miss your mother, I will come to your house, stay for a while, and make you your favorite tofu steamed meat every day.

but son, please remember that we are not a family anymore. I just came to stay temporarily. You and your wife are the family.

after marriage

before you love your children, please love your wife

after your mother gave birth to you, your father couldn't sleep for several nights.

you were born ugly, your little face so wrinkled that you couldn't keep your eyes open.

but looking at you, it's like we see the most beautiful treasure in the world.

when I was a mother for the first time, I knew how tired it was to take care of my children.

but looking at you, I feel that life is incomparably full.

when you have children in the future, your wife will certainly pay more attention to the children. It is really tiring to take care of the children. If necessary, the mother will come and give her a hand.

but you must rememberDon't do nothing just because you go to work. The father is an essential part of the child's growth.

Mom has read many Wechat articles, "widowed parenting" and "widowed marriage". The most fundamental reason is that the father's role as a father is absent.

in widowed marriage, a wife habitually puts her relationship with her children above her relationship with her husband.

there are reasons for the wife, but it is more for the husband. If the husband had not dumped the shopkeeper, the situation would have been much better.

Mom wants you to take care of the children with your wife, no matter how tired you are at work, it is enough to hold and talk to the children after work.

after having children, it is easy for you to focus all your attention on the children, but the mother also says, please don't forget to love your wife.

A woman who is loved is different from other women.

her mood will be happy, her smile will be comfortable, and she will love this family and her family more.

A good family, father must love mother, father and mother love their children together.

the relationship between husband and wife should be above all relationships.

mothers love their children more than their husbands, or fathers love their children more than their wives, which is devastating for the family.

for children, there is no quarrel to see their parents fall in love and grow up in a good native family.

in such an osmosis environment, children can also learn how to love and how to express love.

there is a good saying recently:

"Happy people heal their lives with their childhood, and unfortunate people heal their childhood with their whole lives."

Mom hopes you don't forget that you are the child's original family.

after marriage

your wife is your most important family

Mom wants to tell you, please save your wife first. If your mother falls into the water, your father will save me.

Mom, let me tell you a story.

in a university, the professor said to the students, please write down the ten most important people in your life on the blackboard.

the student wrote down the names of his friends, relatives and classmates.

the professor said:

"if there is only room for nine people in your life, please cross out the one you think is the least important."

so the student crossed out his classmate's name.

the student crossed out his friend again.

every time a person is crossed off, the students will feel extremely sorry.

the professor said calmly, "Please cross out another one."

the students hesitated again and again, some of them were about to shed tears, and they finally reluctantly crossed out their father's name.

"Please leave a person who you think is the most important."

the students finally broke down and burst into tears, crossing out his mother and children, leaving only their own partners.

"your parents are the people who gave birth to you and raised you, and your children are your own flesh and blood, but your partner can be found again. Why do you leave behind your partner instead?" Asked the professor.

"because my parents will leave me before me, and my children will leave me when they grow up, and only my wife can really accompany me through life."

the answer of the student is also what my mother wants to say to you.

Life is a process of constant loss, and the most important people will leave you one after another, so you must be prepared in advance.

my mother is almost 60 years old. One day, I will be too old to walk, and then I will leave you one day in the future.

and your children will find their own partner and live their own life in the future, just like you leave your mother now.

only your wife can accompany you to the end of your life. She is the most important person for you.

therefore, you must love your wife more than your mother, put her in the most important position, support and cherish each other.

son, you should take good care of yourself, smoke less and go to bed on time.

there is a deep fate between mother and son. I don't need you to win face for me, let alone help me provide for the aged. As long as you are happy and happy, it is enough.

although from then on, gather less and leave more, but my mother did not go too far, I will always be in a place within your reach, looking at you, bless you.

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