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in the 1990s, Hong Kong abounded in numerous beauties. They stunned the time and carried the memories of a generation.

among them, Ye Yunyi is a god-level existence.

she has the praise of "Barbie on Earth". She is smart in temperament, sweet and gorgeous. She is not only the heroine of Jackie Chan drama, but also the goddess adored by Lin Zhiying.

however, when she became famous when she was young, she made a wrong choice in life, which ruined her career and left her down and out for half her life.

now, 49-year-old Ye Yunyi has regained her former beauty and returned with a new identity, amazing everyone.

for so many years, what supported her to go through the ups and downs of life and realize the rebirth of Nirvana?

become famous when young, but become a "prisoner bird" in the besieged city

Ye Yunyi was born in Hong Kong in 1973.

although her family is ordinary, she is cheerful, smart and lovely from an early age. At the age of 13, she was accidentally discovered by talent scouts. From then on, she set foot in the entertainment industry and quickly became popular with her pure and sweet image.

in 1988, the film "Peacock Prince" starring Ye Yun-Yi became an overnight hit.

she was chosen by the audience as one of the "world's favorite actresses" and won the "most popular foreign actress award".

with her excellent performance, Ye Yunyi is also hot in China, and her partners are all A-list superstars.

starring Jackie Chan and Anita Mui in Miracle;

co-starring in "Blessing" with Zheng Yuling and Qin and Han dynasties;

cooperate with Andy Lau, Carina Lau and Aaron Kwok on the "Jiuyi God Eagle Swordsmen"....

Ye Yunyi has made great strides in the entertainment industry and has a bright future.

however, when she became famous when she was young, she would not have thought that her life would be completely changed by a man.

his name is Chen Baihao. He is a wealthy businessman and is known as the "toy king of Hong Kong".

Chen Baihao is young and promising and has a lot of wealth. Although there is no shortage of warblers, Ying Yanyan, she has a special affection for Ye Yunyi. She is not only gentle and considerate, but also creates romance.

20-year-old Ye Yunyi, under the fierce pursuit of the other side, began to let her guard down.

she once said that her greatest wish is to be a princess in the castle.

therefore, when she was held in the palm of her hand, she married without hesitation, and she gave up her heyday career and plunged into the marriage without hesitation.

on the wedding day, the stage was arranged like a fairy tale, and Ye Yunyi was the princess in the castle.

however, short-lived happiness is like fireworks, and the ending of fairy tales is not always beautiful.

until he gave birth to his second child, Chen Baihao finally revealed his true face, cast off his responsibilities and went his own way.

Ye Yun-Yi was caught in a dilemma because of her husband's infidelity, the difficulties of her parents-in-law, and the tiredness of parenting.

for a day's princess dream, she became a "canary" in the besieged city.

five years later, the marriage ended badly, but the tragedy did not end there.

Ye Yunyi, who took care of her two children alone after the divorce, is struggling to make ends meet.

A year later, Chen Baihao declared bankruptcy and the promised child support became a blank check.

for his own self-interest, Chen Baihao publicly slandered Ye Yunyi and exposed his privacy in front of the media.

overnight, word-of-mouth hit rock bottom.

lost his career, ended his marriage, experienced unforgettable pain, is the transformation of a broken cocoon into a butterfly.

she wrote on the paper: "the day finally came, and I didn't shed a single tear."

until now, she finally understood:

Women, instead of expecting others to build castles, should rely on their strength to crown themselves.

Don't decorate others, live as your own princess

people often say that it is true that marriage changes fate.

but in essence, it is not the marriage itself that changes fate, but the way people deal with it.

it is also a wealthy marriage, but some people live a completely different life, such as Guo Jingjing.

as a "clean stream" in a wealthy marriage, she is called a model of feminism.

when she first fell in love with Huo Qi, she made an agreement with three rules:

"Love can't take up training time; you can't go to the training ground to see her; you can't get married before you retire."

as an athlete, she never forgets to focus on winning the gold medal.

Love is sweet, but growth is more important.

because she understands that only when she continues to grow up can she have the strength to stick to her true colors.

she has never deliberately integrated into any circle, nor has she deliberately maintained any image. Dress simply and keep a low profile and go to the party without makeup.

even if she married into a wealthy family, Guo Jingjing still adhered to her internal order and was not kidnapped by the external environment.

by virtue of her personal strength, she won the respect of the Huo family and won her freedom in the rich family.

some people say that Guo Jingjing's happy marriage is sentimentally attached to God, but behind every bit of luck, she benefits from some characteristics of her own, such as self-improvement and self-reliance.The quality of self-responsibility.

as Carnegie said:

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independent woman

Sex itself has the ability to create happiness, and love is for her

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saying is just the icing on the cake

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Don't be someone else's decoration, no one's wife, always be yourself.

Ye Yunyi woke up to this point after several ups and downs of fate.

in 2015, Ye Yunyi published two or three things about them, thinking about life from her own story.

later, she went to Melbourne to study for a master of art and set up a personal art studio after returning home.

after losing weight, she regained her former beauty and returned to the public as a visual artist.

after running away for half her life and going through the vicissitudes of life, although she is no longer a young girl at that time, she has taken back the strength she once lost and found a new direction in life.

as people often say, a woman's integrity, noble spirit, and arrogance all come from the bottom.

and the strength is: who I leave, I am myself.

be responsible for yourself, embrace inner peace

once received a visiting woman who described her husband as a straight man of steel, complaining that her husband was indifferent and did not understand her needs. The two often had nothing to say and there was only endless pain in their marriage.

I asked her, "have you ever thought of doing something to change it?"

she wondered: "these are all his problems. Why should I change them?"

she is like a person with no way to go, trapped in a small space, unable to catch her breath.

so she began to put aside her accusations and look for a broader meaning of life.

when she has a job she loves, friends she likes, and a wide range of hobbies, looking back on her marriage, she doesn't seem to be as unbearable as she thought.

with the improvement of the relationship between husband and wife, she gradually realized that she actually hoped to show her pain to the people around her by "complaining" and further expected him to change.

but the reality is often disappointing. The outside world will not change easily, and people still have to do it on their own.

it is said that marriage is a woman's second life, but the ups and downs of fate and the joys and sorrows of life are ultimately up to you.

Jay Rifenberry, a famous orator, said:

"not making any excuses is a spirit of self-responsibility."

however, it is not easy to overthrow the old self and reshape the new self and embark on the return of self-responsibility:

first of all, take responsibility for your actions:

shirking responsibility is actually a kind of human instinct and a defensive way to avoid pain.

Freud and others have said:

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admitting mistakes means that we need to be punished and unbearable. And escape is the simplest and most direct way to stay away from pain.

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however, evasion does not make one's life really move into the future.

on the contrary, knowing who you really are, accepting your limitations, reasonably predicting the consequences of your actions before doing things, and not doing things beyond your control is the guarantee that a person can bear the consequences of his actions.

secondly, take responsibility for your choice:

Choice is the norm of life. Because a person's resources are limited, we have to make a choice.

but choices are often painful, because not everyone knows what they want the most.

in this regard, the book "five times" gives advice:

We need a self-created extreme situation, because the more extreme it is, the more likely people are to get close to the truth.

the specific method is:

Design a rehearsal for a memorial service for yourself. Suppose you stand at the end of your life to examine today's decisions. How would you like to write about your life?

which events do you want to choose and how do you want to fill them into this lifetime?

write down and list the things that are important to do even if you go back in time.

figure out the "priority of important affairs" so that people don't get lost before making a choice and dare to take it after making a choice.

finally, take responsibility for your own happiness:

growth is a self-correcting process in which no one has an obligation to be responsible for our happiness except ourselves.

Learning to be responsible for ourselves means that we finally have the courage to face up to and accept the truth of life.

when we decide to stop relying on others, passing the buck, letting go of our emotions, and leaving the joys and sorrows of our lives to others, we will be able to carry our lives and go our own way.

even if your lover leaves, you have to face your loneliness; even if you go through storms, you can have peace of mind.

like this sentence very much:

No matter what the future looks like, it is the result of our active choice.

do not expect, do not complain, hold the sovereignty of life in your own hands, is the best gift to yourself.

Hua Xiao Chao, source