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the Book of Rites. There is a saying in the university: "self-cultivation and then family Qi, family Qi and then the rule of the country."

if you want to achieve more, you must first manage your family and deal with your attitude towards your family.

but in life, we often find such a phenomenon:

many people are outside and friendly, but they are irritable and out of control at home, which eventually leads to family quarrels and disintegration.

Why do we always show the best to outsiders and leave the worst to our loved ones?

the real reason is simple and heartbreaking.

unscrupulous because of being spoiled

as the old saying goes, "the sea accepts all rivers, but tolerance is great."

only when small rivers are contained by the sea can they merge into the ocean.

and the reason why a person can lose his temper unscrupulously at home is precisely because there is an infinite tolerance of his family behind him.

the famous writer Shi Tiesheng, who is moody due to paralysis, often loses his temper with his mother.

his mother wanted to take him out for a walk, but he was grumpy because he couldn't walk normally.

, he vented all the dissatisfaction of life and the injustice of fate on his mother.

but he did not know that at this time the mother had advanced liver cancer, and the pain of her own disease and heartache for her son deeply afflicted the mother.

A philosopher once said, "to be brought up to the bone is not to lose your temper with those who are close to you."

but the reality is often to give the best temper to outsiders and the worst temper to relatives.

We always think that we don't have to bear any consequences to vent our emotions on our families, but in fact, your careless actions can do great harm to your loved ones.

in Zhuangzi, it is said: "if the people of Zhuangshi are enough, they will resign to let go, their brothers will be women, and their big relatives will be enough."

No matter how good it is for outsiders, the attitude towards our loved ones is what we really look like.

when we want to lose our temper with our family, we might as well calm down, think calmly, and try our best to adjust our emotions before communicating.

it is important to know that family members are the people who accompany us all our lives and are our strongest backing. We should treat them with tenderness all our lives.

even if you kiss again, you will be disappointed and cold.

writer Zhou Guoping once said:

"it is an instinct to be picky about your loved ones, but to overcome this instinct and not to be picky is breeding.

Nowhere else you can find such a magnificent old school homecoming dress. Our collections are a perfect demonstration of a high taste.

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how many people greet each other with a smile, but talk coldly and treat each other coldly when they get home.

he is known as a good wife and husband outside, but he has become an arrogant and insolent partner at home.

they do not know that they are grumpy to their loved ones, they will be sad and cold, and they will be blindly friendly to outsiders, and outsiders will only gain an inch.

Neutron Xia Ben in the Analects of Confucius once consulted Confucius: what is the most difficult thing to achieve filial piety?

Confucius replied, "Color is difficult."

the hardest thing in a person's life is to keep a pleasant face to those close to him.

although there is no need to please relatives, they need to be treated with great care.

No matter how deep the feeling is, it will cool down every day, and the indifference of the close relationship will come to an end year after year.

as the saying goes, "parents and wives live together by karma, for example, when they send guests, they are separated."

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it is precisely because of the pull of fate that I can become a relative in this life.

the edge is shallow and deep, it is all fate, the edge is shallow and easy to disperse, and the edge is deep to cherish.

for those who are close to you, you should learn to cherish and be grateful and not let them down.

the most difficult upbringing is to be kind to your family

Lu Yongfeng has such a life motto:

"Don't bring home the dust in your heart.

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in the early days of Lu Yongfeng's start-up, pressure from all sides followed, and his mood was often in a state of collapse.

but every time he goes home, he always adjusts for five minutes in the car and waits for his mood to calm down before opening the door.

my friends are so curious that they ask for advice one after another.

Lu Yongfeng said with a smile:

"Home is the harbor of love, not the dustbin of bad mood. The dust on the soles of your feet should be left outside the door, especially the dust in your heart."

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A person's real upbringing is to leave the best attitude and mood to his family.

the way you treat your family is your true spiritual appearance, and spiritual appearance is the best feng shui in your life.

as the saying goes, "where the mind is calm, God is happy, and God is happy."

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A warm and harmonious family is most likely to breed happiness.

when you learn to give patience and kindness to your family, you will find less and less troubles, more and more happiness, and more happiness.

so, remember, no matter when and where, give the best temper to the person closest to you, and keep the best mood at home.

those who allow you, be sure to cherish

Carnegie said, "

there is no winner in argument.

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the quarrel between relatives won.Reason, you will lose your feelings.

Home is always a shelter from the wind and rain, not a tit-for-tat arena.

A person who is willing to say sorry and always tolerates your capriciousness and small temper must cherish it.

Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang have been in love for ten years, which is enviable, but their personalities are very different. One is calm and calm, the other is stubborn like a child, and their self-care ability is very poor.

when Yang Jiang was pregnant, Qian Zhongshu wanted to help with some housework, but she didn't help with everything.

in this regard, Yang Jiang just smiled calmly and said:

"it's all right. I'll do it. I can fix it.

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to comfort Qian Zhongshu.

the poem says, "one voice corresponds to each other, and one heart knows each other."

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between relatives, there is no need to haggle over every penny, tolerate and cherish each other, so that life can be comfortable and long.

there may be many people who are kind to you in this world, but few people are willing to tolerate you all the time.

so cherish the person who tolerates you and tolerate you, and don't use their love as an unscrupulous reason.

people who know how to apologize, not because they owe, but because they cherish you in their hearts.

people who bow for you are not afraid, but willing to tolerate you.

tolerance and patience in front of relatives is magnanimity, but also wisdom, lower their own posture, the fulfillment of the most beautiful feelings.

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Ban Gu of the Eastern Han Dynasty once said:

"people are divided into three classes, the first class pretending to be confused, the second class pretending to be honest, and the third class pretending to be smart."

A true wise man knows how to leave the deepest love, the warmest words, and the kindest smile to those who deserve it.

in this life, people spend the longest time with their families, and those who are best for us are also their families.

being angry with them and losing your temper with them will consume each other's deep feelings and make your loved ones disappointed and heartbroken.

so learn to be nice to the people around you, give your patience and kindness to your loved ones, and you will find that you have more and more, and happiness surrounds you.

cherish, let us continue to have, grateful, let each other's friendship Tian Chang Di Jiu (Eternal Dumpling).

for the rest of my life, may you and I cultivate the best upbringing, develop a warm face, sit idle with your family, and have lights to be amiable!