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Zeng Guofan, a famous minister in the late Qing Dynasty, once wrote four sentences in his diary:

"modesty and magnanimity is the noble appearance, humility is the noble appearance, things return to the rich phase, and the relief of the heart is the rich phase."

working with a reliable person, everything is reassuring, everything is settled, and there is scenery everywhere.

with a reliable person, life can take many detours less, so life is more warm.

making a good friend is like reading a good book.

what kind of life you will have with the kind of person you are with.

the eight details shared by People's Daily will help you better screen out the people who are most worthy of deep acquaintance.

01

dress neatly, neatly and appropriately

from appearance to inside, from posture to soul, it is a necessary process for people to know each other.

A person's appearance reflects his attitude towards life and respect for others.

Li Jian, a music poet, no matter what environment he is in, always looks refreshed, wearing a simple white T-shirt or shirt, taking his time to sing a distant and pure song.

many people say that talking to Li Jian always feels comfortable, like the spring breeze blowing on his face, kind and warm.

Russell said a sentence:

"A person's appearance is the appearance of a person's value. It hides your self-disciplined life, as well as the life you are pursuing. "

people who dress neatly and have a decent image tend to take every little thing in life seriously and cherish their own life.

when you are with clean people, your heart will remain clear, and there will be sunshine along the way of life.

02

reply in time, respond to everything

what is the longest relationship between people?

agrees with one point of view:

feelings are mutual, one-way output can never get a long-term relationship, only respect each other, heart to heart, can go to the end.

truly down-to-earth and reliable people will not only be accountable for everything, but also give people unlimited sense of security.

A message is sent out and waits for effective feedback, not endless silence.

after a relationship is paid, what comes is the sincerity of reciprocity, not the perfunctory act of pretence.

can not be read back, it is a signal that a relationship is coming to an end, and a timely reply is the most sincere expression of one's feelings.

interacting with people and responding to everything is not only the most basic respect for people, but also the most basic self-cultivation.

A person's attitude towards replying to a message is the temperature of his behavior.

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keep your distance and not pry into people's privacy

writer Zhou Guoping wrote in his book:

"A sense of size is a sign of mature love. It knows how to abide by the necessary distance between people, which means respect for each other as an independent personality."

walking in the world, everyone has wounds that they do not want to reveal to outsiders, and everyone has secrets that they do not want to be known to others.

No matter how close the relationship is, you should keep a safe distance, be unreliable too close, and don't judge too much.

just as there is a word: ripeness is not out of line.

some people always like to pry into other people's privacy and interfere in other people's lives. In fact, they all "cross the line" and will make their feelings collapse sooner or later.

most of the real concern is silent, and the relationship that is comfortable with each other has a sense of proportion.

close to each other, close to each other for a long time.

04

be tolerant and open-minded, don't haggle

as the ancients said, "the great wise will be modest, and the great good will be tolerant."

A person who does not blame and is often considerate in the event of trouble is usually kind-hearted and naturally broad-minded.

when Su Shi was an official, he was framed by his former friend Zhang Dun many times.

after Huizong ascended the throne, Su Shi was pardoned. Zhang Dun's son, worried about Su Shi's revenge on his father, wrote a letter to plead for mercy.

Su Shi wrote back with the following sentence: "but in the past, it is even more beneficial, only if it has not happened."

then he asked someone to bring things to the sick Zhangton in the hope that he could take care of his health.

in any interpersonal relationship, the most valuable thing is "don't care about it", and the rarest thing is the big pattern of tolerance.

when people reach middle age, they associate with tolerant and open-minded people. They don't have to be careful in what they say, they don't need to tremble, and they get along with each other freely and calmly.

if you can tolerate me by a foot, I will respect you; if you treat each other with a generous heart, I will be able to meet you with a broad mind.

actions are not desperate, words do not go to extremes, reason is forgiving, and it will win the hearts of the people.

05

be good at listening and thinking about others

I don't know if you have the same experience:

tell your thoughts to the people around you, and before you have finished expressing your views, you are interrupted again and again, and then you are proved wrong with the "great truth" for convenience.

when getting together with old friends, there are always people who keep telling their own stories and just want to be the "protagonist" of the conversation, regardless of other people's feelings.

GucciThe Greek philosopher Socrates once said:

"God gives people two ears and two eyes, but only one bite. He wants to hear more and see more and speak less."

in many cases, no matter how much you say, it is not as good as listening quietly. No amount of skill is as good as sincerity when listening.

the most important part of a good way of communication is to think from the other person's point of view and understand each other's demands.

if you meet someone who listens to you patiently and always cares about your feelings, remember to cherish them.

06

respect differences, but be harmonious but different

Fitzgerald, author of the Great Gatsby, once said:

"keeping two completely opposite ideas at the same time and being able to act normally is a sign of first-rate wisdom."

the sign of a person's maturity is to respect differences and be harmonious but different.

do not use your own ruler to measure other people's lives, nor do you weigh other people's lives on your own Libra.

there are no two identical leaves in the world, let alone two people who are exactly the same. everyone has their own standards, and if they can't understand them, they should learn to respect them.

whether it's marriage or friendship, the best way to get along is to tolerate differences and accept the existence of different habits and values.

the more excellent a person is, the more he understands and respects other people's values.

when you associate with such a person, you will not feel bound. You can express your ideas freely and live confidently and freely.

to get close to such a person, you can emit your own light calmly, even if the light is faint, there is no need to worry about being blown out.

07

match words with deeds and keep promises

what kind of people are you most afraid of meeting in social situations?

the answer I have heard most is: double-dealing, back-to-back, promises are only announced in the mouth, but never in the heart.

in life, only by keeping one's promise and keeping one's promise can one win the trust of others.

as Yu Minhong said, "if a person has a good character, acts bluntly, and has no covert behavior, we can say that he is basically reliable in character."

those who think twice and don't talk big have a beginning and an end to everything.

those who are open and aboveboard and keep their words and deeds often stick to the bottom line.

hypocritical people use their mouths, sincere people use their hearts.

the human heart is unfathomable, and it is a great luck to work with a reliable person.

08

emotional stability, peace of mind

A few days ago, I saw a passage on the Internet and felt deeply:

"the older you are, the more you like to get along with people who are peaceful and gentle, feel the value of a peaceful life, and only want to be with people who talk well and are emotionally stable."

Don't be frightened because you may be pulled into the emotional trough by another person anytime, anywhere. "

stable mood and calm state of mind are the deepest self-cultivation of a gentle person.

people who are emotionally stable seldom complain and not only have enthusiasm for life, but also pass on this energy to the people around them.

people with peace of mind, no matter what setbacks they have experienced, can keep a positive and optimistic heart and continue to move forward bravely.

after being with them for a long time, you will find that life is full of vitality everywhere.

Life is not easy. Everyone who can make you laugh and bring you positive energy is a gift from God.

in the light of the sun, feel loved and loved, not trapped by grievances, will have more courage to face all the difficulties of the world.

the best way to keep healthy is to be with gentle people for the rest of your life.

09

writer Han Han once said:

"how far a person can go depends on who he is traveling with. How good a person is depends on who guides him. How successful a person is depends on who he is with."

people in this life, will meet all kinds of people, some can only accompany you forward, some can know each other for a lifetime.

when you are old, when you look back on this life, you will find that it is enough to have a reliable person by your side and go through ups and downs together.

, may everything you meet be good and your colleagues be best friends.