Lin Jing

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there is a saying in "Fan Si Xun": "there were all kinds of things in the past, such as the death of yesterday; from then on, such as life today."

Life is like a book, you have to turn the pages forward, and the days are like running water, you have to move forward day by day.

in the past, there were times of frustration and sometimes of regret. Only when we move forward can suffering fall back.

quickly turn the story, the action can be light; cherish the present, life will be clear.

forgive the harm caused by others

Tagore once told such a story:

A painter who is good at portraits refuses to sell to someone who has hurt himself.

but the enemy still came to him again and again to buy a painting.

the painter was so annoyed that he said to him angrily:

"I don't sell you paintings just to retaliate for the harm you have done to me. It doesn't matter how many times you come."

however, because he was always thinking about revenge, the painter found himself unable to concentrate on painting.

until one day, when comparing his previous paintings, the painter found that there was always a shadow of his enemies in the paintings of that time.

the eyes, nose and mouth were clearly drawn according to his appearance.

it turned out that the painter was preoccupied with revenge and was unwittingly full of enemies, so he was naturally unable to complete high-level paintings.

when everyone is alive, everyone is bound to get hurt, either the wound is sprinkled with salt, or a knife is inserted in the back, which makes people resentful.

but if we always bear it in mind and keep regurgitating, in fact, what we end up hurting is ourselves.

because hatred will be wedged into your heart like a rusty nail, and the longer it goes on, the harder it is to pull it out.

remember Oscar Wilde said:

for my own sake, I must forgive some people.

because a man cannot keep a viper in his breast forever, he cannot get up every night and plant thorns in the garden of his soul.

pull out the nails from the bottom of your heart so that you can see light in your heart.

turn over the past injuries, and life can be easier.

seems to let go of other people's mistakes, but actually releases his own heart, forgives others, and fulfills himself.

Let go of the regrets that have been missed

have you ever had this experience?

an opportunity that seems to be readily available, but is missed out of timidity;

people who want to cherish all their lives go their separate ways because of an accident.

regret is the normal state of life, and everyone inevitably has regrets.

you can be sad in the face of regret, but don't look back again and again.

Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook, is known as the "Silicon Valley Iron Lady". She has a bumper career and family and is an enviable and happy woman.

but unexpectedly, her husband died unexpectedly of an arrhythmia in 2015, which left her in deep pain and remorse.

she blamed herself for not being aware of her husband's illness earlier and regretted that she had not been able to accompany her husband if she should not have gone to take a nap that day.

until one time, her friend reminded her that it would have been worse if her husband had been driving or picking up his two children.

Sandberg woke up:

"Yes, that would not only mean the loss of a husband, but also the possibility that the children would no longer exist, and the pain would be 100 times greater than it is now."

from then on, she put aside her regrets and started over with gratitude.

she founded a non-profit organization and made a lot of friends with similar experiences to help people out of trouble.

she also wrote the experience that brought her back to life into a book, "another Choice."

Sandberg writes in her book:

"there is no complete dilemma in life. You will find new value sustenance in work, relationship and life."

psychologically, there is an "aisle principle"

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it is said that there is a sensor light in the aisle, and the light will only come on if you go forward. Otherwise, it will always be dark.

in this life, no one can always be safe and smooth, there are always some things in hindsight, there are always some regrets.

indulging in the past will only add up to the pain and make life darker and darker.

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it is a pity to turn to the story before we can grit our teeth and make the road ahead brighter and brighter.

when you learn to let go, face up to regrets, do not look back, and look forward, you will find that the trough of life will also become high.

emotion without fate, forget

there are two lines in Xu Zhimo's accidental poem:

you and I meet in the sea of night, you have yours, I have mine, direction.

it's good for you to remember, it's better for you to forget the light emitted by each other at this rendezvous.

in the world, although the exciting love makes people nostalgic, but if you can't stay, you have to go, you might as well be safe and forget each other without trace.

in the movie La La City, the heroine Mya was attracted by the piano sound of Sebastian for the first time.

then the two men met at a party and fell in love.

Mia is stubborn, aggressive and competitive;

Sebastian is slow and preoccupied with jazz, sometimes neglecting Mia.feel.

Mia's dream is to be an actress, and Sebastian's dream is to open a jazz club.

the two men began to disagree and often quarreled.

they had no choice but to break up at last.

years later, they accidentally met again in a jazz bar, and their eyes met.

seeing Mia, who is married, Sebastian played a piano piece for her.

, they smiled at each other without too much interaction and words, and then nodded goodbye.

in the journey of life, gathering, dispersion and clutch are common, but deep and shallow are indifferent.

cherish it when you get together, and bless you after you say goodbye.

maybe we all have to experience loss before we can find our own home.

the best feelings, no one is right or wrong, if you can not continue to walk, laugh over the story, may be the best way to each other.

Let go of past achievements

Ma long, the "Poseidon Needle" of the Chinese table tennis team, has won 27 world championships for nearly 30 years.

but at last year's plenary meeting, Malone caused a lot of controversy because of a move.

it turned out that just after the award and photo ceremony, Malone quickly removed the silver medal from his neck when he stepped off the podium.

is this move, so that Malone quickly rushed to the hot search, online fans questioned Malone can not afford to lose, no grace, too disrespectful to the opponent.

but is this really the case?

in fact, this is a rule set by coach Liu Guoliang for national table tennis players, that is, they must take off their medals when they get off the podium.

Malone said in an interview afterwards:

because the coach wants the players to understand that honor only belongs to the moment standing on the podium.

when you step off the podium, the players should put down this honor, return to zero, start anew, and meet new challenges.

the real master knows how to clear himself at the right time to make room for new opportunities.

No matter how brilliant the achievements of the past are, they cannot become the medals of tomorrow. If you keep your eyes on this, you will only let yourself stagnate.

the cup is empty before more water can be filled.

only by turning the page can you upgrade your skills.

when you press the zero button of glory, your body and mind will become lighter.

in this way, you can surpass yourself and open up infinite possibilities.

in this world, no one lives in the past, but looking forward is life.

if you cling to yesterday, you will inevitably worry about gain and loss; turning to the story quickly is a person's greatest ability.

hurt to turn the story, relax, don't hold a grudge, you can live an easy life.

regret to turn the story, don't blame yourself, look forward, you can get out of the haze.

feelings turn over, do not nostalgia, do not blame, happiness will also come;

the achievement turns the page, is not satisfied, dares to clear the zero, can climb the peak again.

for the rest of my life, may you and I be able to live without fear, without ruminating, travel light and live in the sun.

Lin Jing is a radio host who graduated from the Chinese Department.

May after many years, the story no longer hurts, the sun is still warm, and you are so charming.

Let my voice and other people's stories accompany you every sleepless night.

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